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[Yvonne Belisle]

Where the heck are you guys? This is your forum lets see some posts. There can't be absolute;y nothing going on out there!

[Twilight Garden]

Let's see... I just got back from my honeymoon. :loveduv: Family visited for Thanksgiving. My sister-in-law got married this weekend.
And the thing keeping me occupied lately is...
My step-daughter's Mom just moved to Germany Friday morning. My step-daughter lives with us. (obviously :rolleyes: I guess) She is learning to deal with not being able to just pick up the phone and call her Mom. She acts like she isn't affected by it though. It is a bit weird because I'm thrilled her Mom is gone. I don't let her know that, though. (Her Mother HATES me :mad: with a vengeance. Even attempted to use the little girl to break up my husband and me.) Some people have no shame...

It's been a hectic couple weeks!

[Yvonne Belisle]

So has anyone else had this type of experience with an ex? How did you deal with it?

[mol]

Hmm. Well, can say that I have seen similar situations. Tough to deal with, but the best thing to do is to move on and dont let it bother you. If it REALLY bothers you. Then she has won the battle.

[Margie]

Welcome back from your honeymoon! Where did you go? What did you do? :D

I guess, good for you that the real mom is gone, but that poor little girls heart is probably breaking. I hope you're relationship is such that she can open up to you about how she really feels.

[MammaStar]

I was one of those horrible people. Yes, I was. I was very young (22) when my son was born. The truth of the matter, was I was EXTREMELY hurt by my son's father. He knew I was pregnant with his child yet he chose to sleep around with a 17 year old at the time & FLAUNT IT IN MY FACE!!!! *ahem* regains composure. I went nuts. I call that time in my life the "Pyscho Mommy" phase. I was terrible. I was a terrible mother, friend and generally human being. I used people, all i cared about was myself and my hurt feelings. It took a friend of mine, who I used to travel with, to kick me in the butt and show me the light. It's taken nearly my son's entire life for me & his father to start gettting along. There have been many broken promises, hurtful words said, etc. But I am very happy & proud to say that he and I have come to an understanding and this past year, we have worked very hard to become civil to each other, therefore, becoming better parents to our son.

The truth is, and it's been a long time coming. I NEVER EVER HATED my son's step-mother. I do like her and it's taken nearly 8 years (my son is 9) for she & I to air out our feelings & differences and we are now FRIENDS. Yes, FRIENDS. We talk nearly every day either on the computer or the phone.

I am not proud of my past at all. I've worked VERY VERY HARD these past 10 years to better myself. It's been a long LONG road. I still slip from time to time. I still, on occassion, react emotionally and irrationally about certain things. But I'm aware of it, and I try really hard not to do it much anymore.

All I can say, is be there for your step-daughter. Respect her feelings of loss for her mother. And yes, WHATEVER YOU DO, don't ever EVER let her know your true feelings for her mother. Her parents will always be her parents. You too, will (I guess you have already) become just as important to her as her "real" mom. It'll take time, just be the best wife & friend to your step-daughter you can. It's what my son's step-mom has done, they get along great and i'm happy that he has someone he can go too, especially if me & his dad are acting like jerks. :eek

Good Luck to you and your family.

[Twilight Garden]

To LdyStarlite:
It's really heart warming to hear the other side. This sounds kind of like her. She was a young mother also. When we first met she was a friendly aquaintance of mine. She was already remarried and even gave me a hug and her approval to date her ex. Then when her ex and I became serious, she flipped. She had already pushed her daughter away since she lived with the father, her daughter was opening up greatly to me, and it was obvious her ex had fallen in love with me. She began to resent me. I hope her relationship with her daughter improves. Right now her daughter uses her to get the material things she wants. You give me hope that she may one day see that I'm really not trying to take her place in her daughter's heart. (My husband never really loved her. He only married her because she was with child. So that isn't a concern.)

Margie:
We went to New Orleans. Mostly hung around the hotel suite and walked around the French Quarter. It was beautiful. Couldn't have asked for better weather. My husband and I are very happy together. Maybe comfortable is a better word. We just 'fit' perfectly.

[Yvonne Belisle]

BUMP!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELLO ANYONE OUT THERE?????? I think I heard an echo! Where are you guys hiding?

[mol]

Originally posted by Yvonne Thomas
BUMP!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELLO ANYONE OUT THERE?????? I think I heard an echo! Where are you guys hiding?

Im not hiding...Im sitting right here.

[Yvonne Belisle]

Well it gets so darned quiet in here sometimes. I get this weird feeling that I am in a library or that I am all alone. Spooky!

[Sequoia]

LOL umm. . . I had a dream about family! yeah!

dad was being weird, we were going to some sort of christmas party at mom's house only it was like her boyfriend (that she's been seperated from for YEARS)'s house, and the cats were getting bicycles for christmas.. . . It mostly sucked LOL but I think the wonderful part was that I had a baby! She was an adorable little girl, about a year old I think. She had curly sandy blonde hair, and she could almost talk! hehe it was nice!

[Yvonne Belisle]

Cool Beanz

[Twilight Garden]

Originally posted by Yvonne Thomas
Well it gets so darned quiet in here sometimes. I get this weird feeling that I am in a library or that I am all alone. Spooky! Well, the little one of the house is in Germany right now visiting her mother. So it's really quiet around here. I'm trying to enjoy the scilence [starts singing Depeche Mode; hee, hee] because she'll be back Friday.

[Sequoia]

I just realized; the little girl/daughter in my dream was actually the little girl I babysit ^^; I love that kiddo. She's so adorable and such a sweetheart!! hehe

[Twilight Garden]

Little girl is back from Germany! She had a good time. Things are back to normal. Except her sleep schedule is totally screwed up.
Puma: I once had a dream that I had a baby, but it was horrible. I actually felt the labor and woke up screaming. Your's sounds like it was quite pleasant. I bet you'd make a wonderful parent.

[Sequoia]

awww!! *blushies* thank you!!

poor thing! *HUGS* man that must've been one heck of a dream!

[mol]

Hmm. Now I am hearing crickets. Actually...it is just slow as heck throughout the whole board today.

[Yvonne Belisle]

Naw man them ain't crickets they be the sounds of the cyber boogieman!:eek: