Help.....my stepson is in trouble

[kystrawberry]

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Here is my situation. My stepson got involved with a married woman he is 21 she is 23, she left her husband and they started living together. She then left him and went back to her husband. She has 2 kids with her husband ages 2 and 3. Since she went back to her husband she has started calling my stepson again. I am very concerned. When all this blew up the last time our entire family was very hurt, especially me. I love him very much. He is a very special young man and I do not know what kind of hold this woman has over him but I wish I could do something to break it. I am afraid that if he gets involved with her again someone is going to get hurt. This young woman can talk so sweet that she had my husband convinced that what she was doing was okay. She is very good with words and knows how to manipulate men. I can't go through this again, and I don't want my family hurt again. I especially don't want my stepson hurt or my husband. I really believe that if something isn't done to stop her she will not be happy until someone is hurt. Can someone help me or give me some advice on what I need to do?

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[BrigidMoon]

Well, I can understand why you're concerned. You cannot keep your stepson from communicating with her. Hopefully your husband has agreed not to communicate with her. I'd have a nice frank talk with your stepson. Perhaps explaining how this situation (not the woman) went downhill quickly, it will remind him about the pain everyone went through including himself. Or if he won't talk to you, perhaps having another advocate (a mutual friend or family member he will listen to or looks up to) talk to him about the situation. I think putting blame on the woman will make him defensive or rebel.

Hopefully this helps.

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[Kalandriel]

Ugh! I hate married hussies like that... (sorry, just needed to vent that).

Talk to your husband first, and see if he's on the same page as you, voice your concerns and then have him talk to your stepson, man to man. It might come across better to him that way, if he's receptive to it anyway. :)

[Shanti]

I dont think theres much you can do...the best thing you can do is just be there no matters what happens.

[beautiful_teardrop]

:crazy:
Here is my situation. My stepson got involved with a married woman he is 21 she is 23, she left her husband and they started living together. She then left him and went back to her husband. She has 2 kids with her husband ages 2 and 3. Since she went back to her husband she has started calling my stepson again. I am very concerned. When all this blew up the last time our entire family was very hurt, especially me. I love him very much. He is a very special young man and I do not know what kind of hold this woman has over him but I wish I could do something to break it. I am afraid that if he gets involved with her again someone is going to get hurt. This young woman can talk so sweet that she had my husband convinced that what she was doing was okay. She is very good with words and knows how to manipulate men. I can't go through this again, and I don't want my family hurt again. I especially don't want my stepson hurt or my husband. I really believe that if something isn't done to stop her she will not be happy until someone is hurt. Can someone help me or give me some advice on what I need to do?

:jawdrop:



Okay....i kind of agree with wat the other people said on the thread...talk to ur husband about it...and yes make sure u r on the same page...and attempt to talk to ur stepson....and if that doesnt work go to the higher power....talk to the woman....like u and her....1 on 1....becuz ur right to want this drama gone...its not right wat shes doing....and she needs to know wat she is doing and all the pain that shes causing ur family....thats all i can think of right now....goodluck with this!!! :hugz:

Alicia

[Jenne]

Do your best to hope for the best...and just counsel your son as you can. If he chooses not to listen, being a young adult, he can pretty much do as he pleases. Maybe point out the risks he's taking just like you did here.

Chances are, youo need to let him work this out, though. I'm so sorry. :hugz:

[kystrawberry]

I talked to him last night. And I asked him if this was starting again. He told me it wasn't, but one of the things that he did when he was with her before was talk about more away and miss a lot of work. He is doing the same thing again. I told him I couldn't stop him from doing anything, but I told him he wasn't only hurting himself but he was putting his whole family at risk to be hurt. I told him I did not want her in my home. (this is where he saw her when they saw each other before, he would miss work and she would come to my home while everyone was at work and her husband thought she was working) I told him if I found her in my home I would put her out. My husband is on the same page and doesn't want to go through this again. Beautiful Teardrop you are right I want this drama gone. While they were apart my life was calm and peaceful. I need to find my peace again. It was taken from me before and I don't want it taken again. Pray for me to keep my peace and tranquility.

[beautiful_teardrop]

i thought i would push this page back up!...i hope everything is ok...i hope that drama hasnt started....but i am still sending blessings and hopes for something to end it....stay strong!!...good quote for any woman: "I AM WOMAN HEAR ME ROAR!!"....and i hope that makes u smile....cuz every needs to smile in a time wen they r stressed out about something big!... :hugz: :hugz: :hugz:

Hopes and Blessings!
Alicia

[BrigidMoon]

i thought i would push this page back up!...i hope everything is ok...i hope that drama hasnt started....but i am still sending blessings and hopes for something to end it....stay strong!!...good quote for any woman: "I AM WOMAN HEAR ME ROAR!!"....and i hope that makes u smile....cuz every needs to smile in a time wen they r stressed out about something big!... :hugz: :hugz: :hugz:

Hopes and Blessings!
Alicia

Thank you Alicia! I am bumping this too. :hugz:

Hope everything is okay!

[Mother Goose]

sorry I missed this when you first posted it. Before I met my dh (when he was 18-20) he had a couple of relationships with older, already involved women because he felt it was his job to 'protect' them and their kids from their terrible husbands. Is it possible that your stepson has those kinds of feelings toward this woman? Perhaps if that is it, you can try to help him see that it's not his responsibility to take care of her.

Hope that woman leaves him alone! If she wants out of the marriage she should just go...and not drag others into it.

[beautiful_teardrop]

I thought i would check this situation....i hope everything is going pretty good...and i hope your family isnt hurting as bad as it was because of this woman.

[Lorelei of the Mists]

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