the jerk I went out with last night!

[Gypsy flower]

so anyway I finaly gave in to one of our regular customers at the shop and went out with him..he has been bugging me for months.

So he picked me up and we went to a resteraunt I had never heard of, as I looked at the menu nothing appealed to me, so I ordered a chef salad {safe and good} when I said what I wanted he proceeded to tell me that women always faked on first dates so the men dont think they are pigs..{ I really wa
nted a salad no kidding} so we ate as I endured a lecture on how girls are fakers until they get their claws into the guy and then the mask comes off. Next thing we went to the movies and lo and behold it was sold out, amazing, it was opening night after all, most would buy the tickets in advance. He was quite.. umm upset.. I told him he could take me home if he wanted that I wouldnt mind {seriously I was sick of him by then I was just trying to be nice} Oh no.. some how he convinced me to go to a rental place a rent a movie and then watch it at my place...hmmm so we were at my place and he started the movie,

I asked him if he wanted a soda, he said yes, so I got him a coke and a beer for me { blue moon a really great Belgian wheat ale} he had to lecture me on the evils of alcohol now...:devil: finally the movie caught him and he shut up but then my roomate Johnny came home, he stands about 6'6 and is very musclar and pretty handsome he walked by and got himself some food in the kitchen, so now he asks me who this guy is.. I told him he is my roomate, so now he is like you didnt tell me you lived with a guy..{oh My Goddess I live with 3} so he must be a ex, and of course we are still "doing it" I was so irrated but still trying to be nice, so I said I had my own bedroom, and he wasnt my ex,

but he didnt believe me..finally sick of it all I calmly took the movie out and gave it to him along with his jacket. So he goes I should leave you two alone! I was so pissed .. I told him good by and opened the door and as he passed me he says "I should have known better then trying to date a Witch, they think men should worship them" I lost it.. I started going off on him and Johnny had to step in and basicly escort him out the door.:hairred: The worse part is in the morning Johnny and my tires were slashed..I was off today but I am really upset about seeing him tommarow when he comes for his afternoon coffee... :shaker:

I dont want to get fired but I dont know if I can hold my tounge, any suggestions??? Was I out of line?:vanish:

[abrakus]

Hell no girl! You put up with him for longer than I could of. You were polite even though he was being a pig and then you stood up for yourself :hugz:
Sweetie I applaude you

[Cyzarine]

I applaude you as well. If he starts anything while you are at work just keep your cool. He's so not worth losing your job or being stressed over.

[Silvertongue]

I have to agree. You did very well to put up with him.
The only advice I have to offer about work is to explain to your supervisor/manager what happened, and that you will need to excuse yourself if/when he comes in. Unless you are the only one working, in which case, I would be nicer than ever imagined possible...that would piss him right off.
That should give you some time to deal with the fact that he was a complete jerk, and move on. It only makes them feel more important if you give in and argue with them.

[CoolJ]

ahh I hate guys like that, and I date girls ;)

you were much nicer than you were supposed to be, I commend you... if any problems happen just tell your boss that you have a guy harassing you or whatever powers that be, be it workplace or authorities...

[tarotgirljess]

talk to the police about the slashed tires. when you get to work. explain to your boss that it was a bad date, he accused you of sleeping with your roomate then slashed the tires on the vehichles. explain that you can't be around him because their will be a restraining order in place if he gets worse. someone else should take him when he comes in.
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On a side. what a jerk. he had some nerve. you should have ditched him when he threw a temper tantrum at the movie.
and if he thinks alcohol is evil WTF is he doing dating a witch anyway? he's out of his mind.

If on some off chance you do have to serve him and he cops an attitude lean down ever so calmly and remind him you are a witch he'd best step off. not that you would or should. But to plant the seed. Good luck with him hes a piece of.... work.. um yea piece of work ;)

[Jenne]

Yeah, the advice to skip out when he comes near is a good one. If you have an understanding boss, totally tell them about it. If not, make a convenient but not too emergent excuse and hightail it out of there. That guy is bad news.

Poor thing. Hate dates like that--leaves a nasty taste in your mouth, doesn't it? :hugz:

[treefae]

nah you were way too tolerant actually.sorry that happened.hopefully you will find someone special and make up for all that crap.sounds like your going through a crappy man attracting the psychos phase.i've been there.i hope he doesn't harrass you,what a slimeball.

[~Anamorata~]

You go girl!!!:clapping:

[LadyTrinity]

"I should have known better then trying to date a Witch, they think men should worship them"



They should :hehehehe:

[aluokaloo]

were you out of line? No, I would have told him to eff off and walked out of the date right when he started his crap! You are for more patient then i am. He was out of line, and there is a law isn't there, where you don;'t have to serve people if you don't want to. What a d#$&! If it is alright may I send protective energies? or is Johnny enough to take him out. :) i am sorry this happened to you hun.

[aluokaloo]

They should :hehehehe:


high five!

[misty]

What an ass. Call the police about the tires. Talk to your boss, as long as there is no rule against dating customers...

[Gypsy flower]

were you out of line? No, I would have told him to eff off and walked out of the date right when he started his crap! You are for more patient then i am. He was out of line, and there is a law isn't there, where you don;'t have to serve people if you don't want to. What a d#$&! If it is alright may I send protective energies? or is Johnny enough to take him out. :) i am sorry this happened to you hun.

Johnny can handle him, but he isnt always there!!!:falloffch

[wintermagick]

Yes, I'd call the cops about the tires too. Uggh... how creepy! He sounds like the kind of guy who might slip something in a drink too...

[Pagan Mantis]

HELL NO!!!! What a dick! Is that permittable here, using that word? Anyhow, he was the stereotypical one pointing fingers, then to slash your roomie AND your tires? This isn't even a stereotypical guy!!!! lmao, not many of my boys are that ignorant and self opinionated to say what a woman may or may not do! I think we are all old enough to make our own decisions, but thanks Dad (insert idiot date's name here)!

[Kalandriel]

Shoulda ditched him after the salad comment.. and besides... what business is it of his if you and your roommate were sleeping together anyway?

It's not like there was a relationship with him or anything... he sounds psycho, glad one date is as far as it got! :smile:

[Astara Seague]

poor girl..hang in there not all men are like that!!!

[Morgoth]

Im truly sad that a you had to endure that. I have to say its truly pathetic how some guys act sometimes. I hope everything gos well for you. best wishs

[Raven Reed]

I also think you should go to the police about the tires. Especially just in case he gets weirder and does anything else, that there is an official record of it.

:hugz: to you, may you never have to date another toad.

[Gypsy flower]

I have no REAL proof he did it.. I just feel it.. If I had proof I definatly would call the cops!:shift:

[Kadynas]

You poor thing!! I didn't know whether to laugh or cry! :hugz: So sorry you had to endure that!

[Pesha]

Oh sweety, I would have blasted off the earth if it had been me. I have had my share of bad dates. They come and they go. And we hope they go quickly. As far as his coming in to work. Stay under his radar for a while. You might even want to mention what happened casually to your supervisor. So they hear about from you first. :hugz:

BB
DS.

[pooja]

omg... he sounds like a freak.

thank goddess u gave him his walking papers.

u go, girl!

[Shanti]

It doesnt matter if there is no proof that he did it. Calling the cops gets it on official records that it happened so if more things happen its all recorded and any possible patterns can be had.
If this guy did do the tires, he's a nut case and there could be very well more probs. Keep your eyes open in case he stalks.
Please be very careful till your sure he is history!!!

And do talk to your boss, in case this ass tries to bother or stalk you at work!!!

Just be real careful for awhile. I dont want to sound the alarm button but in cases like this, better safe than sorry.

Glad you have a burly room mate!! :)

Stay safe~

[charmedkisses1]

Can't you report him?

[spooky]

good for you. i'ed just be worried about him coming back to the store and harrassing you.

i'ed tell the boss if you don't think it would be a problem, since he is a regular customer

[Yvonne Belisle]

You did the right thing. They are right though go to the cops get it on record then if the boss is ok with you dating the customers definitly let the boss know what happened. Explain you aren't complaining and will continue to do your job but that this person would best be waited on by someone else whenever possible.

[Mad Jasmine]

This guy sounds like a typical freak. Be careful that he doesn't do anything else harmful because slashing your car tyres aswell as your roommate's tyres isn't normal behaviour.

[RoseKitten]

Wow... you held out longer then I would have... I'd have been gone at the salad remark... But I'm not patient when it comes to rude people... and I used to work customer service... oi. :blushake:

[SSanf]

I would certainly report it to the police. And, I would really be a bit concerned about this one. He sounds way outside the realm of normal.

Hopefully, he dissipated his aggression on your tires but I wouldn't be too sure about that.

The guy for sure has a case of the strange.

[Jackiedanielz]

What a loser!

Good for you for saying something!

[Malcolm]

That sucks, the guy sounds like a nut to me. You could always spike his coffee with drain-o next time he comes in. Tell him its a new blend from Guatamala...

[Cassie]

You didn't do anything wrong. It seems you were much nicer than he deserved. If you get on ok with your boss I think you should explain what happened in case he comes back. You should report the tyre incident to the poloice even if you don't know who did it, so that there is something on record just in case of any further incidents with this creepy guy.

[WitchJezebel]

Wow... you held out longer then I would have... I'd have been gone at the salad remark... But I'm not patient when it comes to rude people... and I used to work customer service... oi. :blushake:

Me too, I probably wouldn't have been able to even finish my meal (but I'm mean and I would have taken it in a doggie bag!) What a wad. I agree with the others that speaking to the police is a wise choice, even if you can't prove it. I'd also definitely speak to your boss, you don't want this to blow up while you're at work. Good luck Honey!

[phoenixblayze]

well, im sorry you had to deal with this moron, just take care of yourself, hopefully he will leave you alone, but i agree with everyone else about telling the police and your boss. you just cannot be too careful with people like this

[Kalika]

Wow.... what a nut job!

(Him... not you. ;) )

[aluokaloo]

I also think you should go to the police about the tires. Especially just in case he gets weirder and does anything else, that there is an official record of it.

:hugz: to you, may you never have to date another toad.



now now now! No reason to go about insulting toads.:hehehe:
yeah you need to talk to the police, and your boss, Is it feasible to have a roommate go with you until this thing settles? Get a large dog or a taser. All making fun of this creepazoid aside be safe ok.

[obie]

this man is NUTS! call the police about the slashed tires. that obviously wasnt very "moral" of him to do something like that.

[atropa]

I've been out with some winners too. So, is Johnny available to you? *wink wink* Sounds like a nice gruy.

[merlo]

:geez: My sympathies are with you. That kinda stuff has happened to me also. Those possessive type personalities play rough.

[materra]

That sucks, the guy sounds like a nut to me. You could always spike his coffee with drain-o next time he comes in. Tell him its a new blend from Guatamala...

Um, no...This is what not to do. Just continue to provide good customer service at the shop. Then if he is a problem go to the boss. (Warning him first is a good idea too.) As for the tires, report it to the police, and check and see if there was a rash of this in you neighborhood. If not they may ask you if there is anyone you suspect and then tell them about the date from hell. This person may have a history they know about and be able to warn him off, or help you with security measures.

And like many of the folks here... I would have left at the salad story... ugh. What a kook and negative person. Warm hugs hun, hope all is well with you and yours.

[Gypsy flower]

Um, no...This is what not to do. Just continue to provide good customer service at the shop. Then if he is a problem go to the boss. (Warning him first is a good idea too.) As for the tires, report it to the police, and check and see if there was a rash of this in you neighborhood. If not they may ask you if there is anyone you suspect and then tell them about the date from hell. This person may have a history they know about and be able to warn him off, or help you with security measures.

And like many of the folks here... I would have left at the salad story... ugh. What a kook and negative person. Warm hugs hun, hope all is well with you and yours.

Good idea.. I didnt think of that!! :fpraise: and you guys have all been so nice, you know how it is when you feel you may have been a bit extreme, I have a tendancy to be that way sometimes,;) anyway so I had early shift today and he didnt come in at least not while I was there, I left really fast though just in case I didnt even stay for my usual Latte before I went home
but I did talk to my boss, he thought I was exagerating because the guy is a regular and seems so nice, but he said if he caused any "problems" in the shop he would have a talk with him. So I guess we will see, I feel better about it anyway even though my boss told me I should not go out with customers ever anyway but it wasnt a rule so Im not in trouble that way at least.:ggrief:

[Nitefalle]

And don't forget to curse the hell out of him!!! :nonono: Heh, just kidding. But seriously, if he gets nasty with you at work, do a little "returned-negativity-taste-of-your-own-energy" type spell. I love turning the tables on royal jerks.

[ravenmyst]

great advice on checking with police etc...:hugz: hang in there, hopefully psycho man will stay away, sounds like a slightly extreme version of how my ex got, definately a psycho

[Penthesilea]

I'm sorry I didn't find this last night, sweetie. Blame my lingering cold.... I'm just glad you had a large economy-sized roommate at hand when things started to get ugly! Give Johnny a hug and tell him it's from me! You should report the tire slashing to the police -- your auto insurance may require it to file a claim -- and of course, the whole "who might want to slash your tires" opening is not to be missed.
Given how this jerk acted on the date, I wonder why he asked you out -- you must be seriously hot, darlin' -- and being of a nasty and suspicious mind, :eyez: I'm not thinking about what might have happened if Johnny hadn't come home when he did..... :hairraise On second thought, hug Johnny twice for me! This one's for you :hugz:

[Cynyr]

They should :hehehehe:

Hey LT,

When they hound you for months and can't seem to take 'no' for an answer, this is a warning sign to stay away. You may of course know this by now.
I personally don't think he finds alcohol or you living with guys an issue, the issue is his insecurity which is off the scale. How is it that he criticizes alcohol but yet carries around an instrument hard and sharp enough to slash tires? Insecurity. How is it he knows you're a Witch but then criticizes you for that? Insecurity. How is it he makes such rude suggestions about your male roommate? Insecurity.
This poor soul demonstrated those classic traits of insecurity all the way through your date. Now you know what to look for in a guy and a decent, confident, well-rounded 'man' will do none of those things. And you handled youself very well - with awesome composure and dignity.
Sorry about your experience. He should not get away with vandalizing your vehicle.

[AutumnRain]

Hell no girl! You put up with him for longer than I could of. You were polite even though he was being a pig and then you stood up for yourself :hugz:
Sweetie I applaude you


This caught me straight away hun - I couldn't have put it better myself!
This guy was the jerk, not you. I'm surprised you managed to put up with him for as long as you did - I know I wouldn't have been able to! Well done. :hugz:


Love and Light,
Autumn

[SilverMaiden]

Hey LT,

When they hound you for months and can't seem to take 'no' for an answer, this is a warning sign to stay away. You may of course know this by now.
I personally don't think he finds alcohol or you living with guys an issue, the issue is his insecurity which is off the scale. How is it that he criticizes alcohol but yet carries around an instrument hard and sharp enough to slash tires? Insecurity. How is it he knows you're a Witch but then criticizes you for that? Insecurity. How is it he makes such rude suggestions about your male roommate? Insecurity.
This poor soul demonstrated those classic traits of insecurity all the way through your date. Now you know what to look for in a guy and a decent, confident, well-rounded 'man' will do none of those things. And you handled youself very well - with awesome composure and dignity.
Sorry about your experience. He should not get away with vandalizing your vehicle.

Excellent advice. The guy showed major red flags of serious issues. I agree with Cynyr.

[aluokaloo]

lets here it for the econmoy sized roommate while we are at it! Johnny!:woot: :woot:

[Heart of Isis]

You absolutely were NOT out of line Gypsy Flower! In my opinion, you should have gone totally Xena on him or something.
By the gods! What an unevolved neandrathal! I'm a straight male saying this and I mean it! Oh that makes me angry!

My first concern is your safety. Seeing that he came back and slashed tires is quite disturbing and a clear sign that he is unstable and could be harmful. Are you alright? Haven't had anymore problems with him since have you?

I'm concerned for you. He sounds very unstable. Is there a way you can try to avoid serving him without getting fired? Do you have someone at work you can confide in? If so I would suggest telling them what happened so you have someone who can back you up. You sound like really a sweet girl actually and that's good, but be sure not to fall for the "apology routine" if he tries that. I highly recommend avoiding him as much as possible.

Also, as far as his comment about Witches goes. I think he has that view about women in general judging by what he said to you in the restruant. And why shouldn't men worship women in a way. I do. Women don't get the respect they so deserve. I prefer women friends over male friends, I connect better with them and can talk with them about things I would never talk to a guy friend about because I don't want to hear the male BS. I mean male friends have a place, sure, but it's not the same connection. I would rather learn reality. In all my years, the best advice I get is always from the female perspective. Men need to learn to listen to women damn it!

Ok, rant over. It's just that I don't like social injustice like that.


Next time please make sure you know the person before you go out on a date with him.

Please be safe Gypsy Flower.

Here's a **HUG**

May Isis protect you and cover you in the safety of her wings,

Heart of Isis





so anyway I finaly gave in to one of our regular customers at the shop and went out with him..he has been bugging me for months.

So he picked me up and we went to a resteraunt I had never heard of, as I looked at the menu nothing appealed to me, so I ordered a chef salad {safe and good} when I said what I wanted he proceeded to tell me that women always faked on first dates so the men dont think they are pigs..{ I really wa
nted a salad no kidding} so we ate as I endured a lecture on how girls are fakers until they get their claws into the guy and then the mask comes off. Next thing we went to the movies and lo and behold it was sold out, amazing, it was opening night after all, most would buy the tickets in advance. He was quite.. umm upset.. I told him he could take me home if he wanted that I wouldnt mind {seriously I was sick of him by then I was just trying to be nice} Oh no.. some how he convinced me to go to a rental place a rent a movie and then watch it at my place...hmmm so we were at my place and he started the movie,

I asked him if he wanted a soda, he said yes, so I got him a coke and a beer for me { blue moon a really great Belgian wheat ale} he had to lecture me on the evils of alcohol now...:devil: finally the movie caught him and he shut up but then my roomate Johnny came home, he stands about 6'6 and is very musclar and pretty handsome he walked by and got himself some food in the kitchen, so now he asks me who this guy is.. I told him he is my roomate, so now he is like you didnt tell me you lived with a guy..{oh My Goddess I live with 3} so he must be a ex, and of course we are still "doing it" I was so irrated but still trying to be nice, so I said I had my own bedroom, and he wasnt my ex,

but he didnt believe me..finally sick of it all I calmly took the movie out and gave it to him along with his jacket. So he goes I should leave you two alone! I was so pissed .. I told him good by and opened the door and as he passed me he says "I should have known better then trying to date a Witch, they think men should worship them" I lost it.. I started going off on him and Johnny had to step in and basicly escort him out the door.:hairred: The worse part is in the morning Johnny and my tires were slashed..I was off today but I am really upset about seeing him tommarow when he comes for his afternoon coffee... :shaker:

I dont want to get fired but I dont know if I can hold my tounge, any suggestions??? Was I out of line?:vanish:

[Gypsy flower]

You are so sweet!!!
Where have you been all my life Heart of Isis!!:heyalove:
No I do not plan on falling for the apology thing.. Im ok, he came in today actually and didnt say a word to me, he didnt even sit in my station, he just drank his coffe and read his paper as if nothing happened, I did catch him looking at me once in awhile but I didnt approach him either. I am wondering if my boss talked to him yesterday after I went home, I think Im ok, I do live with men and usually one of them at least is home at night and on the weekends there is even more cause all the guys come to party with my roomies and end up usually staying all weekend. Dont worry I am being extra careful!:dancy:

[merlo]

Freaking Jerks....borrow someone's pitbull or rott. (and take pics)

[Ptah]

Its too bad you spilled coffee in his lap the next day...

[pooja]

you should find out where he lives & slash his tires just to return the favor.

eeewww. i never go out with freaks like that. not even if its a charity case.

id tell you to go to the police as well but unless there were witnesses, you'd have a hard time convincing the cops that the crazy dude did it.

good luck.

[raminda]

You weren't even close to being out of line, I would have let him have it a lot earlier. I'm not really sure what you should do about seeing him at work, but he's nobody important to you so maybe what he says shouldn't matter? You know what a jerk he is anyway so whatever rude things he feels the need to tell you should roll right off your back.

[materra]

Have you found out if other tires in the neighborhood were slashed yet? Any discussion with the police about him to be sure he doesn't have a prior record of stalkings etc? I think if he left you alone at work you should be okay...just take good precautions for your safety and ...talk to the police about it. They can give you great safety tips. A friend of mine had her tires slashed and thought it was personally only to discover about 18 or 20 other cars in the neighborhood got it from some local juveniles with knives. She was very scared and could have felt better right away if she had called the police.

[Gypsy flower]

No one else got hit that night, but he had no criminal record he hasnt tried to talk to me.. it still makes me nervous when he shows up at work

[materra]

Humph, well now you know what to watch for then. And I'd be damned nervious too.

[Gypsy flower]

nervous and careful!!

[Heart of Isis]

Gypsy Flower,

It's good that he doesn't try to talk to you. I'd be nervous too. Do you notice if he looks at you a lot though? (I hope not).It's good your being careful.
Does he come in towards the end of your shift? If so, I would be sure to have someone with you when you leave. You probably already know that though. Your no dummy.

Heart of Isis

[XanderAmon]

The nerve of him, to still show up where you work! Hrmph. Probably thinks he's gonna provoke you into doing something... Stay strong!