How do I breakup with her?

[Auroro]

Okay guys, I have a problem. Last night I was in a really low point and I told someone I would go out with them, even though I don't want to. And I don't want to hurt her or make me look like a butthole, so how do I break up with her? I have to call her later.
:whatgives

[wolf]

One date is not a relationship.

Go on the date.

If you don't have a good time, don't ask the person out again.

[Astara Seague]

sometimes its better not to even start something if there truely is no attraction why waste both of your time... something suddenly came up, or I didnt look to good at my planner and I have to--- those usually work.
but if there is a attraction even a little one date cant hurt

[Auroro]

Well... it's a little more than just a date. I'm still in highschool and all, and it's more like a boyfriend-girlfriend thing, not so much just dates. AHH! What have I created?

[Threase]

Okay guys, I have a problem. Last night I was in a really low point and I told someone I would go out with them, even though I don't want to. And I don't want to hurt her or make me look like a butthole, so how do I break up with her? I have to call her later.
:whatgives

Sorry to say darlin, but if you said you'd have a relationship with this girl and you don't really want it, then there isn't really any way to break it off without doing one or the other... you could say that you rushed the decision and that you want to try going on a date with her first to see how it goes... but it's pretty much a guarentee that she's gonna get hurt one way or another...

[Auroro]

I know, and I'm going to feel bad, but I have to.

[Gypsy flower]

just make her not like you then she will break it off before it starts!!

[FlyingBear]

Here's your chance to be honest with someone and practice tact at the same time. More than likely she's going to have hurt feelings regardless of how you handle this, so handle it with care. Try and avoid cliches like " It's not you, it's me." And even tho it is about your feelings, most people seem to take this as a cop out. And do it in private.

Hopefully this will teach you to pay attention to your instincts from the get go. Don't fall into that high school mentality trap of " supposed to's." If you have doubts about something, the don't do it.

Good luck!

[Auroro]

just make her not like you then she will break it off before it starts!!

LMAO

To you other guys, I did like her at first, but after I said yes... she turned into a different person, to "pushing" I guess I could say to describe it.

[Rich]

Well... it's a little more than just a date. I'm still in highschool and all, and it's more like a boyfriend-girlfriend thing, not so much just dates. AHH! What have I created?
just tell her it aint working out and she aint right for you and its you not her and she should take it well or tell her u aint ready for a relationship yet but thought you were and u were rong works all the time 4 me keeps all happy :nyah:

[starfire]

well shell will probably be hurt either way, nothing you can do about that. How about being honest to her and tell her, that since you asked her out, she seems to be more pushy, or controling or clinging (what ever it really is) and you don't want to be with someone like that. You were happier just being friends, and if she wants to do that great, if not you understand.

This is a good experience for you, because you are learning about yourself, what you want and don't want in a relationship, so learn from it. Next time invest more time with getting to know someone before "going out with them". Go out and hang out with those you are interested in as friends. Do group things if you want, it will give you a chance to see what they are like.

I agree it is better to break up and not waste her time or yours than it is to prolong something that won't work anyway.

[Teresa]

Well... it's a little more than just a date. I'm still in highschool and all, and it's more like a boyfriend-girlfriend thing, not so much just dates. AHH! What have I created?
Be honest and tell you think think that friendship between the both of you would be better and You do not wish to ruin that.(Or what ever you feel. Bottom line is to be honest.)If you think that you make better friends then say so etc.

[Auroro]

Thanks, I'll do that... I'll call her in a couple hours.

[Mangosteen]

Well... it's a little more than just a date. I'm still in highschool and all, and it's more like a boyfriend-girlfriend thing, not so much just dates. AHH! What have I created? Tell her that you don't think it will work out, but could you still be friends?

[starfire]

Thanks, I'll do that... I'll call her in a couple hours.

Best of luck to you.

[Kuai]

Well I suggest you go out with her once. You wouldnt have said yes if she wasent at least a friend rite? Go out wiht her and see if you like her. Try to enjoy it. If you in the end still dont want to be with her then let her down gently.

[BrigidMoon]

Let us know how it all worked out.

[Hærfest Leah]

You've gotten great advice, best of luck to you and next time think before you comit. :)

[SammieAnn]

good luck

[BrigidMoon]

How did this turn out?

:antennae: