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[Divine Wind]

Why is it i always feel alone, isolated and afraid. I cannot talk to my parents about this as they do not know I am gay and I am scared particularly of my dad who is a violent man, I just know what will happen if he ever finds out. I am sure my mother would understand as we have always been close but I am afraid of talking to her in case she tells him. I nearly told them at xmas but my dad was rather drunk and I bottled it.

I feel so sad.

[x ray]

That is very sad indeed. As a mother, my first instinct would be to protect you.
As a wife, however, I woyld feel duty-bound to inform your father of your perversion so that he could get help.

[Little Billy]

That is very sad indeed. As a mother, my first instinct would be to protect you.
As a wife, however, I woyld feel duty-bound to inform your father of your perversion so that he could get help.

"Perversion"?


Why is it i always feel alone, isolated and afraid. I cannot talk to my parents about this as they do not know I am gay and I am scared particularly of my dad who is a violent man, I just know what will happen if he ever finds out. I am sure my mother would understand as we have always been close but I am afraid of talking to her in case she tells him. I nearly told them at xmas but my dad was rather drunk and I bottled it.

I feel so sad.

I would suggest that you NOT tell them. I'd talk to a friend, or google up a local support group.

[Magicfuzzies]

You are not alone. There are a lot of people who feel the way you do.

My sister didn't want to tell my mom and I even though we're not the least bit homophobic.

Find support where you can. One place to start is www.oasismag.com. It seems like a nice place.

If you think you're going to have a bad time with them, why do you feel the need to tell your parents now? It might be difficult but you might want to limit your relationships until you move out and tell your parents once you are in a safer situation.

You have enough safety issues to think about without worrying about what your dad might do.

Take care of yourself. :hugz:

[Earthy]

First of all :hugz:
It does sound like you need to talk to somebody, but i don't think admitting anything to your parents yet would be a good idea, especially if your dad is violent.
maybe you could find out if there are any organistions in your area that could help.
But just remember, thet people her are always willing to listen too, so you're not truly alone :hugz:

[LostSheep]

I woyld feel duty-bound to inform your father of your perversion so that he could get help.
So he could get help in what way ... 'curing' you? It doesn't work like that. it's not a disease. It's not a 'perversion' either, actually, by the way. For some people, beleive it or not, it's ... natural.

Anyway, Divine Wind, i think you should just be careful and not just blurt it out, but equally not feel that must hide it ... or feel guilty that it's a 'perversion'. If you do think you can talk to your mother, then that's a great starting point, if she loves you her first instinct would be to protect you surely. If you really can't tell her, then i think looking for support outside the family is a good idea, so you have someone outside who knows and who you could go to for support. I don't know if there are any groups or anything near where you are, but if you could just find someone to talk to to take some of the pressure off you, that'd be a start.

best of luck.

[morningstar2651]

I recommend staying in the closet until you have your own apartment or house, and a stable job -- at the bare minimum.

[Morr]

As a wife, however, I woyld feel duty-bound to inform your father of your perversion so that he could get help.

SuperMod Mode

Here on MW we treat everyone with respect, regardless of their religion, sexuality, race or background. We welcome people from all walks of life, and calling any sort of sexual orientation a "perversion" is very disrespectful. If you have nothing good to say, dont say it here at all. We have one rule -- And that is RESPECT.

[x ray]

he called me a silly noob bitch in my questions thread. That was less than respectful. I'm just trying to look at the issue from his father's point of view. Perhaps subversion would have been a better choice of word. It's really not my fault if his parents are homophobic, you know.

[Morr]

he called me a silly noob bitch in my questions thread. That was less than respectful. I'm just trying to look at the issue from his father's point of view. Perhaps subversion would have been a better choice of word. It's really not my fault if his parents are homophobic, you know.


SuperMod Mode

If you have a problem with an offensive post or member, you are more than welcome to report the post/person using the pretty little "report" button at the bottom of each post in each thread.

[x ray]

I didn't have a problem with it. my point is that nor did you mods. you are apparently very selective in whom you will deem disrespectful and who is fair game for sexist abuse. as an admirer of Kali, I take it as it comes. I am putting you on my ignore list.:wave:

[mol]

I didn't have a problem with it. my point is that nor did you mods. you are apparently very selective in whom you will deem disrespectful and who is fair game for sexist abuse. as an admirer of Kali, I take it as it comes. I am putting you on my ignore list.:wave:
We can't read ever single post that gets posted. We didn't see it if it didn't get moderated. Report it next time or don't if you don't care. But, don't mistake *that* as favoritism. It is and was your choice not to report it.

[x ray]

I cannot be held responsible for the actions of another. Is the victim of a crime responsible for the crime if they don't report it? These are not mere semantics. I forgive you for your weaknesses in carrying out your duties,; don;;t let me keep you from vigilance now.
And do try to relax.... you sound aggravated.:cheers:

[Xentor]

I cannot be held responsible for the actions of another. Is the victim of a crime responsible for the crime if they don't report it? These are not mere semantics. I forgive you for your weaknesses in carrying out your duties,; don;;t let me keep you from vigilance now.
And do try to relax.... you sound aggravated.:cheers:

And you sound like a troll. You will now be served a 2-day chill pill.

Here are some rules for your conduct when you come back:
- If someone acts inappropriately, use the report button to bring it into our attention.
- If you choose not to report, then so be it. There is no reason for you to act inappropriately as well.
- If you act inappropriately yourself, you can't defend yourself by pointing at someone else.
- If you have problems with a moderative action, you contact the admins privately because, as this thread shows, doing so publicly will derail the thread.

Bye!

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