Internet vs Real Life Conversations

[LyraDragonStar]

I have no problems starting conversations on the internet usually. To me, I think I have a good personality, I'm nice, and I can make people laugh. Actually, I think I am more 'me' on the internet than I am in real life.

When I'm around people I know pretty well IRL, then I'll be myself. Hyperactive ( :lol: ), Loud, Stupid, and fun. At least that's what I think from my point of view. Yet, IRL, I have issues starting conversations with people. It's like I totally forgot how.

Anyone ever had that happen? Anyone have any ideas why this happens or what to do about it. I have a few close friends...3. My mom hates them all, and I know I'd have more friends and people in my class would know me more if I could just TALK better IRL and not just through email and MSN Messenger. Ya know?

(Ok, this is sounding kinda ranty isn't it? Sry if it is)

[LadyTrinity]

I think talking online is a great way to get rid of stress and express your self like you cant do in person. I used to come and talk about problems I was having with harassment from my ex and it was used against me so I stress that those who talk about personal matter to keep it simple. :uhhuhuh:
Even though online isn't " reality" Some people might try to twist things into something its not. :collapse:

[Shanti]

IRL, I dont like talking to people I dont know well. I'll do it but I dont like it.
I like talking to people I know.

On the net...I'm fine. If I dont like something I can move on, no prob!

Its hard to get out of some situations IRL with people! I so hate that!

[Rudas Starblaze]

it depends on the person im talking to,,,, in real life, or on the net.

[LyraDragonStar]

On the net...I'm fine. If I dont like something I can move on, no prob!

Same here. I know that if there is a person that annoys me or gets on my nerves, I can just go away from the problem by clicking out of a window or blocking them or whatever.

Just..there's always that thought that I'll never meet anyone else than the people I know now if I don't come out of my shell. I know I'm young..but I'm not talking about just boys, I'm talking about friends and people who I can hang out with.

[Novembers River]

I like to talk IRL in certain situations. I am not good around people I don't know, though.

At work, the first 3 months or so I worked there I was very quiet. Now, however, I've opened up more. I still won't talk much to the people I don't know well, though. Mainly I talk with the people I work closest with.

On top of that I hate chit-chat. I think that's a lot of the reason I don't like talking with people I don't know well, it's always just meaningless chit-chat.

On the net I can pick and choose my conversations. I can also get to feeling comfortable with regular posters (I'm new here and still in the semi-quiet stage, though!).

[Chibi-Fallon]

I hate talking to people I don't know on the net. I hate not being able to read people's inflection and body language. Meeting people in real life is much easier, at least for me.

[Elaethril]

I'm rather shy IRL when first meeting people but will happily (and innocently) ravage a person in the first five minutes online. I don't know why - I'm just at ease online.

Of course, once I get to know you IRL, then all kinds of hijinks will ensue. :abanana:

[Rayzer]

I'm very out going both on the net and IRL but it's strange in reality I prefer a ton of introverted activities and I refer to myself as an introvert but if I asked whether you thought I was introverted or extroverted you would probably say extroverted. meh I don't really care anymore.

[Bethra]

I'm just a chatterbox :lol: Mind you I find it easier to make friends on here than I do in real life. I tend to be much more open on here. IRL I tend to keep myself just on the outside of the social group. But I will still have moments where you just can't shut me up :lol:

[Childof_theMorrigan]

i find myself rather guarded and pessimistic with both on and offline people until I get to know them and they earn the trust that I can confide in them... it definately makes a difference in how people react to me... it sux0rs most of the time but thats just me

[StarCraftLia]

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[LyraDragonStar]

It's weird, because me and my mom live in the same house and see each other every day, but sometimes she'll send me an e-mail and we talk like that. It's easier to get your feelings out in words than it is in voices.

:lol: That's kinda funny. I don't talk with any of my family through the internet except occasionally my dad or my uncle. Heck, I havn't spoken with my dad on the phone/in person/through email at all in a while.

[WokeUpDead]

I'm usually hesitant either way.

[SkySilver]

I think we are less self conscious online and that in itself makes it easier for us to express what we truly feel online as opposed to an in person conversation. At least that's how it is with me. :)

[FroggieThePunk]

I would think that it might be a form of agoraphobia. Then again, I am kind of the same way. I think it has something to do with the anominity of the internet.

For me though, even online I tend to leave others alone, rarely starting a conversation myself. For the most part I just go about my business, not talking to anyone and just kind of doing my thing. I find that here on MW, I am the most out going.

Then agian though, most people don't really talk to me becuase they hear that I am more than willing to talk about things that are considered to be things that are not talked about, except in private. Then again, if someone asks, I am usualy more than willing to talk about it. Oh well, thier loss. I may be weird, but at least I am interesting.

[Anyanka]

Interesting question. I think that i'm pretty much the same person online and IRL. I'm a bit shy both IRL and online, however, i'm a little more open and out spoken online because usually IRL, no one really listens to my opinions!

I also feel that I can take the time to say what I want to say to people online rather than having to try and come up with something on the spot like IRL and then I end up not making sense...which also happens when i'm online...Oh I can't win damn it!

I also find it really engaging to have conversations online because usaully what I find with people online is that they love to debate, discuss and have intelligent conversations, which doesn't harm anyone I guess, and it's rather fun!

[Galaxia]

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[Brenda]

IRL, I hardly ever talk, it's so much easier to talk to someone online.
I'm a very shy person, so it's easier when contact is less personal

[FireQueen]

I'm very new around here, but my willingness to leap in and answer a question like this should tell you something about me. ;) My mother says that I dont know a stranger, and that I would talk to a potted plant if it would talk back. I enjoy talking to people, mostly because I enjoy learning something new about the world and how someone else sees it. I used to work in a place where I met people from all over the world every day in a very public environment, and it was wonderful to have a glimpse into their world, even if only for a moment.

Rare jewels.

[DragonMom]

Me, I bounce back & forth. Once I get to know people, you can't shut me up. But I hate talking on the phone (partly because I'm on the phone all day for work), I'd much rather talk to friends in person. I think I've forgotten how to converse though... little chitchat escapes me anymore. Get me started on a topic & I'm fine, but I'm no good at thinking of things to say. (said the so-called writer)

[LyraDragonStar]

I so know the feeling. Small talk is complicated for me...yea. Like with you, DragonMom, I can talk on and on if ya get me started. Just starting the conversation can be hard..lol.