Gentle Passage for My Grandfather

[WtchyChick13]

Ok guys this is it. I just got a call from my dad and my grandfather is slipping away. He's been given last rites and now it's just a matter of waiting.

He's not in any pain and the dr's say he will just go into a peaceful sleep.


So if you have any energy to spare, can you please wish him a gentle passage? It should be within the next 24 hours if not sooner. :(

Thanks guys. :hugz:

[Karissma]

so sorry hun. *hugs* Energy sent.

[Yasmine Galenorn]

WC...hon...will say a prayer for your grandpa. I am so glad--for your sake and his--that his passing will be peaceful. It makes so much difference, in the end. That's what I wanted for my mother and sister, and they didn't get to go that way, so hon, embrace the fact that he won't suffer. It's small comfort, but it's truly one that will sustain you as time goes on and the shock wears off.

Love and hugs to you, my dear.

Yazza :colorful:

[Aleannah]

I've lit a candle and sent comforting and soothing energies :hugz:

[~Elise~]

gentle passing energy sent for him and comforting energies for you and yours.

Elise

[TaysatWesir]

gentle passage energy sent! :hugz:

[Lone Wolf]

So sorry to hear about your grandfather. Sending gentle passing energy.:hugz:

[Willow Rosette]

Of course :hugz:

[MammaStar]

You've got it as always my friend. For you and for Dad. I'll be over soon. :hugz: :heartthro

[WtchyChick13]

Thanks guys. So far no word. I'm making my lists (and yes, checking them twice) to see what I still need to do and what I need to get for the few days I'll be down there....I'm also still trying to track down some family members that we haven't spoken to in years and then I'm hopefully going to get some sleep. (As soon as I unplug my downstairs neighbor's tv! AHHHHH she's so deaf!) Ok, done with that.

Need to go right now and do the dishes and stuff. Thanks all, for everything. :hugz:

[GryphonGirl]

Sweet peaceful journey for your grandfather....hugs and happy memories for the family. :hugz:

[zede]

:hugz:

[Old Witch]

Energy sent for him to have a peaceful passing...and for you and your entire family.... :hugz:

[wyldwolf]

:loveydove

[WtchyChick13]

Thanks so much you guys. Really. :hugz:

Oh and if you were following the other thread here in energy that started all of this, it doesn't look like I'll be getting my grandfather's apt. Dad told me tonight that the landlord had already promised it to a relative. Oh well.

I will however be staying there for the wake and funeral and such. It's just easier. No tv, phone or computer though--I may end up with a horrible twitch after it's all over! :blushake:

I'll be able to check out my hometown on my own though. It's supposed to be warm all week here (lucky timing) and I'll have some time to myself during the days so I can just veg and walk around. The last time I spent any time there it was with my sis-in-law and my nieces running around so I didn't really get a chance to 'drink' it all in. Since I plan on moving back there, I'd like to see what they've done with the place! :D

Anywhoo, I'm rambling. I'm still waiting for 'the call' and things keep popping into my head. I'd love to fall asleep but as tired as I am, my mind is just racing. So here I am.

Thanks again guys. It's always nice to know that I can come here and ramble. :)

[Brenda]

:hugz: :rubhead:

[BlackMagicalCat]

Im sorry to hear that.

May his entrance into the next life be a peacefull one,

[smckim]

Calm peaceful journey for Grandfather, and condolences to your family.

[Scarlettvixen]

:hugz:

[Shatril]

I am sing a song of joy for a life well lived, for the passage to be peaceful, and for the welcome to the other side to be warm and comforting.

BB, I know this is much harder for you than for him.
Shatril

[WtchyChick13]

Thank you all so, so much.

He passed this morning at 5am. Just like they said, went to sleep and he was gone. He went just as his father before him did and lived to be one year older than his father--95.

We're ok. Dad and I are in full funeral mode right now, making sure calls are made and such.

The one I'm more worried about is my mother. She and my grandfather were very close but hadn't seen each other in quite some time. She is not going to the wakes or the funeral because of friction between her and my dad's wife's family. They were horrible to her at my father's sister's wake/funeral years ago and she just can't go through that again. (Now this is the family not dad's wife--just wanted to point that out.) So she will be home while all of this is going on. She's already having a very hard time with this and is leaving work early today because she can't really function right now. And I get to leave her behind while I go and deal with the rest of everything.

I'll be in and out all day and then two days without the tv or computer and what not. I'm most likely leaving tonight and won't be back until Thursday sometime.

Ok, gotta run right now--stuff to do. Thanks all for everything. :hugz:

[BlueMoon13]

Aw,Witchy, j ust logged on and read the news :(.....blessings on you, your mom, and your family that these next few trying days go smoothly as possible.:rubhead:

[EarthWhispers]

I'm a bit late on wishing your Grandfather a gentle passage. Instead, I will send my wishes that you and your family are brought through this time with love and peace. Extra energy for your mom... its tough enough to deal with the loss of someone close. Its unfortunate that she can't be there to say her goodbyes. Many :hugz:

[MammaStar]

hey, if you see this...give Mom a hug. I'll see you later tonight. :hugz:

[Old Witch]

Love ya sweetie and energy sent to help you deal with the stuff you gotta do. :smooch:

[Scarlettvixen]

:hugz: to u and yr mum

[Semele]

I am glad to hear his passing was peaceful and in his sleep. I hope the wakes and funeral are good experiences for all involved. I will send an extra dose of energy and hugs for your mom.

[MammaStar]

Everything is going pretty good. The wake was yesterday and Wtchy was doing her thing. She had me and her brother there and lots of family/friends that she hadn't seen in a while. Her Dad is holding up well, I kept having to tell him to sit down some. he just got knee replacement and he was complaining that he was hurtin'.

In between the viewing times, Wtchy and I went out and we found a store that we wished existed when we were younger. It was called "Earth Lights" but has new owners. We bought stuff, then we went to the local bar and just hung out. Had a drink for her Grandpa and something to eat. Giggled when we saw a few people we knew 'back in the day'.

She wanted me to tell everyone thank you for all the good thoughts and energy sending her way. She appreciates it all. The funeral is today and she'll be heading back home today. *sigh* i can't wait till she moves back home, then i can hang out with her more. anyhoo...thanks again from her and from me and the family as well. :hugz:

[DragonsChest]

Oh NO!!! I only saw this thread now, how could I have missed it? *kicks self hard* Wtchy, hun, I am so sorry I only now could be sending you and your family love and prayers, I feel horrible that I wasn't there earlier. *WAH*

A blessed trip to the other side for you Grandfather, for healing for your mom and father, love for you and yours, my dear, I grieve with you, and I cry with you.

:hugz:

[Pesha]

My gracious, I just saw this myself. I hope the passing was peaceful. Healing of heart and soul to your family.

BB
DS.

[WtchyChick13]

Hey all, I'm back. Been a long couple of days but it's over now.

I have to say it went soooo much better than I thought it would--a LOT of laughing going on!

It was also great to reconnect with so many people that I've known since the day I was born. Dad's friends from when HE was a child showed up and once the stories started, well, let's just say they had to kick us out of the funeral home last night!

A lot more people showed up than we thought and considering the very short notice of it all, it was quite impressive. (Not bad for a cranky old man!)

I met relatives that I never knew I had and one that I was really kind of sorry that he's related to me (if ya' know what I mean :lol: ). A lot of numbers and email addresses were exchanged these last two days and I'm grateful for every one of them.

I think it's going to really hit Dad this weekend. He went back home today and when he gets there he's going to be hit with the hospital type set up that they did in their dining room and then Sunday is the final clean-out of my grandfather's apt. I was able to take some things myself today which felt a bit strange actually...it felt like I was robbing the place!

All in all I think it went great. I really wasn't 'upset' per se, so I was able to hold it together for everyone else. (As SugarMags will tell you--I'm forever the 'hostess!')

Oh and what could've been a very bad situation turned itself around quickly when I got the call from my mother this morning saying that she wasn't coming to the mass. I was VERY happy she didn't. Y'all know she hasn't been handling things well and she couldn't even talk about it the last few days. I was more worried that I'd be so worried about her during the mass that I wouldn't be able to focus on dad or have trouble while I was up on the pulpit doing the readings. (Oh yeah, the nun that was there, an old friend of mine was trying to psyche me out by saying as she's leading me up to the pulpit, "hey watch that first step when you come down....nothing ruins a funeral faster than a granddaughter flat on her face! :lol: )

Everything went fine. The guy at the home who arranged this with my father 3 years ago was outstanding and just a big teddy bear of a guy. He was so good about every detail including the online guestbook/website.

What made dad's day was that as we were leaving the cemetery, this gentleman offered the suggestion to dad that on the headstone they include, "Beloved father and grandfather." Dad wanted me included so badly and there it was--a simple suggestion that we had never thought about. :)

I finally lost it at the cemetery since grandpa was buried with my grandmother who's stone I've only seen once and whom I never knew. Across the way from this set of grandparents is my other set and slightly around the bend is my aunt.

I only knew one grandparent my whole life and how amazing was it that he lived soooooooooooooo long! 95 man. The energizer bunny until the end as well as a Yankee fan to the end! One of the last things he said (coherently) was, "Joe Torre is still the manager of the Yankees!" :lol:

Yes he was crotchety, he was the Archie Bunker of his family, he could be a real bastard when he wanted to be...but he could also have his moments of cuteness and silliness and of course, he flirted with the women (nurses) up until hours before he died. lol One of the best lines of the day came from one of his best friend, "hey it's a good thing he died when he did. He was getting so bossy there at the end that a couple of us were getting ready to kill him ourselves!" :rotfl:

Now it's on to the next phase...dad's next knee replacement surgery had to be postponed but luckily, only by a week. So he goes in on the 25th.

I'm sick as a dog. Started Tuesday night and keeps on going tonight. I know some of it is from the tired, but see, I've got this growth on the side of my neck that keeps getting bigger (or as SM and I were calling it, the 'alien'). It hurts like hell now and actually has me a little worried. I'm hoping it will go down by itself since we can't really afford a trip to the drs right now. Just bad timing. In a few months, no problem, but not now. :rolleyes:


So now I'm off to a very early bed time--LOTS of Nyquil and hopefully I'll be able to sleep through the night which is something I have't been doing lately.

Thank you all so much for the hugs, the energy, the warm wishes and just for being there! It's incredible to know that I can come home from something like this to a such an amazing support system. :hugz:

And a very, VERY, VERY special thank you to SugarMags for being there and being there and being there. I will just leave you with this: IT'S JUDY! :rotfl: :huddle:

[mystyheart]

:hugz:

Peace and blessings,

[DragonsChest]

Thank you, SugarMags, for being with our Wtchy during this time. :hugz:

[Kalika]

_pounce_

Hang in there hon.

[WtchyChick13]

Thanks guys. :hugz:

By the way, I've named the lump in my neck 'Herbie'. We need Herbie to go away now, he hurts a lot! :blushake:

Dad called earlier, he's a mess. He still has so much to do and not a lot of time to do it. He's not thinking clearly either--he cut someone off without realizing it, although he did catch up with the guy at the gas station and apologized....so thankfully, no road rage incident.

Besides Herbie, I just feel hungover and exhausted. I've got so much going through my head right now and all I want to do is sleep. But I've got a birdie here who missed me terribly and he's making up for lost time so I'm good. :)

I may ramble here from time to time (just a warning) but want to thank you guys for everything. :huddle:

[MammaStar]

:hugz: I'm always around oh short one. And remember this all: Nyquil is a vegetable. It's GREEN! :lol:

:hugz: to Mom and :hugz: to Dad too.