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[Pheonix]

Sorry just need to rant and this seems like the right thread to do it in. My two year is driving me nuts! He's suddenly decided to talk, it took so long that i was making specialist appointment for him and now boom he's never quiet! And it's never i love you mommy or something sweet like in those commercials, It's i want a drink, I want candy,nooo- followed by spitting at me. I know he thinks this is just all cute behavior but it's driving me insane! And my one yaer old is suddenly so big, she can say no as well and walk and everything else! What happened to my sweet little cherubs( they are still adorable)

Sorry, anyways just had a very taxing day followed by them getting up a few minutes ago screaming and fighting with each other even though it is almost 1:30 am here.

I do love my children dearly, just wanted to get that out of me.

[Lavender]

I think we need a 'mommy' room. Kid-free. Somedays are like that! :)

[Kadynas]

I feel for you...my 2 year old brother's just as bad. Terribles Twos isn't just a cliche. And my bro won't even talk. He understands everything you say and he'll nod yes or no, but when he wants something he'll just point and grunt. If you tell him not to do something, he will promptly emit the loudest shriek known to man, like a very loud cuckoo clock! Then he starts hitting whatever's close to him... But when he's good he's like a cherub angel, so sweet and cute...As long as he takes a nap he's fine til you tell him No! :lol:

[Pheonix]

That is exactly the stage my son was/is going through. Up until a couple of weeks ago he would point and grunt, all the time and I knew he understood what was being said, you just mention something to anybody outloud and he's gone and got it, from salt to my tarot cards to where his sister hid his bottle! Of course that was then, when he still liked to help mommy now on the other hand...

. My husband is very suportive but he just doesn't understand, jow could he our children only ask him for things if I'm lying in bed with the flu and even then they try to ask me at least once first.

And i agree we need a mommy room,every household needs one

Thanks guys, for letting me rant, sometimes everything just overwhelms me.:)

Grateful hugs to you both,
Pheonix

[Yvonne Belisle]

I have 4 kids ages 12, 11, 10, and 4 so I know what you are going through. My schedual is set so that the baby stays up as late as he wants so I can sleep in when the older ones are at school. I am normally up from 12noon to 8am. This schedual alows me quiet time that is just for me and lots of time for my family. I am trying to work in a nap because it is also very draining. My two older children are boys with ADHD (attention defficet hyperactivity disorder) so it can get very lively and up till he was 3 and my currect husband stepped in my 4 year old would not speak and did the shreak grunt and point thing. He had no need to speak with so many of us he pointed and we ran to fetch.:( So should you ever feel the need to vent about your frustrations this is a perfect forum to vent in. Maybe someone will have even been there and been lucky enough to hit on a solution you never know. So go ahead and vent we understand.

[blithespirit]

{{{hugs}}}

I'm right along with ya...my 22 month old decided to start his 2's a little early. When we tell him no, it's like talking to a brick wall, but when he doesn't want to do something, he knows exactly what no means, and has no qualms about telling us! His big thing now is the diaper-gonna have to start potty training soon, because he will NOT keep it on unless we throw pants on over it. And, when I change him, as soon as the old diaper is off, he's up and running. Normally this wouldn't be so bad, but seeing as I'm 9 months pregnant (due Tuesday!!!) I can't chase him as well as I'd like. *sigh* Oh well. We will survive. :)

[Pheonix]

Thanks, life doesn't seem so bad when you know that you are not alone. Good luck with your next child, do you know if it's a boy or a girl? I have one of each and am pretty young so I have no plans on having any more. But I do love my children greatly.
Today is a much better day, yes my one year old cranky because she has four teeth coming in, and My son is getting into everything but he made up for it all today by giving me a pillow when i said that I wanted to take a nap and then trying to cover me with his blanket.
I know how silly it is that such little things mean so much, but what can I say I am a sap.
Thanks everybody, I'll always have an open ear to anyone else who needs to rant, and Yvonne try rpg video games. It actually makes them think rather then just mindless violence and it's the one thing that can hold my little brothers attention who also has ADHD.:)

Lots of smiles and hugs, not to mention coffee,
Pheonix

[Margie]

I have a 3 year old and a 5 1/2 month old I understand needing mommy time! We're usually home all day-no car, no TV and uncreative boring mommy that I am. I just get so frazzled sometimes I just have to put the 3 year old in her room to play, lay the baby in her crib and just let them cry before I pull my hair out...I'm kinda feeling like that right now. It's ok to feel that way. {{HUGS}} to everybody.

[Yvonne Belisle]

I love RPG's that's one of the ways I keep from hitting my kids when things get bad. I name each of the characters in my party after them then go out to get them killed. I hate losing games so by the end of the game I am rooting for the kids and have gotten out my anger and agression I got to kill stuff! For me it works like a charm and the kids settle down to cheer on thier characters without ever knowing I wanted them to lose when I started.

[Margie]

LOL-cool idea you got there!

[Pheonix]

lol yvonne, though I meant for the kids! I love rpgs too! In fact if I don't stop discovering online games my kids are going to kill me.
And don't worry margie I'm uncreative to, I'll tell you the name of an excellent book I have with activities for toddlers and preschoolers if I ever find where I put it. I use it when ever I feel Mary Poppinish. If only I knew where I put it or could remeber the title, it's something like the preschoolers busy book.... It doesn't take to much effort and keeps them busy( I have no tv to so thats why i discovered it)
We're getting a web camera in a couple of weeks so soon I'll post a picture of my little darlings and my self in the photos thread. I'ts to bad my little girl is getting more teeth, she used to just have her two canines in, which was adorable and always made me laugh. Talk to everyone soon.
Hugs and rants,
Pheonix:)

[Angelwulfe]

looks like i've got alot to look forward to. not! i can always hope my babys going to be a perfect little angel but then theres reality. lol:D :)

[Pheonix]

Don't worry, just send them to granny or a friends for a day or 2 when you really can't handle it anymore and by the time they get back all you'll be able to do is think how adorable they are and how much you missed them.
I swear it's Gaia's little trick, just like though you remember the pain of child birth, but some how it fades away and starts to seem unreal after a few months. lol
And I've got to say again how happy i am for you guys.

[Angelwulfe]

thanks pheonix, thing is grandma and grandpa don't know yet and we're freaking out on how we're going to break the news so to speak.

[Alphyna]

Ahhhhhh......oh it is nice to find you all! My two year old (plus 2 mths) is a wonderful little person, but he throws outrageous fits when it is bedtime, screaming and kicking, sounding as if we are beating him! Dad is the one who has to put him to bed, (we have a new addition to our family, Autumn who was born on the 5th of November) b/c I have to stay with her.
Our son screams for me repeatedly and it breaks my heart, and angers me at the same time. I have tried going in there to console him, but then he sees it as an opportunity to play.......that's when I get upset with him, but then I think well, he's only 2......but he is 2.....I just want to pull my hair out. And my poor husband........he's the one who actually stays with him, and last night, Ezrah woke up at 12, and did not go to sleep until 5......Other than this behavior, he's failry good. He is defiant at times, but that's normal. We just can't handle his night time tantrums.
Oh, and does anyone have good tips on getting potty training kids to poop in the toilet? Ezrah won't, he still goes in his pull ups, and we can't handle the process of changing them...yech!

[Pheonix]

sorry no idea, especially not for boys, I'm having better luck potty training with my one year daughter than my two year old son! When I do get him to go I use praise, things like telling him how proud I am of him and stuff like that, but really he only goes when he wants to. I tried the treat thing to, but then started having nightmares about cooking potty cookies for the rest of my life and quit that immediately! lol good luck. Your in the right forum, this place is filled with great moms which are always inspiring me.
Brightest Blessings,
Pheonix

[Yvonne Belisle]

I know a lot of people go yuck but we just left the bathroom door open whenever we were in there and bought really cool underware for them. Told them it was a shame they weren't a big boy yet so they could wear them only big boys could. That worked like a charm. As for the night tantrums a large part of that may be the new baby. I tried to set aside special time that was just for each kid with both me and my hubbie. You may want to go in kiss him good night then tell him that it's his daddy's turn to be with him give him a stuffed animal that you sleep with for a few days tell him that it is there while you elsewhere so it can watch over him too. It's worth a shot. :)

[Sequoia]

I like your ideas, Yvonne!!

Something my mom did for my nephew when he needed to be potty trained. He came over to spend about a week with her, and she let him run around inside nudy-butt. She left the bathroom door open, and whenever he had to go to the bathroom, they'd toss a rose petal in the toilet for him to "shoot at." ^^; it sounds kinda rediculous, but it turns it into a game for them. And hey, maybe if more guys did that there'd be less wet toilet seats! I know you can also buy little toy floating targets instead of rose petals hehe. Whatever works. And if they're butt naked, they're not going to go in the living room or something (are they?)

[shadedealer]

Originally posted by Alphyna

(Oh, and does anyone have good tips on getting potty training kids to poop in the toilet? Ezrah won't, he still goes in his pull ups, and we can't handle the process of changing them...yech!]


Hi, I have two sons, one grown the other 14…but I still remember those days. I tried everything humane I heard of to potty break my oldest. What worked was the big boy underwear. We made a big deal over them put them where he could get them his self and simple told him we were tired of playing teach him to use the toilet that when he was ready to start acting like a big boy to help his self. With in a week he stopped soiling his self.
I had grown lazy by the time my second son came around, with him I just let him be until it became clear he was at the point where he didn’t like to be soiled. Then again I went with the big boy underwear, easy accessible to him. He too completely stopped soiling his self in a week.
From what I have seen with my extended family most of the potty training nightmare can be simply avoided by waiting until the child is showing clear signs that they are ready.
What a rough time it can be… best of luck to all you young Mom.

Shadedealer

[Alphyna]

Thank you all for all of your help! I am pleased to tell you all that our son is now trained! He is 2 1/4 and we are so proud of him! Now it is on to the ABC's and 123's! So far so good!
Blessings, Alphyna