Is it ok to date someone you met at a bar, bus stop, dance club, bookstore etc.

[Shanti]

Since the other poll is misleading, in my opinion.
I decided to do a more accurately worded poll!

:)

[Inward Visionary]

People run into one another for the strangest reasons and in the strangest places. So I voted "Yes". Not everyone stays together with their highschool sweetheart (if they even had one). So I say if it feels right and good, go for it! Who knows what might become of it!

[Calen]

Why on Earth wouldn't you?
I'd say you definitely can. One can meet a great person in a club or a bookstore just as easily as in a...um...where do you suppose would be a more appropriate place?

[Darakash]

I sure as Hell hope so, otherwise I have been married to a man for 6 years, that I never should have dated! LOL!

[Aidron]

No. It is in fact wrong, bad and extremely naughty to date anyone period. You either are going to get screwed over or force me to throw up when I witness your gushy-wushy-lovey-dovey-nonsense.

(You don't want me to throw up on you, do you?)

[Sowelu]

I picked "yes".
Unless the bar is like the persons second home.:)

[Catiana]

Yes, I married someone I met at a nightclub.

[Cyzarine]

I voted 'yes' because you never know where you will meet someone interesting.

[ScaryGodFather]

I picked "yes".
Unless the bar is like the persons second home.:)

I picked yes because the wife made sure my second home wasn't the bar any more after we started going out... I still love her any how!

[Aedrais]

My parents met at a bar. My mother was dancing on a table, apparently. _whistle_ So she can never tell me not to date boys from bars!

Obviously, I voted yes.

[WokeUpDead]

You should only date people you meet while intoxicated.

[SSanf]

You should only date sky clad people you meet in bookstores.

[Pesha]

I put maybe becasue not all places are safe. You just have to be careful.

BB
DS.

[SkySilver]

The mystery of it is what is the scary part... but the truth is that most people you meet out there are just ordinary people like ourselves and really with not much to hide. Nothing of real danger anyway.

If something were 'off' with the person, you'd probably see it on the first date anyway.

It's never hurts to be cautious though at least in the beginning. I'd make sure we'd go out in public places until I build a confidence.

[WitchJezebel]

I picked "yes".
Unless the bar is like the persons second home.:)

No kidding! My hard and fast rules on drinking is - I won't date any man that can drink ME under the table. That pretty much works for me.

[Cassie]

If after talking with the person for a while you like them and feel relatively safe them yes, why not?
I'm assuming date just means arranging to meet them again somewhere.

[MoonDragn]

No kidding! My hard and fast rules on drinking is - I won't date any man that can drink ME under the table. That pretty much works for me.

hah! darn! I bet I can drink you under the table Jez.

[raminda]

Yes, of course it is. You never know where you're going to meet anyone interesting or who fits you perfectly (if that sort of concept exists). I guess though at the same time there are some places that might be bad for finding mates..

[phoenixblayze]

i would say yes, thats how i met my hubby

[LostSheep]

Why on earth shouldn't it be? Assuming we're talking about 'dating' as in taking things one stage further, seeing how it goes, etc., etc., and not just going straight back to theirs for a bit of hot action, in which case i think you'd be sensible to be a bit cautious.

[VelvetBlade]

My parents met at a bar. My mother was dancing on a table, apparently. _whistle_ So she can never tell me not to date boys from bars!

Obviously, I voted yes.

Way to go...Mom !!! _twohorns_

~VB

[Dio]

Like I said in the other post, I would not go home with someone I just met in a bar. I would exchange phone numbers with him first to get to know him better. If he seemed decent, then yes, I would date him.

[Astara Seague]

Like I said in the other post, I would not go home with someone I just met in a bar. I would exchange phone numbers with him first to get to know him better. If he seemed decent, then yes, I would date him.


Me too and certainly not on the first night and I would talk to him on the phone a few times before I even dated him for real trying to get to know him in a more personal way..:fphone

[CoolJ]

There are no rules to dating....

I mean, where else would you meet people besides places where people are? maybe you met someone at a book store that had the same interests as you, you got to know eachother, and you dateD?....

[kytti]

Of course its ok! How are you supposed to ever find someone if you aren't open to it? What are your other options? Meeting someone at work or getting set up by friends? Both of those are pretty limiting.

[hereiam]

hello
well thatdepends on how you know the person
if you find the person nice then go for him or her
but i think you should talk over the phone and get to know him or her better
so take care

[HeavensHope]

why not....lots of ppl find dates at bars, heck you can find a date at the library. Bookstores are always the best place because you can find out a little bit about the person by what books they read and buy. Plus, you can be sure that they can at least read... :D

[aluokaloo]

well yeah why not? Where else are you supposed to meet people?

[DreamSpell333]

I picked maybe.. but in most instances,i think it's fine. :) I think if i were single,it would depend on my first impression of the person .If you connect with someone than go for it! :) It cant be any worse than meeting someone online. I met my husband online, and we've been married almost 3 years and together for almost 6 and in may will be having our second child. :)

[Yasmine Galenorn]

Uh, and where would one meet someone to date if they don't meet them out of their house? That would leave the cable guy, the plumber or the electrician. Not a wide variety of choice. :lol:

Yasmine :colorful:

[Meadhbh]

I choose maybe. It all depends on the persons and that goes for where ever you meet them. If you shouldn't date some one you shouldn't date them if you met them at the zoo or a nursing home. On the other hand you can meet really amazing people in the oddest places. So it really matters how the person is not where you meet them.

[Flaire-FireStar]

Sure, why not?

[wintermagick]

I met my husband at a Goth club and we've been together for six years now... so uhm, yeah!

[Sea-Witch]

I voted yes.

I am kind of lost on this poll, though. You have to leave the house to meet people, and these seem like the usual sort of meeting places. Why wouldn't you date someone you met at a dance club or in a bookstore? Maybe I am just having a vague moment, but I don't get it.

*scratches head*

[FroggieThePunk]

I would say to get to know the person as well so that you can basicaly find out if they are who you think they are. I met a girl at a concert, we dated for 7 months till I got stupid, and am now trying to get her to give me another chance. We still talk and all, but yeah. Just get to know the person a bit first.

[Sothis*Crowfeather]

I dated someone I meet in a goth nightclub. Turned out to be the sweetest, kindest, most gentle (*insert about ten other postive things here*) man I've ever had the pleasure of meeting and befriending. :) I see nothing at all wrong with meeting someone in a bar or dance club...just be a little on guard. You can meet some sweet ones, and you can meet some losers.

And for goths like me a night club is one of few places you can meet your kind.

[Xentor]

If you have to ask us whether it's OK to date someone you meet, then you already know the answer.

[MysticWitch]

Where else are you supposed to meet someone? :cheers:

[smckim]

No. It is in fact wrong, bad and extremely naughty to date anyone period. You either are going to get screwed over or force me to throw up when I witness your gushy-wushy-lovey-dovey-nonsense.

(You don't want me to throw up on you, do you?)

:yayah: :lol: :nonono: :doh2: :achug: You are too funny!!!!!

[Scarded-of-self]

I choose yes if not we would never meet anyone and become a hermit

[LostSheep]

Seems rather romantic meeting someone at a bookstore ... you'd know you share the same interests ... your eyes meeting over Harry Potter ... though maybe if they're browsing The World's 100 Greatest Serial Killers or something you might think twice

[Shadow Dreamer]

Bar, bookstore, grocery market, any place where the public meets is fine...but I would have to warn against online. I met this one woman there...it was horrible. We stayed up all night, closed the bar where we met for the first time IRL, ended up at some out of the way coffee house until the sun came up...it was just rotten. I couldn't get rid of her!!! As a matter of fact, it's gotten so bad that we ended up married with 3 kids and #4 due any day now!

~SD

[Semele]

Isn't that how lots of people traditionally meet thier dream spouses? How would you know otherwise?

[Bethra]

Well if you were to say no it's not ok that would mean a lot of people would never meet up with their respective others. Hmm I'd have to say that yes it's ok to go for a date with people you meet just about all over the place. You have to take a chance right? If I hadn't taken a chance with a random stranger I wouldn't be with Astralmoth now.

[Garnet]

I dated A GUY I met while standing in line to buy tickets to see pro wrestling. We dated for three years.
I do not advocate dating someone you meet at work. If it doesn't work out, you have to go to work & see the momzer every day. :meanface: Of course, the pain is lessened if you make more than him. :lol:

[brymble]

i met my current lover at the library, using the computers.

[Athena-Nadine]

I don't think it matters where you meet someone.

I met my husband at work. I see nothing wrong with that either. It all depends on what type of people you are and how mature.

[banondraig]

I don't think it matters where you meet someone.

I met my husband at work. I see nothing wrong with that either. It all depends on what type of people you are and how mature.

there's nothing wrong with dating someone from work, it's just frequently messy.

[brymble]

ok, how about going into business with a lover? *cringes* i mean, it seems right, both from a business and relationship point of view, but man, that can be frequently messy, too.

[Yasmine Galenorn]

I don't think it matters where you meet someone.

I met my husband at work. I see nothing wrong with that either. It all depends on what type of people you are and how mature.

Love will out, won't it? I met Samwise when I moved in with his roommate, Rich (we weren't really going out, just in that weird 'we have no idea if we have a relationship or not' phase that comes before you decide to be friends or lovers). Within less than a week, Samwise and I'd fallen in love and I ended up moving into his room instead of Rich's. Two months later he proposed. It was weird for a little bit, but then Rich accepted it and things were okay until he died the day after our wedding. (But that's a whole 'nuther story).

Yasmine :colorful:

[Rina]

well I dated a guy I met on a tram, a guy I met at a Kareoke Bar, 2 guys I met on the internet (one good one bad) and I met my husband while he was serving me in a coffee shop...

So anywhere is ok! Why should place matter?

[Arie]

I dated a guy i met on the internet. We dated for 18 months and are still good friends.

[LyraDragonStar]

YEs, why wouldn't it be? I mean..ya gotta meet people somewhere, right?

[FaeFollower]

Sure, where else would you meet someone? Work?

[abster]

Sure, where else would you meet someone? Work?

Yeah, that was my question too... I guess there are some places at which I wouldn't necessarily go looking for a date, like a bar, but there's nothing wrong with randomly meeting someone and deciding you want to get to know him/her better. ^_^

[MalPixie]

Yeah, that was my question too... I guess there are some places at which I wouldn't necessarily go looking for a date, like a bar, but there's nothing wrong with randomly meeting someone and deciding you want to get to know him/her better. ^_^
Exactlly! what are you supose to do? You don't know when where, how, or who you are going to meet! or maybe even what you are going to meet for that matter!

[pawnman]

Why wouldn't it be? Isn't that the whole point of going to bars and dance clubs anyway?

[Mitsuko]

Those are some of the most common places to meet people. I met my current bf on the bus, and I've made a bunch of friends from chance meetings in bookstores, ect.

[Sage Rainsong]

Well where are you supposed to meet people? What places would be more socially acceptable to meet someone?

[pawnman]

I'm curious about the people that voted no. Why not?

[Autumn]

Any time you meet someone new you need to be careful.

I met Sol in a bar...18 years later with 2.8 kids, 2 houses a car and a wedding we're still together.

[~Broken Lily~]

I met my Hubby in a night club. We have been together for nearly 4 years, married for 2 1/2 year and are expecting our first child on 4th May.

[SilentDreams]

I voted "Yes". I don't see why it would be wrong to date someone you meet at any of those places. I mean, yes there is a chance that the person you meet could be some creep mass murderer or something but thats a possibility with anyone you meet, regardless of where it is. So honestly I see no problem with it. Acctually its probably more safe than dating someone you meet online.(Not to say that its unsafe to date people met online. I'm sure it is a lot of the time but we all know that bad situations are a possibility.)

[merlo]

:abbed: Life's short...Jump IN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Serendipity]

I'm curious about the people that voted no. Why not?

Me too. Are we supposed to have our parents hook us up with a nice boy/girl from down the street? Arranged marriages? Matchmaker, matchmaker make me a match - find me a find, catch me a catch?

I just don't get it.

[phoenixblayze]

met my hubby at a bar to.......i think its fine, just use your judgement on if its a person you should get involved with or not

[God]

Though we are living in a fear and threat based society, it is better to drive past the energies of fear and into a vibe of more confidence. It doesn't matter where you meet someone, unless it's say a human sacrifice or something.

[CoolJ]

I meet my dates through mail order catalogs

[MGD]

Be Careful Who You Hook Up With No Matter Where You Meet Them.

[Thunder]

Be Careful Who You Hook Up With No Matter Where You Meet Them.

Exactly.
I voted "maybe" for just that reason. As a man, and the father of a son and two daughters, and having been there and done that... make sure that you know what you are getting into before you are too deep in.

Some mistakes are costly.

[Little Billy]

Exactly.
I voted "maybe" for just that reason. As a man, and the father of a son and two daughters, and having been there and done that... make sure that you know what you are getting into before you are too deep in.

Some mistakes are costly.

Daughters are God's revenge on you for being a guy.

[Thunder]

Daughters are God's revenge on you for being a guy.

Sons are a challenge too. Do you speak from experience?