What am I going to do?

[willowfairy]

I did the worst thing today. There's this guy that's liked me a lot for a long time. I told him in a joking manner that if he pierced his nipple (long story) I would be his girlfriend. He didn't do it all the way, but he sorta did, and when I told him I still wouldn't go out with him he got upset and said a lot of mean things. I hate it when people are mad at me and hate, so I said yes. It couldn't hurt, right? I couldn't be more wrong. Now I'm scared to talk to him cause he keeps asking me my 'personal boundries', which is sweet, but it makes me want to cry because I wouldn't ever even want to hold his hand. I don't want a serious relationship because I can't get 'serious' about anybody. And I don't want him as my boyfriend, but how am I supposed to tell him?

I messed up big time.

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[Dellit Tandannon]

speaking as a guy, the best way to do it is to tell him straight out as soon as possible. it will make it a lot easier for him to deal with as opposed to you leading him on.

[UnSolon]

Also speaking from a guys point of view... if a girl told me she would only go out with me if I did something to myself, I would probably take it to mean that she didnt really want to go out.

I'd tell him, that your touched he pierced his nipple for you, but that you had been trying to tell him that you wernt intersted. But you might as well go out on a DATE with him, that does not mean, in any way, shape, or form, that you want to go OUT with him (is the distingtion between a date/going out clear?). After all he did pierce his nipple for you... lol *shivers at thought.

I know lots of people with nipple piercings, girls and guys alike, and while I myself have had my tounge pierced for years, I'll pass on my nipple, thank you very much.

Peace

[Myst]

You don't have to date anyone you don't want to, and it's not your fault the guy took your joke literally. I know I have made a lot of jokes with my guy (and girl, for that matter) friends and they were just that - jokes. Let him know you were just kidding, you're sorry for the mistake, but you think of him as a friend. Maybe give him some time to cool off. But then, if he blows up at you for a joke he misunderstood thank Goddess you didn't date him.

[willowfairy]

Thanks guys. I've calmed down quite a bit and I know know exactly what I'm going to say to him. :)

[SimplyStrange]

Good good. My advice:

Tell him as soon as possible. It'll hurt a lot more if you lead him to believe that you really like him and that you want to be with him rather than telling him you don't really like him like that.

[Starlight]

I don't have any words of advice ....but good luck with it all anyway! :thumbsup:

[Ball-Bhreac Ròn]

"ditto ;) "

[willowfairy]

He didn't take it very well..... But he'll come around. All is well. :)

[Xander67]

well the main thing is you told him the truth and he will just have to get over it, LOL

better to know the truth now than to find out a month from now :)

and myst is right,
you dont have to date anyone you dont want to

dont let anyone trick you into going out with them, (mind games)