Would you be mad?

[aluokaloo]

:bastard:
My bf and good friend have been hinting at some beings out in the backyard, I know they are there, i feel there presence. At any rate I finally pumped some more info out of my good friend, that there was some things going on in the shed, that had nearly broguht both of them to their knees, that my late ex-fiance' had been doing thjings he shouldn't have been messing with. That he was a powerful, if not completely knowledgable witch. Like trapping people's spirits, binding them, deaths, serious and nasty black magic. I knew he practiced magick, even cursings, but I never knew he had done things like this. That they needed to have his help to undo what he has done. They had the nerve to keep it from me! There is still alot they will not tell me. Saying that they have more expereince, and that it is for my own good. That the things out there werse downright dangerous. I may be new to the craft, I may not have years of experience, I may not be comfortable with sprits. But that is an insult first off to my intelligence! What did they think I was gonna do? Go out there and attempt it myself when I get completly petrified everytime one of those things comes into the house? I'm no fool. I'm not stupid enough to mess with something that I cannot handle. i am content to let them handle it, but I would like to be informed! I am not so weak that i cannot even handle the truth! It's like going to the doctor! You may not be a doctor, but you know something is wrong with your body, and they will not tell you because they know better and believe it is for your own good. In fact i am unashamed to say, that i got a little vindictive, and described in vivid detail to my good friend the spiders in the biggest spider ever thread, since I know he is just as big as an arachnophobe as I am. It got bad enough he tried to make an excuse to call me back later. He is annoyed with me for not letting the subject go. Why should he be mad?Would you be mad in my situation or am I overeacting due to hurt pride?

[Kalandriel]

They shoulda shared.

[juliaki]

Actually I think they're trying to "impress" you with some fantasies that they've dreamed up. They might have tried to do it just to see if they are able to manipulate you, and since you got angry, it appears that they can. I wouldn't bother with 'em... they aren't worth getting miffed over.

[Nitefalle]

Ya...hm, just because there are beings out there doesn't mean your ex was a necromancer. I would try to find the truth of the matter yourself, talk to your gods or spirit guides and see what they have to say on the matter. If they turn out to be telling the truth...I would either tell them to take care of it ASAP or move out of the house. Pissed off spirits aren't something I would want to live with, not if they were being held there against their will. If your friends are lying to you, then let them know the jig is up. Maybe your ex lied to them?

[aluokaloo]

my ex is dead hun.

[pentacledreamer]

Well, you didn't mention he was dead, how did that happen?

[aluokaloo]

he commited suicide.

[pentacledreamer]

Oh I'm sorry.. but if he did that.. wouldn't anything he have messed with me set free.. unless.. if they are telling to the truth.. these 'friends' are keeping the spirits there.

[JadeNSC]

First of all, I'm sorry for the loss of your ex. :hugz:

Secondly, I'm of the mind that maybe your friends are pulling your leg, or trying to make things sound worse than they really are. Fear does strange things to people. Rarely have I heard of truly malevolent spirits. Usually it's just that people sense *something* they aren't used to and it scares the stuffing out of them. (Sometimes it's not even a spirit just a spooky atmosphere and power of suggestion.) Yes there are cases of "evil" spirits, but those seem to be more rare than most people think (at least, from what I've read).

Have they attempted, or asked someone else to maybe perform a cleansing over the whole property? That usually works well for cleansing out negative energies. You could even just simply dust and sweep out the place for a more mundane approach. Also, could it be just one spirit who is angry and/or confused about what happened to them? Some of the time spirits simply don't realize they are dead. Have they tried to communicate with them at all or are they just too afraid of the unknown?

If your ex did actually perform some of the horrible things that was described to you, it wouldn't be so out of line to go out to the place and offer an apology and explain that the person who harmed them is gone. Let them know they are free to go into the light/afterlife/whatever they see and that no one wishes them to be held any longer. Do this followed by a cleansing and keep the mood positive and relaxed.

-Just my $0.02. :)

[aluokaloo]

Oh I'm sorry.. but if he did that.. wouldn't anything he have messed with me set free.. unless.. if they are telling to the truth.. these 'friends' are keeping the spirits there.


I have no idea.

[aluokaloo]

First of all, I'm sorry for the loss of your ex. :hugz:

Secondly, I'm of the mind that maybe your friends are pulling your leg, or trying to make things sound worse than they really are. Fear does strange things to people. Rarely have I heard of truly malevolent spirits. Usually it's just that people sense *something* they aren't used to and it scares the stuffing out of them. (Sometimes it's not even a spirit just a spooky atmosphere and power of suggestion.) Yes there are cases of "evil" spirits, but those seem to be more rare than most people think (at least, from what I've read).

Have they attempted, or asked someone else to maybe perform a cleansing over the whole property? That usually works well for cleansing out negative energies. You could even just simply dust and sweep out the place for a more mundane approach. Also, could it be just one spirit who is angry and/or confused about what happened to them? Some of the time spirits simply don't realize they are dead. Have they tried to communicate with them at all or are they just too afraid of the unknown?

If your ex did actually perform some of the horrible things that was described to you, it wouldn't be so out of line to go out to the place and offer an apology and explain that the person who harmed them is gone. Let them know they are free to go into the light/afterlife/whatever they see and that no one wishes them to be held any longer. Do this followed by a cleansing and keep the mood positive and relaxed.

-Just my $0.02. :)



No, they are not pulling my leg, they are going to take care of the problem. I do know that my ex bound at keast one ghost bacck there because I was attacked by one in bed. I was also wide awake at the time, so I know it was not sleep paralysis. both work with spirits, and both have been in the craft for a long long time.. I also like your idea, about going out and offering an apology, i will do that and see if it helps. A few of them wanders around the house, my daughter plays with he'she/it/them, which does bother me a bit. I also started taking a bowl of water, and dumping it out, and I cleanse the place with frankincense and myrrh. The atmosphere already feels much better.

[GentleWolf]

If this is real, I agree that they should have told you. I would suggest that you get in touch with someone who has some real experience as far a spirits go. I am sure that if you do a little searching you can find someone in your area who will come out and look about to try to get down to the nitty-gritty of what is going on.

One of the things you might want to do, until you can get someone out to take a look, is to sit down and have a little talk with these spirits. Tell them that you want to help them to get to wherever they need to be and that if they should choose to stay that it is fine but that you would rather them be unagitated and polite. You need to go into your little talk with a sence of peace and openness. Remember that they cannot hurt you.

Another possibility is that sometimes an idea is put forth and it manifests. You may be dealing with the negativity of your friends as well as yourself in these areas. Either way you need to change your reaction to this situation. Remember that you are in control of your self and your seroundings.

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