Some Advice Please

[Limey]

I'm in a bit of a bind money wise at the moment. My national insurance number the equivalent of a social security number over there has gone missing meaning for the past two months. It's meant I haven't been able to work or claim any kind of money.

Basically, to try and tide myself over until this has been sorted out I've been offering readings on ebay. I personally don't like taking money for readings, I would much prefer to do them for free but having no money at all for two months has left me with few options.

Anyway, having seen the amount of people doing readings and the extortionate prices they were charging I didn't feel quite so bad about it. Some people charge £15 whereas I did £2. I just wanted enough for food not to fleece people.

I put my ethics on the auction but today someone bought a reading for a reason I just hadn't considered. She wanted a general reading to try and figure out what direction she needed to head in after her partner of 15 years died just before christmas from cancer.


I'm worried that I would be taking advantage of her when she mus be in a very vunerable state right now. I thought of refunding her money but that seems mean when she's looking for some kind of comfort and if I do the reading what if that upsets her.

Any advice would be great

[SageofThyme]

Well her partner has already died -so its not like your breaking that news to her

So really she already knows the reality of her situation so reading for her to find her a direction can only help her

So personally I would do the reading for her

A lot of people who ask for readings are seeking comfort of some sort or another. If you'd be prepared to read for this woman for free than reading then read for her now

You haven't asked for a lot in return and you have needs as well. It's an exchange of energy and I think turning her away and treating her different could upset her more

[Old Witch]

Go for it...Your reading might just give her a boost and send her in the right direction. And if the reading isn't so great, it can at least give her a heads up and a chance to make a change be fore the fact....And don't be afraid to take the money!

[LisaT4P]

Try thinking of it this way: You're not charging for the reading, you're charging for your time. She would not have contacted you if she was not willing to pay. She probably doesn't feel taken advantage of, so don't worry about it too much. :)

[gidur23]

your friend asked u

those others are right i think

charge her for the reading

and still be her friend

[Limey]

Well I've done the reading and sent it to her. Hopefully it'll be okay, I haven't heard anything back yet but I tried to be honest in a tactful, caring way. Thanks for all the advice

[Kudzu]

It sounds like you made the right decision. Personally, I do refuse readings to people who ask for repeat readings over and over again, if they reference finances. I find that some people do have an addictive personality, and when I feel like they're not getting a positive reading experience, I will cut them off, especially if it is regarding a financial matter. If a person just wants one reading, and they indicate a financial problem or issue, I do sometimes waive the fee if it seems like they're sincere.