hexes

[pkm]

My MIL swears that she is hexed. She believes it with all of her heart and I would like to try and help her. To make a long story short she believes that an aunt placed a voodoo hex on her many years ago, like when she was born. She says that she can smell it coming from inside of her. She has sank money into cons right and left and I'm scared she will do it again. I was thinking of making a candle for her but I have to do this without her knowledge since she doesn't really know my religion and well things could get ugly. The whole issue is confusing to me about that but...I'm looking for some ideas if any of you have some to give me I would really appreciate it.

Thanks a bunch

[mol]

Tell her not to believe it. That will help.

[semi]

No offense meant, but there may be mental health issues involved.

If not, working on an effigy might help. A photo makes a fine effigy. Then work on cleansing and healing her through the effigy. I don't know your religion so it's hard to recommend specific techniques. I have used things like a sage smudge stick, a rattle, a cigar, and a drum. Just pick a method you like, one that you are confident will work. Focus on clearing out the bad stuff inside her. Use whatever tool you choose, whatever would move energy best for you, to clear the bad stuff out. Words are also a powerful tool, as is just using your own energy to sweep her out. Even if she wasn't cursed, it'll still have beneficial effects, and you can do this at any distance. Good luck.

[Darkwater Stone]

I was thinking of making a candle for her but I have to do this without her knowledge since she doesn't really know my religion and well things could get ugly.

I do not reccomend doing anything behind their back. It could have negative effects. If you do not want to be honest with her and tell her everything that you are doing, it will have no effect because in order for a ritual on someone to be performed, they have to be open to it so that the ritual will take effect.
Or maybe this is something she needs to ask her aunt about????
I don't know, just thought I'd try to help.

[pkm]

That is pretty much what I figured you guys would say it is also why I have held off on asking this question for over two years, guess I should have kept it to myself a few more.

I appreciate your input though even though it wasn't quite what I wanted to hear :sniffsnif .

[RedRaven]

write up a bogus ritual as a placebo

[Dio]

This may be a silly question, but if your MIL believes she is cursed, and she is willing to pay money to try and have it lifted, why would it be a such bad thing that you revealed your spiritual persuasion? It seems like she may be fairly open to that kind of stuff.

I know you wanted to try and help your MIL without telling her, and you still could. But would it really matter if you did? Most of the time, curses are self imposed. Something as simple as someone saying or doing something odd could have placed that seed in her head. And many times people like to believe they are cursed just because they want the attention and sympathy. It's an easy scapegoat for life's little trials. It's all about the drama for them. Do you really need to give energy to that? If your MIL has a pattern of this type of behavior, it probably wouldn't help her.

Now if she really does believe she is cursed, and she is amicable to your help, then by all means, create something to help her. What she needs is something to help her feel empowered. Merely doing a spell behind someone's back doesn't really do that. I had a co-worker who believed for many years that he had a curse placed on him by some strange guy that was looking and pointing at him. He finally had the courage to ask me if I could help him, so I created a spell to let him take home and do himself. Whether or not he actually had a curse placed on him, didn't really matter. Just the act of doing an uncrossing helped him to lift that psychological negativity that he had been holding on to. And he did it himself. It took very little effort on my part. Just an understanding ear and a few little items that he could take with him.

If you would like to know what that spell was, feel free to pm me. I would be more than happy to share it with you.

[Serendipity]

The mind is a powerful thing. If she believes it, she might as well be. My ex-husband was the same way. He was so freaking negative he really did have a rain cloud over his head at all times. His bad luck, cursed, mean juju, negative self invited more pain and suffering than one person should have to deal with.

[fatimah2001]

My MIL swears that she is hexed. She believes it with all of her heart and I would like to try and help her. To make a long story short she believes that an aunt placed a voodoo hex on her many years ago, like when she was born. She says that she can smell it coming from inside of her. She has sank money into cons right and left and I'm scared she will do it again. I was thinking of making a candle for her but I have to do this without her knowledge since she doesn't really know my religion and well things could get ugly. The whole issue is confusing to me about that but...I'm looking for some ideas if any of you have some to give me I would really appreciate it.

Thanks a bunch
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she is VERRY GOOD AT THAT! she knows exactly what shes doing

[Teresa]

I suggest you first talk to her about your magical practices and then send me a PM I have alot of experience in breaking hexes can give you a walk thru on a cleansing and uncrossing works.

[BeigeAllen]

Okay, the problem is that she is seeing this as an object and thats not what a hex or a curse is. To effect either one is the spiritual equivalent of building a child. The recipient, most often unknowlingly, feeds and nurtures what you have created enabling it to work stronger as time passes. This is oddly enough what a person does with a mental illness as well. So you are going to have to help her to first see what she is feeling in a new manner, but also how to starve this "parasitic child".

The first question is why does she believe the aunt decided to do this? Does she feel she deserves punishment for some action she committed against the aunt? Is there a long standing animosity that led to this? Whether she is actually cursed or believes she is cursed, the underlying issue is perceived guilt. One cannot effect a curse or a hex on an innocent person. This is not to say that your MIL actually did anything, she simply has to believe that she did something wrong to the person to have opened the door either on an actual hex or that is feeding paranoia.

Tell her that you have found places on the internet where she can learn more about how to protect herself from this hex and then show her some pagan sites that deal with hexes and curses. First thing you can share with her is that she is not actually suffering from a hex, she is suffering from a curse. Hexes and curses differ only in length of time. Hexes take a bit or extra preparation and last only a very short time. Curses take less preparation and are long term. Hexes are usually pretty specific in the effects they create, while curses are more able to affect a variety of areas of your life. Curses are also harder to remove.

You should also have her make two poppets. The first needs to have some of her hair in it, but it has to be hair that was cast away (hair from her brush is perfect for this); it should be made from black cloth. The second needs hair as well, but she has to pluck 9 hairs from her head for this one; it should be made of white cloth. The black poppet is a target, and to it she will send all her fears, anger, and other negative emotions, it should be stuffed with hay. The white one is her shield, and to it she will send all her strength and positive emotions, it should be stuffed with cedar shavings. Creating these two poppets and giving them the required energy provides distractions to the curse, it will follow the negative emotions. She will begin to feel a daily draining sensation, but not one that leaves her feeling drained. When the draining stops, the target poppet needs to be locked in a cedar chest, bound with brass, and left in a graveyard; anywhere in the graveyard works and it must not be buried.

Since she has opened up to you about her curse, you can use this as a way to slowly break the ice with her about your relgion. If you are able to help her remove the curse, you will have an ally in your corner that is proof to others that you use your magick to help, not to harm. She can be a handy ally in the future.

[pkm]

I have brought up the subject of witchcraft and a very indirect way and basically it was the Salem Witch Trials without the fire. While she is open to the idea she is very anti-pagan in every aspect.

The conversation actually came by way of a TV show and the resulting conversation let me know that what I wanted to ask was much better left unasked and unspoken. Not only do I have to deal with her, but also the brothers and sisters all of which are hostile at the idea.

I will get to those of you who have offered to help; I appreciate it very much and thank you to everyone who has replied. Right now I’m dealing with the joy of never-ending labor at the email I got today describes weeks 35 until delivery in pregnancy, boy they are not kidding so I’m in a decent amount of discomfort that makes being up for any length of time hard but I have read your messages and I will get back to you.

Thanks again,

PKM