Commitment

[StarPhoenix]

Hope this is in the right spot :) And I'm sorry if it's been asked before.

Was wondering on what people considered commitment in a relationship. And if I was the only one with my views.

Commitment to me means you are willing to spend your life with someone. That's it. It has nothing to do with sex and having only that one partner or not spending time with anyone but them.

Sex is sex, friends and such are just that. But being in a commited relationship means that you are dedicated to that other person in mind and spirit. You prefer to spend your free time with them (mostly) and like having them to come home to.

So what does commitment mean to you?

Yay, got poll to work :)

[xat]

Commitment = dedication between two people in mind, spirit, and body. Monogamy included.

[MysticWitch]

Commitment can me more than one thing.. it can apply to being committed to a person you made plans with and you follow through with the task, but relationship wise, commitment is between 2 people in all ways. If your having intercourse with someone else that's cheating not being committed.

[Xirian]

Commitment can me more than one thing.. it can apply to being committed to a person you made plans with and you follow through with the task, but relationship wise, commitment is between 2 people in all ways. If your having intercourse with someone else that's cheating not being committed.
I'd say I have to agree. But just as a point of argument, you can also be committed to not being committed to someone, and if you and another person agree, it still is technically a commitment, right? Or maybe it's just simply an agreement. Hmmmm.

[SSanf]

It think it means keeping your word even when you don't want to.

Different people may have made different promises. But, commited people keep their promises, whatever those promises are.

[Fate No Miko]

I think of commitment as an agreement between all parties involved. So, in a relationship the commitment is what the two (or more) people have agreed that the commitment is, whether it involves sex or not. If you agree that your relationship is going to be a certain way you should honor that agreement. To me my relationships are Monogamous and if I had sex with someone other then my partner then I would be cheating, but that is our personal agreement with each other. I personally don’t think having multiple sexual partners ever really works out well in the end, but if some one is doing it and all involved are ok with that agreement, then good for them. I consider that a form of commitment too.

[CoolJ]

it means caring and loving both ways and no secrets or lies, perfect love and perfect trust.. if it's a sexual relationship, not to have sex with anyone else while the relationship is going... have to alot time for eachother..

[Aidron]

A voluntary and binding promise on behalf of all participants. What that pledge entails is up to the individual participants.

[Tzhebee]

I say other...because commitment may or may not include monogomy. I'm in a committed relationship, over 7 years now. And it was agreed when we first dated that monogomy was not required. After a few years, we closed that door just a bit...now only partial monogomy is required (same sex relationships are still allowed).

So...I guess committment is basically just an agreement. And is open to change and modification as needed or desired, so long as agreement is reached.

[Morr]

Dedication between two people in mind, body and spirit (includes monogamy)

[Calen]

I think the most important part of committment is that both people expect the same things from the relationship, and both are committed to giving those things. Even in a sexual relationship, it may not include monogamy, but whatever the terms are, it's both parties faithfully adhering to them.

[Broken Babydoll]

A voluntary and binding promise on behalf of all participants. What that pledge entails is up to the individual participants.
Ditto me on this, but for myself, in a sexual and now marital relationship, monogamy is a part of that. But I've met many people in extremely committed relationships that do have an open sexual relationship. To me sex is spiritual and I don't wish or need to open myself up spiritually in that way to other people and I expect/recieve the same from my husband.