I Need Help Now!

[Shadowsong]

I can't... do this. I can't do this...I'm really really scared now... I can't... I've tried to shield and it isn't doing anything, I am completely over my head and not only am I trying to help HIM but I don't think I can handle myself either... this is spinning out of control, it happens EVERY time I try to help someone... please....

[Gypsy flower]

what can I do? :raining: protection and healing on its way

[Pesha]

I can't... do this. I can't do this...I'm really really scared now... I can't... I've tried to shield and it isn't doing anything, I am completely over my head and not only am I trying to help HIM but I don't think I can handle myself either... this is spinning out of control, it happens EVERY time I try to help someone... please....


It's ok darling, breath breath deeply now and sit down. So much panic in you. Hun you have got to know, to understand that we as human beings cannot help everyone. You need to back away for a bit. Stop trying to force a sheild into place. Let one just flow up from inside you. Ok will you do this for me love, please.......

Go and get a lavender candle or a white, even light blue migfht do. Take and carve into it a request for peace of mind. Now, go to a place that is private. Sit and hold the candle for a moment. Then say:

I take thee candel and strike a flame and with it I give thee life.

Now sit and concentrate on the flame. Look into it deeply. See all your fear and panic float out of you into a small box floating above the flame. Lower the box into the flame and let the Universe deal with it. Now just sit listen to soft music and relax. Just relax. Now see a mist or fog float into the room. Surround you and cuddle you. Feel strong from this. This is your sheild for now.

Pleasetry this and let me know how it went. I am hugging you love.

BB
DS.

[Astara Seague]

sending healing and stenghth

[Bethra]

Honey you aren't alone, draw strength from all of us. You need to do as DS said, step back and step out a moment. You're not going to loose him he'll be right there when you come back. Right now he's draining way to much from you, you have to step back.

Feel all our arms around you. You don't have to make the sheild, we are your sheild. This is just what this place is for, this is exactly why I asked mol for this place. Together we CAN do this. You aren't alone we are with you. :huddle:

[Shadowsong]

Thank you all so much, I could feel all of your calming energies and they helped me. Bless you friends. :hugz: I could not light a candle but even having it there helped to calm me (perhaps because it was vanilla scented? hah) but seriously thank you all I was so close to the edge there....
One of my problems is this: I do not try to help everyone--in fact I've figured out that to be more reserved helps as I get overwhelmed so easily. But just with this one person, since we're both empaths, this connection is so strong that it's almost unavoidable it seems... and I care about him so how can I not help him?

[~*Ginger*~]

I'm not so sure what's going on, since I haven't read everything in here yet, but do agree with what the other's have said and sent.

*just a thought*

Why not take a crystal, and put some energy into it, and give it to him...
Maybe this would help you both to feel better, maybe he could do the same for you,

[Shadowsong]

The crystal idea is absolutely wonderful Ginger, thank you hon. :hugz:
Here's my dilemma now that I've calmed down a bit: I want to help him, I sincerely do. He's helped me through some of the darkest times of my life and I know I owe him the same in return. But how can I help him if .... if everytime this happens? Because to be quite honest I'm a little scared to talk with him simply for fear that this will happen again--because it always does. Always..... I feel at one time as if I HAVE to help him, and at the same time that I just... can't. Emotionally, I cannot handle it right now. But I don't know what to do, because then by not helping him I feel horrid and I worry and stress... so I suppose you could say i'm between a rock and a hard place....

[Pesha]

You may have to let it go for a bit. Jusr until you become stronger and have learned more about sheilding. My last boyfriend is an empath and strong. So I can understand what you are going through.

HUGS sweetheart.

BB
DS.

[~*Ginger*~]

This feller is your boyfriend?
He'd proably understand if you were to tell him about this problem, he may even be able to hold back a bit...

Maybe try writing him a letter.
i know sometimes, I can be better understood by writing than by talking, because I am an emotional person, when something touches me, in one way or the other, I've got a good line of water works, that's just the way I am, most people can't handle it...

[Shadowsong]

*laughs* No he's not my boyfriend--just someone who means a lot to me. :)
A letter sounds like a good idea... I'll have to think about it. The whole situation is a little confusing, actually, just with everything that's going on. *sighs* Backing off is prolly the best idea for now, I think... just because it'll do neither of us good if we're both emotionally wrecks... thanks again all, I just don't know what to do, you know?

[~*Ginger*~]

Writing it out, or down is always a good thing, wether or not the person it's to ever reads it.

sometimes, I write something to someone, most of the time the one's that don't get seen by anyone but me, aren't so nice, but i get it out, then I either burn it, or tear it up in little bitty pieces, and let the wind have it...

99.9% of the 'feel good' letter's get sent.

Anyway, writing is a good thing.

Hope ya'll are feeling better...