The not well thought of present?

[Willow Rosette]

OK Victorias father sent a box of presents in the mail. We got them today. But I can tell they are presents either he didnt think about before he bought or someone else bought for him. He snt Victoria cotton candy...just what she needs is candy. ok there areother things like a stuffed fuzzy rabbit that looks dirty and needs to be thrown in the washing machine.

And then he got things for me to. Like a door welcome sign that is so not me. And this ceramic dove thing that again is not me. These things are nice but he has known me long enough to know these are not things I would want or even be able to appreciate.

Not that I dont appreciate the effort but um well it kind of had a womans touch to it. Which if he is dating is not a problem in the least but her picking out presents for Victoria and I?

He is going to call soon and want to know what we thought of the presents and I dont want to tell him it doesnt seem like he put much thought into them but thats what I think.

What do I say?

[Shanti]

I cant help but think of all the dads that have totally left their kids and the kids never get anything, not even a hi from their dads.
At least your daughter knows her dad is alive.

Sorry but my friends daughter never got to know her dad and he died before he ever made an attempt to let his daughter know he existed.
My friends heart was torn out and still is. She so wished her daughter could grow up at least knowing she has a dad out there. :(

[cloudspanther]

well , you have two choices, you are either honest and say, they are not what you expected. Or you lie, say nice thank you, and than get rid of them.

I would say it depends on what kind of relationship you have with him. IF you can be honest and say, umm they are not what I expected and well I am sorry they are not really me, than you can explain further. Or you can just say , Thank you, we will enjoy them. Eat the cotton candy yourself, wash the rabbit, and pass the ones you dont like to someone you know that would like them.

lady bless,
clouds

[BeigeAllen]

How about handling both sides. "We really appreciate the effort you went to in picking out presents, but next time ask me what Victoria is into and we can make sure she absolutely loves your presents the next time." As for what he could get for you, how about a gift certificate to a restaurant or a show that both you and Victoria would enjoy, thereby giving you both an outing together.

[Willow Rosette]

You are right Shanti. Although he is at times not much of a father I believe it is from laziness and not lack of love. As for Victoria's presents except for the bunny looking not so white her presents, although not something I would have picked out for her, are not to bad (I did throw out the cotton candy).

It is more my presents Im having a hard time comming up with a responce for. They are deffiantely picked out by a woman and someone who has no idea my likes and dislikes.

I dont want to hurt his feelings but at the same time I dont want to lie. But lol I dont honestly know if I can not say what I think. Maybe stick with the word interesting lol

[wyldwolf]

You are right Shanti. Although he is at times not much of a father I believe it is from laziness and not lack of love. As for Victoria's presents except for the bunny looking not so white her presents, although not something I would have picked out for her, are not to bad (I did throw out the cotton candy).

It is more my presents Im having a hard time comming up with a responce for. They are deffiantely picked out by a woman and someone who has no idea my likes and dislikes.

I dont want to hurt his feelings but at the same time I dont want to lie. But lol I dont honestly know if I can not say what I think. Maybe stick with the word interesting lol
I think that interesting would be a good reply. If he asks you what you mean by it, just tell him that you appreciated the gesture. Another option, is just thank him for the gifts, and put them up for Victoria. Maybe they are things that she will appreciate someday.