Peaceful Shadows, Please!!!

[CloeOtter]

Greetings all,

Does anyone besides me fine it erritating when others say good by or end a conversation or writen whatever with "love and light" or "Bright Blessings" or some thing similar?_inabox_

I do not like bright lights, I hope I am not going to float in to a bright light when I die, nor do I enjoy having intence light of any kind shined in to my Eyes. I am a mygrain suffer and to me it means pain and suffering. It is partly why I like saying Peaceful Shadows. When we are sick we dim or darken the area we recooperate in. Most people sleep with the dark. When we meditate many people close there eyes to help focus. When we are in our mothers whoms its shadowy and dark. I know I have issues with white bright intence light, so please do not go there. :shhhh: I do not even use white light visulisations for shilding, nor balancing my energys.

I just think people do not really think about what they say and what it might mean to others, they assume its a possitive saying or blessing. To me it feels like people are blessing me with love, pain, and suffering._tsk_

Any thoughts?
CloeOtter

[raminda]

I guess the light's just as peaceful as the dark, you make a good point.

It doesn't offend or bother me that people end conversation that way, I've never even considered it. Since they mean it well and it doesn't have any offensive words, I don't see any reason personally to take offense to it.

[Pesha]

Well I have been signing my posts BB( blessed be) for a long time now. It is how I like to do it. It is a matter of personal taste.

BB
DS.

[dragonprincess]

To tell you the honest to Goddess truth, i skip over these common, over-used phrases. I almost don't even see them.

[Mouse]

Honestly, I never even thought about it. "peaseful shadows" doesnt seem to have the same ring to it... But I spose something a little more balanced couldn't hurt!!

[LostSheep]

I know what you mean. I'm not a bright kind of person eiether. Dark isn't bad. Embrace the darkness!

[Mistress_Ravenshadow]

I personally like 'peaceful shadows' as a greeting/blessing but I understand the well wishing behind the likes of brightest blessings etc and i just see it as a reflection of the persons personality
I am a shadow dweller and prefer the darker side of things both physically and spiritually..
some people are light dwellers and some are shadow dwellers and neither will fully understand the others way, but each has its place in the greater scheme of things

[phoenixblayze]

i guess i can understand where you are coming from, but they are just trying to be nice, i wouldnt get freaked out about it

[aluokaloo]

Greetings all,

Does anyone besides me fine it erritating when others say good by or end a conversation or writen whatever with "love and light" or "Bright Blessings" or some thing similar?_inabox_

I do not like bright lights, I hope I am not going to float in to a bright light when I die, nor do I enjoy having intence light of any kind shined in to my Eyes. I am a mygrain suffer and to me it means pain and suffering. It is partly why I like saying Peaceful Shadows. When we are sick we dim or darken the area we recooperate in. Most people sleep with the dark. When we meditate many people close there eyes to help focus. When we are in our mothers whoms its shadowy and dark. I know I have issues with white bright intence light, so please do not go there. :shhhh: I do not even use white light visulisations for shilding, nor balancing my energys.

I just think people do not really think about what they say and what it might mean to others, they assume its a possitive saying or blessing. To me it feels like people are blessing me with love, pain, and suffering._tsk_

Any thoughts?
CloeOtter



I like hearing both, but I also like the other saying Dark Blessings. Whether someone wishes me light or dark its a blessing and I thank them for it, some people get irritated, so I don't say it to them.

Dark Blessings to those who want it, Bright Blessings to those who want them, Bright and Dark Blessings those who would like both. Yes that was my feisty side. :)

[argento_occhi]

I can see where you're coming from, but I don't have a problem with it. It's just a greeting/salutation. I wouldn't dwell on it too much.

Argent

[DixieWitch]

Well you won't ever see those words in my posts because I don't use them. But just because, Dark Blessings to you that you may one day not suffer migraines.

[CloeOtter]

Thanks to all who have replyed so far.

I think that making Peaceful Shadows the title led others to think that it is my request or sujestion for use or something. Sorry not my intent. Its just the one I like to use and kind of a example, plus couldn't think of another way to start off. I like the "Dark Blessings" as well. Some times I just say or write "Peace". Feel free to use "Peaceful Shadows" if you like I have no patint on it. :rolleyes:

Believe me, I do understand that when people use these greetings/blessings most are with good intent. But I have to say more frequintly I have seen people talking to say "others" of different faith/religion/ or subculture and its as if their are trying to use their words to move people into the right path or have spirit notice these different people by focusing on them and saying the...for example "Love & light" It feels like there really saying "I'll pray for you" or "I've found one. Look hear spirit!" or some such.

I have even met someone who told me they were doing god's or spirit's work by shining bright light on/to others to bring healing. And she did not ask that person if that was alright with them nor, just let them know she was doing it.

Anyway, I know it shouldn't erritate or bug me when others greet or bless in that manor. Most of the time I do not even think about it, but lately I have notice more and more how others sometimes (like I said) seem to be putting more energy or intent when saying such things. This makes me uncomfertable.

As a pacticing Witch I know pushing energy where it has not been invited can infulence or make things happen that might not have been intended or welcomed by the person focused on. We are taught to take resposability, are they?
Just some thoughts,:rant:
Cloe

[argento_occhi]

See, for me, when I use it, it's more of a generic blessing rather than any attempt to "show people the light" or something. What's wrong with that? I mostly use senebty anyway now, which is just a blessing for health. But, I can see it being pushy like that. I don't think anyone intends it to be like that, though. I don't think it's right if they do that with that intention. There's nothing wrong with asking the Universe for a generic blessing on someone, is there?

Argent

[CloeOtter]

See, for me, when I use it, it's more of a generic blessing rather than any attempt to "show people the light" or something. What's wrong with that? I mostly use senebty anyway now, which is just a blessing for health. But, I can see it being pushy like that. I don't think anyone intends it to be like that, though. I don't think it's right if they do that with that intention. There's nothing wrong with asking the Universe for a generic blessing on someone, is there?

Argent

I do not see anything wrong with just leaving it up to Universe/spirit, but I do feel it is wrong if you are asking it gets fixed a certain way. Through a certain energy, path, or whatever.
Does that make sence?

[argento_occhi]

I agree. Deliberately directing the energy I think is wrong, but a generic blessing is fine in my books. We're on the same page here, I think.

Argent

[Toki Wartooth]

I just think most of those sayings are overused.

Other than that, I don't think on them much.

[Iris]

I do not like bright lights, I hope I am not going to float in to a bright light when I die, nor do I enjoy having intence light of any kind shined in to my Eyes. I am a mygrain suffer and to me it means pain and suffering.

But...it's not meant literally.

And I wouldn't interpret 'love and light' as anything akin to being told 'I'll pray for you'. I've had people tell me they intend on praying for my soul, and it makes me feel so patronised...but I really don't see 'love and light' as similarly oppressive in any way.

[elfmage]

"Goodbye" is an abbreviation of "God be with you." Personally, I don't find it 'offensive' when someone says "goodbye" to me, or when a Christian correspondant signs off with "God Bless you." It's just their own personal take on things; the individual's context is what gives it meaning to them. You said it yourself, to you it means something different to perhaps what others intend. I doubt they do it consciously wishing for you to associate a farewell with "pain and suffering."

(I too suffer migraines, and know how you feel, but honestly, I don't associate the term "Light and Love" with those connotations. It's an individual thing, I guess.)

I think I'll stick with "farewell" or "goodbye" for now... there is little room for interpretation!

[9-2-2]

Greetings all,

Does anyone besides me fine it erritating when others say good by or end a conversation or writen whatever with "love and light" or "Bright Blessings" or some thing similar?_inabox_

I do not like bright lights, I hope I am not going to float in to a bright light when I die, nor do I enjoy having intence light of any kind shined in to my Eyes. I am a mygrain suffer and to me it means pain and suffering. It is partly why I like saying Peaceful Shadows. When we are sick we dim or darken the area we recooperate in. Most people sleep with the dark. When we meditate many people close there eyes to help focus. When we are in our mothers whoms its shadowy and dark. I know I have issues with white bright intence light, so please do not go there. :shhhh: I do not even use white light visulisations for shilding, nor balancing my energys.

I just think people do not really think about what they say and what it might mean to others, they assume its a possitive saying or blessing. To me it feels like people are blessing me with love, pain, and suffering._tsk_

Any thoughts?
CloeOtter

Keep in mind that when they say "Love & Light" or "Bright Blessings", they aren't intending on blasting you with skin-melting UV radiation or searing, seizure-inducing radiance. :p

If you don't like it, try "Blasted Be! :) " for a while, I actually find it to be a funny turn of phrase I used for a couple of years...

Just eliminate "light", "bright", and "radiant" from your vocabulary... if you wanna talk about a light-bulb, call it a "dark-sucker"... it sucks away the darkness and, well, leaves behind the fallout... :p

[charmedkisses1]

I don't say anything like that at the end of a conversation but I don't mind it because people don't use it in a mean way.

[ShadowcatX]

You asked for thoughts so here mine are:

You should take blessings in the spirit in which they're given. "I'll pray for you," "Bright blessings," and all the others are meant to be positive.

Knowingly forcing energy on others against their will is wrong. Knowingly being an important word, have you mentioned, DIRECTLY, to the people who are saying "Bright blessings" that you don't like it?

If your biggest concern is people blessing you in a manner you don't like, you're either way over stressed or way too sensitive. If it's stress, you need to begin working on it, it's very much not good for you (easier said than done I know) if it's sensitive, you're going to encounter far worse than people wishing you bright blessings, get ready for it.

[raminda]

I just think most of those sayings are overused.

Other than that, I don't think on them much.

Maybe.

They don't bother me much though.

What sort of 'bothers' me is when people say "God bless you" after every time someone sneezes just because its the thing to do.

I guess it's the same as the original subject of this thread in that case.. considering I think once you say something too many times it loses its value.

[FroggieThePunk]

I am no fan of the light either, and I have been known to suffer migraines as well, but luckily I am not terribly photo-sensitive. Doesn't mean I don't do my best to avoid bright lights as well. I understand how you feel, but if most people prefer to think of light as being a helpfull and good thing I let them go. I just make sure never to say anything about light, except as part of an exercise or visualization. Even then though I think of a soft and gentle light, more difuse rather than as solid. Like when you see a semi-invisable force-feild that can only really be seen when reacting to incoming enemy fire. Sorry, I know that I am a nerd, but I think that that is the best way to think of it. I think it helps, and maybe it might help you to. I dunno, go with what you feel is best in the end.

[Philosophia]

As a person who also suffers from migraines and is photo-sensitive, I agree with you about the "light".
But I also agree with Shadow X and to take the blessing in the way it was meant to be given. Personally, I either overlook that phrase because it is very common. Sometimes though, it can annoy me because the person sending it sometimes just throws it out there as if it doesn't mean anything.

[pooja]

i use to end all my posts with "dark blessings". lol!

back in the day. now its just hi & bye... if that.

[Crystal Raven]

I don't mind when people say such things as long as its sincere, I hate when I go to a pagan moot or some such thing and some upstart is throwing Brightest Blessings around in a Holier than Thou way.

[MysticWitch]

I don't find it annoying. The only thing I find annoying is someone will say OMG your wiccan! Blessed Be! Im like huh? Ya ok :lol: THAT is annoying. It's almost like they only say it because its the only phrase they know :hehehehe:

[MysticWitch]

to say dark blessings or dark shadows or whatever.. to me that feels negative.

[9-2-2]

to say dark blessings or dark shadows or whatever.. to me that feels negative.

A common and bunked-up misconception. Darkness brings insight, change (good and bad), and brings one to face his or her own fears, discomforts, and illusions.

Besides, if something is a "blessing", be it dark or light, it's still a blessing. Don't confuse a dark blessing with a dark curse, which is entirely different :smoke:

[MysticWitch]

Yes, but it still feels negative to me _tomatoe_

[argento_occhi]

I don't find it negative. I find it calming. The dark can't exist without the light. But, then, I'm one of those who strives for balance. But, if you find it negative, that's fair enough. I'm not trying to change your thoughts on it. Dark means different things to different people.

Argent

[Xentor]

Ah, the world is one big sparkling happy place, with pink elephants in white skirts dancing on the tones of "It's a small world after all", and the air is bright blue and smells like lillies, and everyone always smiles and only thinks happy little thoughts!

Yay!

[9-2-2]

Ah, the world is one big sparkling happy place, with pink elephants in white skirts dancing on the tones of "It's a small world after all", and the air is bright blue and smells like lillies, and everyone always smiles and only thinks happy little thoughts!

Yay!

Pink elephants in white skirts? People are happy?! Holy crap...
*locks up the moonshine*
*Ahem* :lol: