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medit8ive_spirit
August 4th, 2005, 09:35 PM
My father passed away back in October of last year......he lived a long life, got to see all three of us get married, see the four grandkids....he had a heart attack within 24 hours of calling me to tell me he was coming out for a visit, because he had never been to NC before and wanted to see where I'd been living for so long......it really hit me hard then...and I thought that I had a lot of the hurt behind me....and just a little while ago, I was out here posting and having a good time....hubby had to leave to go take care of somethings....so I sat back down here to do some more posting....and I saw his picture that hangs on the wall near the computer....and I realized I had started crying.....I miss him so very much....my brothers and I found out only after he had passed, that he had been the recepient of a medal for helping to Liberate the Phillipines, back in the day...we knew he had been in WWII and the Korean war...but we never knew of the medal....he taught me respect of others and of nature and of heritage.....I know his spirit his with me....but I really am missing him so very much at the moment......

Shanti
August 4th, 2005, 09:38 PM
~hugs~ hon.

Teresa
August 4th, 2005, 09:40 PM
My father passed away back in October of last year......he lived a long life, got to see all three of us get married, see the four grandkids....he had a heart attack within 24 hours of calling me to tell me he was coming out for a visit, because he had never been to NC before and wanted to see where I'd been living for so long......it really hit me hard then...and I thought that I had a lot of the hurt behind me....and just a little while ago, I was out here posting and having a good time....hubby had to leave to go take care of somethings....so I sat back down here to do some more posting....and I saw his picture that hangs on the wall near the computer....and I realized I had started crying.....I miss him so very much....my brothers and I found out only after he had passed, that he had been the recepient of a medal for helping to Liberate the Phillipines, back in the day...we knew he had been in WWII and the Korean war...but we never knew of the medal....he taught me respect of others and of nature and of heritage.....I know his spirit his with me....but I really am missing him so very much at the moment......
:hugz: Send You energies! :hugz:

SSanf
August 4th, 2005, 09:49 PM
I am so sorry about the loss of your father. I wish there were something I could say to make it all better but there isn't.

You are having a normal reaction. The honest truth is you never do get over missing a deceased parent, spouse or child and wishing you could do things or say things that you didn't or un-do things you did. Their departure leaves an emptyness and longing that can never be filled or quite forgotten.

It has been many years since my own blessed mother passed over and yeasteday I suddenly missed her like you wouldn't believe. I know she felt the same when her mother passed. She missed her own mother until her dying day.

It is very sad. But, it is just one of those things we all must bear and live with. Being able to love someone with our whole hearts and miss them deeply when they are gone is part of what makes us human and what makes us good people.

Don't try to supress those feelings or get over them. When they come, and they will, just ride them out. Cry when you want to.

Dear, I would be a lot more worried about you if you were NOT having this reaction from time to time. It is confirmation that you have the capacity to love and to love well. That is a good thing.

QUEEN OF THE DAMNED
August 4th, 2005, 09:53 PM
:hugz: I wish I knew the words to say, but it is nice to remember the ones we love and even though they have moved on we know their memories will never fade in our minds, and thinking of them only makes those memories and the love stronger. :hugz:

MerryBe
August 4th, 2005, 09:57 PM
My father passed away back in October of last year......he lived a long life, got to see all three of us get married, see the four grandkids....he had a heart attack within 24 hours of calling me to tell me he was coming out for a visit, because he had never been to NC before and wanted to see where I'd been living for so long......it really hit me hard then...and I thought that I had a lot of the hurt behind me....and just a little while ago, I was out here posting and having a good time....hubby had to leave to go take care of somethings....so I sat back down here to do some more posting....and I saw his picture that hangs on the wall near the computer....and I realized I had started crying.....I miss him so very much....my brothers and I found out only after he had passed, that he had been the recepient of a medal for helping to Liberate the Phillipines, back in the day...we knew he had been in WWII and the Korean war...but we never knew of the medal....he taught me respect of others and of nature and of heritage.....I know his spirit his with me....but I really am missing him so very much at the moment......


Sending some energy for strength and healing. I certainly do understand mine passed away back in 1986. He too served in Korea. I still get my moments now and then. But I will always love and miss him.
It takes time my friend.
Hugs and take my shoulder whenever you need it.

Blessings,
Merry

Ishtara
August 5th, 2005, 12:38 AM
:hugz:

Sending you lots of hugs and positive energy.

My father passed away two years ago at age 58. I am now mostly at the stage where I remember only the good things and I often smile when I think of him. And yet, sometimes, maybe three or four times a year, his absence just becomes unbearable. A few weeks ago, I remember bursting into tears as I was about to fall asleep and saying out loud "Please, please, I just want to talk to my dad... I need my dad!" Sometimes the pain is too much to keep inside of me and I just need to voice it.

I will pray to Nebt-Het (Nephytys) that your pain eases off soon. It will never completely go away, but it is possible to live with it and to find comfort in honouring the memory of your dearly departeds :hugz:

BlackMagicalCat
August 5th, 2005, 10:13 AM
Bless your heart,Prayers sent to you for your great love for your father.May the heavens smile upon you.

goblinhill
August 5th, 2005, 05:29 PM
Lots of :hugz: for you.

LadyTrinity
August 5th, 2005, 05:31 PM
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AuroraSilvermist
August 5th, 2005, 05:33 PM
Aaaw, huge :hugz:s for you. I know how you feel. My grandpa was like a father to me and I still miss him very much. I know just what those sad moments feel like.

More :hugz:s!

AutumnRose_43725
August 5th, 2005, 06:43 PM
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers........