Help need advice

[Midnight_Raven]

When is okay for a boyfriend and mate to have sex? me an my bf have been going 1 1/2 years starting next week. i dont know if i should sleep with him or not. I love him so much. please advise me blessed be

[Lavender]

You asked if you should sleep with him or not. If you ask this, it sounds like you're not quite comfortable with the idea yet. This may sound like an old cliche but if he truly loves you, he will wait until you're sure. Sex should not be just for the sake of having sex.

And if you decide you're ready...please, please, PLEASE make sure your boyfriend uses a condom!!!

[Adrenaline Junkie]

Wildchild summed it be quite nicely.

Please be responsible.

[flar7]

if you dont know, then its not time. It is not something that will go away, it will wait. When you know, you know.(God that sounds corny)

[Ball-Bhreac Ròn]

If it feels wrong, then it probably is wrong. That's my reckoning :)

[Margie]

Do what feels right to you (not to him or anybody else) Can't reitterate enought to BE SAFE and if you feel embarassed discussing protection with him-then you're not ready.

[Da Witch]

If you feel as though you are ready to have sex with your boyfriend then you are ready. Being ready to have sex means also that you are ready to talk with your boyfriend about birth control, safe sex, the possibility of pregnancy and sexually transmittable diseases. If you aren't ready to talk about those things then IMHO you aren't ready for sex.

[Margie]

Exactly!

[gunner]

what i taught my daughter when she was a teen age young woman was this:

him; "if you really love me you would"

her: "if you really loved me you wouldn't ask"

in this situation the risks are pretty much all on your side, pregnancy, and the all to present chance that, no matter what he says, when your tummy begins to swell and you're not fun anymore but responsibility he'll be long gone to peddle his story to some other girl. disease, which can range from annoying to leaving you sterile or even fatally ill. (and the consequences of sexually transmitted diseases are usually more severe for the woman than the man.) and if you do miss those there is the chance of heartbreak if/when he gets bored and goes astray looking for "new adventures" after you've given him the best you have. given that you came here to your friends to ask advice i'd suggest that in your own mind you're not ready for this and want to wait a while yet, and if he really, truely loves you he will wait. i did once, many years ago and i've never regretted it. we're still together today.

[Xois]

Hi

perhaps you should talk to your folks...(i get the impression that you are young). I could always talk to my mum and dad...I wish I would have more...

and if you aren't sure and are asking for advice here, I would think that maybe you should think about it more..

I had sex way to young and at 28 I regret it...these are only my life experiences...yours maybe vastly different...

[Midnight_Raven]

Thanxs everyone for ur advice. I did talk to him about sex and birth control he knows all that we shold talk about before having sex. i cant talk to my parents because they dont like me very much because i am wiccan thats why i came here. I think i will do it. i feel that i am ready. well thaks again for all ur help. pm sometime Blessed Be to all.

[Xander67]

i cant talk to my parents because they dont like me very much because i am wiccan

WTF!

that breaks my heart to hear that

what kind of parents would turn thier back on you when you need them the most...

if you need a friend we are all here!