Ever feel this way?

[Sowelu]

I have noticed more and more lately that I am becoming less of a people person.
I am not nearly as outgoing as I once was. I do not like going in to town because that means surrounding myself with "other" people. I have always been a bit of an introvert but lately it has gotten worse!
I'm not a snobby stuck up person. I do smile....I'm respectful~ I don't hate people...I just don't want to be near them.
I have no desire to make any new rl friends. I have a few friends IRL (whom I rarely see) and many here. I wish I could move somewhere where my closest neighbors are several blocks away. I'm best at home in the woods somewhere or down on the property with my animals...playing fetch with the dogs...talking with my birds...being at home with family but that's it!
Jeez!:whatgives
Is there anyone else who feels this way?

[argento_occhi]

Yep, I know how you feel. I've never been all that outgoing either, but I'd rather not be with people, especially ones I don't know all that well. If I was planning a birthday party type thing, I'd have my 3 or 4 closest friends over and we'd have drinks and watch DVDs. I don't like being with big groups of people. I don't like going out to clubs. I'd rather stay at home and read a book, or I don't know, be with myself. People I'm not good with.

It's not that I don't care. I do. I care a lot. It's just I don't want to deal with people. I'v just started a new course at uni, and even though we're three weeks into semester, I don't know anyone in my classes except for three in Stats and that's only because I knew them before I switched degrees. And, frankly, I have no desire to get to know any of them. And my lab tutor sucks. I want to -- I don't know -- smash his face in or something. I hate people with a superiority complex like him, thinks he's so much better than us first years.

Eh, sorry, this kinda turned into a rant, didn't it? :foh:

Er, yeah. I agree with you. (That's the short answer)

Argent

[Gareth]

All the time!
I never liked to go to public functions.
I didn't even like going to the store because I didn't want to even look at other people.
So I had no friends IRL!

Although I had to get over it.
I was becoming more of a hermit in my own house!
So I became a member of a coven in which my wife is a founder.
This coven seemed to work for me.
I've made some friends that I can actually trust!

Although I do understand how you feel, it really isn't good.

So get off your high horse. :) You Xenophobic fool! :lol:

[Sowelu]

Although I do understand how you feel, it really isn't good.

So get off your high horse. :) You Xenophobic fool! :lol:

Ya know G...you are loooonnng overdue for an ass whippin'!:veryweird
(an' when I'm done you have to return the favor)

I agree that it's not good though!

[Nighthawk]

YUp.. all the time. I love to email people.. even friends in real life, but don't really like to see them all that much. I keep in touch, but I am wayyyy out of touch.

[CoolJ]

I don't really intend on socializing but do anyway... there's one person in the world I wish wouldn't be so out of touch..

[BlackMagicalCat]

Bless your heart ,Ill always be your friend,and so will God,we both love you.

I dont have a lot of friends either,but im going somewhere tonight and make some,but im really nervous,and have to get up the nerve to go.

May the heavens and those who dwell there send you favor,blessings to you and your family.

[Lewen]

I have noticed more and more lately that I am becoming less of a people person.
I am not nearly as outgoing as I once was. I do not like going in to town because that means surrounding myself with "other" people. I have always been a bit of an introvert but lately it has gotten worse!
I'm not a snobby stuck up person. I do smile....I'm respectful~ I don't hate people...I just don't want to be near them.
I have no desire to make any new rl friends. I have a few friends IRL (whom I rarely see) and many here. I wish I could move somewhere where my closest neighbors are several blocks away. I'm best at home in the woods somewhere or down on the property with my animals...playing fetch with the dogs...talking with my birds...being at home with family but that's it!
Jeez!:whatgives
Is there anyone else who feels this way?

*raises hand and jumps up and down excitedly* I do!!! I do!!!!
I have found that since my second divorce I have a great desire to just spend time doing things for me for a change (and not in a selfish way) I'm fixing to start college in the Fall and I want to just raise my kids and play with my kittens and just "be" for a change.
I don't see anything wrong with it, if it's done in balance on my part. I like being alone. I like being me. I like my woods (when I can get to it).
:hugz:

[Gareth]

Ya know G...you are loooonnng overdue for an ass whippin'!
(an' when I'm done you have to return the favor)



Oh yeah? :heybaby:

Bring it sister!

[Sowelu]

Bless your heart ,Ill always be your friend,and so will God,we both love you.

I dont have a lot of friends either,but im going somewhere tonight and make some,but im really nervous,and have to get up the nerve to go.

May the heavens and those who dwell there send you favor,blessings to you and your family.


Thank You!!!
Preeeeetty Picture!!!!:hugz:

[Sowelu]

*raises hand and jumps up and down excitedly* I do!!! I do!!!!
I have found that since my second divorce I have a great desire to just spend time doing things for me for a change (and not in a selfish way) I'm fixing to start college in the Fall and I want to just raise my kids and play with my kittens and just "be" for a change.
I don't see anything wrong with it, if it's done in balance on my part. I like being alone. I like being me. I like my woods (when I can get to it).
:hugz:


Sounds good to me sis!!!! :smoochypo

[Sowelu]

Oh yeah? :heybaby:

Bring it sister!

_wedgie_ You'll be pullin' them out for WEEKS!!!!!

[Sowelu]

Yep, I know how you feel. I've never been all that outgoing either, but I'd rather not be with people, especially ones I don't know all that well. If I was planning a birthday party type thing, I'd have my 3 or 4 closest friends over and we'd have drinks and watch DVDs. I don't like being with big groups of people. I don't like going out to clubs. I'd rather stay at home and read a book, or I don't know, be with myself. People I'm not good with.

It's not that I don't care. I do. I care a lot. It's just I don't want to deal with people. I'v just started a new course at uni, and even though we're three weeks into semester, I don't know anyone in my classes except for three in Stats and that's only because I knew them before I switched degrees. And, frankly, I have no desire to get to know any of them. And my lab tutor sucks. I want to -- I don't know -- smash his face in or something. I hate people with a superiority complex like him, thinks he's so much better than us first years.

Eh, sorry, this kinda turned into a rant, didn't it? :foh:

Er, yeah. I agree with you. (That's the short answer)

Argent

ugh! People with "hollier than thou" attitudes suck!:mad:

[Haruka2077]

I go through cycles like that where I just sort of withdraw. Not in a bad way, just to have some alone time. Then I don't feel like being around people- they sort of grate on me. I call it my "hiding in a corner with a book" phase. Then sometimes I'm really outgoing for a bit. I generally regret it later, though. *chuckle*

[argento_occhi]

ugh! People with "hollier than thou" attitudes suck!

That they do. Maybe it's the way he looks down his nose at us. Eh, I'll stop ranting on about him. I'm sure no one's interested.

Argent

[Etoile]

Yep. I don't hate people, but I definitely like to have alone time. I hate crowds and loud places. I'd much rather take a walk by myself on the trails around here. Don't get me wrong, I do plenty of social things, I just need a break sometimes.

[Goddess Rhiannon]

I feel the same way all the time....wish I could just hide under a rock sometime...but than again...I would miss so much.....like the corpse bride....lol

[Luminessence]

I've always been like that. I have friends, and I enjoy talking to them, but I prefer to be alone most of the time. When I was a kid, I would go weeks without inviting a friend over, because I just wouldn't think of it. And being around people for more than a few hours exhausts me, as does being in crowds.


Although I do understand how you feel, it really isn't good.

I don't think it's bad - unless, of course, you feel like it's unhealthy for you. (And make sure it's a feeling based on what's inside you, not based on what the world says you should be like.) I'm happy being an extremely introverted person. It's the way I am, and I don't think it's harmed me in any way.

[ravenmyst]

I have never been a people person, I call myself a reluctant people person, have to for work, but thats it folks!!!! but that isnt gonna stop me from visiting you when I move sis, lol

[Kalika]

I just don't like to deal with all of the.... crap... for lack of a better word. :)

[Catiana]

I don't like being around people at all. The only place I talk to anyone is at work and the store (its hard to avoid talking to the cashier) and I try to keep that at a minimum, otherwise I avoid contact with people as much as possible.

[Mistress_Ravenshadow]

I've always been on the anti-social side but of late I tend to be worse.. before i would chat on yahoo,msn or in pogo, in fact I met my husband on pogo but now I hardly ever talk to anyone on them anymore.. I have a small circle of rl friends that i see..
the drama and constant bs that some people bring on themselves just sucks the life out of me.. i find myself less and less tolerant of people like this..
I know this stems from how i was raised and my experiences with stupid people over the years but then I have always been the kind of person who can entertain themselves, I don't need others around to enjoy myself..I am quite happy with my own company
as a teen if I was ever in a large group of people I was usually off to the side quietly observing or chatting with my close friends.. I am quite capable of holding the spotlight, being the life of the party however it is not my preferred niche.. I prefer anonymity

[~Anamorata~]

Just with certain people I am...wonder why? I like my dogs better...bah. ;)

[MsFireHaven]

Agoraphobia.....I feel like that all the time! :rubhead:

[luna rising]

I can barely go anywhere anymore. It seems like all I see are people being rude and inconsiderate to one another. Walmart sends me into anxiety fits, and the grocery makes me lose my temper. I thought it was just because I am getting old. ;)

I don't have any friends. I have my boyfriend, and that's it. A few old friends that I email, but we never hang out anymore. Sometimes I get lonely and sad, but it passes. In general I think I like being alone.

[Sowelu]

Agoraphobia.....I feel like that all the time! :rubhead:

Ah! That's what it's called. I was wondering what the word was.:hehehehe:

[phoenixblayze]

hi there, i understand completely where you are coming from. i had the same situation,but it was more severe. i actually have soical anxiety disorder. but im medicated, so now i can go into public w/out freaking out, but im stll not a social butterfly, i just have a circle of close friends

[Penthesilea]

I'm the same way but it's from bad experiences. I tried to put myself out there & be sociable but I can't deal with the 2 faced stepford wives in the community I live in. My eldest daughter is a very high functioning autistic (aspergers syndrome), very very intelligent I.Q. 148 at 9 years old. Her social skills are behind but she is such a kind hearted child, sees only the good & beauty in everyone. She's not in any certain group at school because she is incapable of turning her back on anyone who is'nt in a certain group. Well, anyway, people said she was the way she was because I did drugs whilst I was pregnant!!!!!!!! WTF!?!? I'm a very confident person, not scared to speak my mind & also I was raised in one of the roughest neighborhoods in Detroit, all these women are from the suburbs & seem to think they are of a better class than I am.I guess if you lived in a ghetto, you certainly must do drugs. After that, I am done trying to be sociable. To be so nasty to me, that's fine but to look down on my uniquely loving child, could drive me to violence. I swear, my little Katie is the reincarnation of Mother Theresa & Ghandi. Sometimes I wish she would be little obnoxious, bus she says "Mama, that is a violent act , I can't, I'm a kind girl". The only time she will get forceful about her point of view is when it comes to religion, she freaks out the Bible thumpers who come to our door. " I've never spent a day in a christian church & I am a good person, my church is out in nature with The Great Spirit" Wears her pentagram with pride & will debate with anyone about religion. Can't wait to see what sort of women she turns into. I'm antisocial now , it's a shame but with the world we live in now, I think it's the safest choice. I wont allow anyone to hurt me & especially my children anymore. Sorry about the rant. :bigredblu :bigredblu :hugz: to you and your special girl. Guard her carefully, Middle School could destroy her spirit.

I find myself wanting more and more to plunk myself and my family down in the middle of about 1000 acres, put up a really high wall and only coming out when we have to. Cruelity, backstabbing and betrayals major and minor seem to be Standard Operating Procedure in the world today and I'm rapidly getting to my limit. My faith in the Gods is the only thing that keeps me going.....

[Lunacie]

I prefer to spend most of my time alone, but I get really lonely when there's no one around. What a mess of contradictions, eh?

[Childof_theMorrigan]

i really don't like to be around people I dont know... I like my comfort level of family and close friends... I don't do much for clubbin anymore, I'd rather invite my close friends over and have a few beers on the porch on a nice night.

I generally dislike most people and apparently they generally dislike me.

I guess I have an air of disdain about me or somethin.

[Sowelu]

I'd rather invite my close friends over and have a few beers on the porch on a nice night.


Same here! To me it's much better!!!!!:hugz:

[Childof_theMorrigan]

Same here! To me it's much better!!!!!:hugz:


and cheaper to boot! and you can play your own choices of music.... or jam out on your own instruments which we periodically do... and sing.... it's a regular camp fire night without the campfire!

[Karma Chameleon]

I have noticed more and more lately that I am becoming less of a people person.
I am not nearly as outgoing as I once was. I do not like going in to town because that means surrounding myself with "other" people. I have always been a bit of an introvert but lately it has gotten worse!
I'm not a snobby stuck up person. I do smile....I'm respectful~ I don't hate people...I just don't want to be near them.
I have no desire to make any new rl friends. I have a few friends IRL (whom I rarely see) and many here. I wish I could move somewhere where my closest neighbors are several blocks away. I'm best at home in the woods somewhere or down on the property with my animals...playing fetch with the dogs...talking with my birds...being at home with family but that's it!
Jeez!:whatgives
Is there anyone else who feels this way?


I feel like that all the time.

[*Rain*]

I get like that too. Only last week I was planning on moving to the middle of a great big field and never talking to anyone ever again.

[WynterWynd]

I have noticed more and more lately that I am becoming less of a people person.
I am not nearly as outgoing as I once was. I do not like going in to town because that means surrounding myself with "other" people. I have always been a bit of an introvert but lately it has gotten worse!
I'm not a snobby stuck up person. I do smile....I'm respectful~ I don't hate people...I just don't want to be near them.
I have no desire to make any new rl friends. I have a few friends IRL (whom I rarely see) and many here. I wish I could move somewhere where my closest neighbors are several blocks away. I'm best at home in the woods somewhere or down on the property with my animals...playing fetch with the dogs...talking with my birds...being at home with family but that's it!
Jeez!:whatgives
Is there anyone else who feels this way?

Oh yeah, I feel that way a lot!
I hate to go shopping. I detest going into a mall:bug: And getting confronted with an aquaintance (you know the type...you've seen them before, thats about it) who all of a sudden wants to talk?!?! Ahhhhhhhh:yikess:
But I can't be cooped up in the house either:shaker: Give me a mountain or a beach and my hubby and kids (and internet:lol: ) and I'm a happy camper:abbed:

[Rainstorme]

I have noticed more and more lately that I am becoming less of a people person.
I am not nearly as outgoing as I once was. I do not like going in to town because that means surrounding myself with "other" people. I have always been a bit of an introvert but lately it has gotten worse!
I'm not a snobby stuck up person. I do smile....I'm respectful~ I don't hate people...I just don't want to be near them.
I have no desire to make any new rl friends. I have a few friends IRL (whom I rarely see) and many here. I wish I could move somewhere where my closest neighbors are several blocks away. I'm best at home in the woods somewhere or down on the property with my animals...playing fetch with the dogs...talking with my birds...being at home with family but that's it!
Jeez!:whatgives
Is there anyone else who feels this way?


I'm going through the exact same thing right now...I have like 3 friends. One of them being my boyfriend. When one of the other 2 calls and wants to do something I never want to go out and do anything. I'd rather sit home on my computer talking to everyone on here or just be by myself reading, or anything....I've also noticed lately that I physically CANNOT go out by myself...
I went to a fast food restaurant the other day and went inside to order. Got myfood and sat down. Looked up and a group of people was coming through the door. I sat there thinking OMGS pleeeeeze dont sit anywhere near me. And they did,,,sat right by me and I just got up and left. Dont know why, but I cant stand to be around people I dont know if I'm by myself....Maybe I'm just crazy, but I'm not really into people these days. If you ever wanna chat I'm always on after work :)

[Jenne]

I feel this way at periods when I've been overwhelmed for too long, or am in a rut. And I just have to snap out of it and find balance again. I'm always striving for balance--but since I'm a moody Cancer, I rarely achieve it!

:hugz: to you mang! :D

[Jenne]

i really don't like to be around people I dont know... I like my comfort level of family and close friends... I don't do much for clubbin anymore, I'd rather invite my close friends over and have a few beers on the porch on a nice night.

I generally dislike most people and apparently they generally dislike me.

I guess I have an air of disdain about me or somethin.

Dude, you're my kind a friend! :D I totally love to just kick back and hang, and I totally have a permanent look of WTF, lol (or something that turns people off, lmao).

[Semele]

I go through cycles like that where I just sort of withdraw. Not in a bad way, just to have some alone time. Then I don't feel like being around people- they sort of grate on me. I call it my "hiding in a corner with a book" phase. Then sometimes I'm really outgoing for a bit. I generally regret it later, though. *chuckle*

I guess I kind of do this as well. Although more often than not, I want to be surrounded by people or at least another person. I swing back and forth to to varying degrees and some days like today I could be a complete hermit and would be ok if there were no other people in the immediate vacinity for me to have to interact with in person. It is not that I don't enjoy them, I just would like time to entertain my own thoughts without letting those of the folks around me pop in and out if that makes any sense.

I don't think it is unusual at all to want to get away occasionally Sowelu. I know people who would prefer it that way most of the time and that is ok as well. We all have our comfort zones. The key is being ok with them ourselves I think. Mine just keeps changing day to day.

The craziest thing just occured to me as I sit here writing this. I am in fact, alone in the room because I told Mol and Brandin I wanted 30 minutes or so to just read the forum and respond without having to filter out the girls screaming and Trey telling me about his games and them fighting amongst themselves and Mol and Brandin asking me to look at their paintings and whatnot. I just wanted to see what was going on in the community and let my mind relax and read because I miss the times I used to respond to posts when the girls were napping and Trey was in school. When you don't have time without constant interaction you miss it. Yet, I know ten years from now, I will be sitting here (or somewhere) all alone in a quiet room thinking "I wish thie kids, Van and Brandin were here to talk to." The quiet time to reflect and write will seem so non important and the pictures of them today will bring tears to my eyes and I will long to touch their little chubby baby faces again and hold them in my lap when they would still let me. There will be plenty of time to reflect later I suppose eh? Who cares if I will be too old and senile to form a coherent thought!

Sorry, I got little sidetracked, but, yeah..I do sometimes want to be a hermit type but only so I can write about my wonderful family that completes my spirit.:nyah:

[QUEEN OF THE DAMNED]

I have noticed more and more lately that I am becoming less of a people person.
I am not nearly as outgoing as I once was. I do not like going in to town because that means surrounding myself with "other" people. I have always been a bit of an introvert but lately it has gotten worse!
I'm not a snobby stuck up person. I do smile....I'm respectful~ I don't hate people...I just don't want to be near them.
I have no desire to make any new rl friends. I have a few friends IRL (whom I rarely see) and many here. I wish I could move somewhere where my closest neighbors are several blocks away. I'm best at home in the woods somewhere or down on the property with my animals...playing fetch with the dogs...talking with my birds...being at home with family but that's it!
Jeez!:whatgives
Is there anyone else who feels this way?

I've been getting like that lately too. I've always been very extroverted in general, but lately I have felt myself withdrawing. People in general dont really understand me at all until they've known me for a long time, and once I get to know alot of people I wish I hadn't. I think I'm drawn to or just meeting the wrong kinds of people. I share no interests with them. But I am a very odd little cookie so who can blame them ;) :smooch:

[WokeUpDead]

I feel like that plenty. Most people I don't really have any interest in seeing. Or sometimes after I have been around people I feel pretty disappointed. Maybe we're all crazy.

[Silvan]

I swear, my little Katie is the reincarnation of Mother Theresa & Ghandi. Sometimes I wish she would be little obnoxious, bus she says "Mama, that is a violent act , I can't, I'm a kind girl".My son is like that too. I've told him three dozen times that the kind of situations he keeps getting into, his only reasonable recourse is to stand up for himself a couple good times. Kick the crap out of someone or get his ass kicked trying and prove he's through laying there taking it. But he won't. He doesn't want to stoop to their level, and just wants to be left alone.

Admirable, but it just doesn't work. Most of the species hasn't risen above this level yet, and the only future in trying to set an example in this respect is a lifetime of being abused by all the jock bully bastards of the world.

(Yeah, my childhood is a time best not dwelled upon. The best part of being a kid was growing the hell up. Childhood SUCKS!!!)

Anyway, maybe there's some hope for your daughter that what I've outlined here doesn't necessarily apply among the less testosterone-dominated sex.

[Silvan]

I have noticed more and more lately that I am becoming less of a people person.
I am not nearly as outgoing as I once was.Neither am I, and "as outgoing as I once was" is not very outgoing to start with. On the Social Butterfly scale of 1-10, I used to be maybe a 3.5 at my height of gregariousness. Now I'm a 0.001.


I'm not a snobby stuck up person. I do smile....I'm respectful~ I don't hate people...I just don't want to be near them.Yup. I can take people, or leave them, but unless I have some really pressing need to take them, I'd just as soon leave them. Socializing is something I can do, and I'm actually not all that bad at it, but I'd literally rather shove a pineapple up my ass than deal with it most days of the week. It's just not comfortable or natural for me. The affable and sociable me is a façade I have to put on as the situation demands.

I have no desire to make any new rl friends. I have a few friends IRL (whom I rarely see) and many here.Yup. I have a little desire, but not enough to actually pick up the phone. Someone invited me to call sometime to go get a beer about six months ago now I guess, and I never have called. He's probably the closest thing I've had to a RL friend since I started my exciting :zzz: new career as a truck driver. Or was, anyway. I never did call, after all. No excuse for that.

I prefer dealing with people online because it's just more convenient. I can hang out with them when I feel like it, ignore them for days on end when I feel like it, and there's no reason to dress up, no schedules to coordinate, no logistics to work out. It's just more tidy.


I wish I could move somewhere where my closest neighbors are several blocks away. I'm best at home in the woods somewhere or down on the property with my animals...playing fetch with the dogs...talking with my birds...being at home with family but that's it!If I weren't married already, I'd say you and I should hook up for sure. You just described me to a T. The interesting thing about family is that yes, now that you mention it, my reversion to complete recluse status did begin when I bought the house next door to my parents' place. I live in this weird little bubble where the only people I interact with are in furniture stores in far distant locations, and people who are of my immediate blood line. Plus the lady at the store where I buy beer, and a couple of the people at Lowe's, where I buy home improvement stuff. Other than that, nobody currently. I don't even interact with any of my coworkers, and I only talk to my boss about once every other week. I've been on a dedicated route for a long time now, and I have little reason to talk to him. He doesn't care because he knows I'll get my job done, and he doesn't have to lose any sleep over it. I guess trucking like this is a good job for a recluse. I leave in the night, get back in the night, and spend most of my working hours completely alone.


Is there anyone else who feels this way?

And how. I bet I just made you feel social by comparison.