left abusive relationship

[mandalamama]

i was finally able to get out of an abusive marriage, it's taken me over a year just to get away. my husband was starting to escalate things and i just packed as much as i could and was able to get a ride to somewhere far away. i'm in a safe house right now. i'm not sure what i'm going to do with the future, i can only think one day at a time right now, about my baby. any prayers and energy is truly appreciated!! also any advice and wisdom. thank you.

[AineDanu]

I dont know you but if you need someone to talk to you can message me on here or on one of the other messengers. Are you and the baby okay?

[TheAquaGoddess]

Positive energies sent your way!

Good luck with your fresh start,
TAG

[Lunacie]

Hey, congrats on being brave enough to take that first step all by yourself. I don't have any particular wisdom for you, but I'm sending energy for you to be strong and wise as you learn what options you do have and move on with your life. Hugs and energy for being safe. :hugz:

[Aleannah]

protection, strength, comfort and healing sent to you both :hugz:

[DaNcInG_WiNd]

i was finally able to get out of an abusive marriage, it's taken me over a year just to get away. my husband was starting to escalate things and i just packed as much as i could and was able to get a ride to somewhere far away. i'm in a safe house right now. i'm not sure what i'm going to do with the future, i can only think one day at a time right now, about my baby. any prayers and energy is truly appreciated!! also any advice and wisdom. thank you.


I pm'ed you. Be careful and may the Goddess give you the energy to remain strong.

[MGD]

Congradulations. I'm sorry you had to go through that. Good luck.

[heathenwolf]

Want me to go and have a talk with him? maybe my sword will bring some sense to this ignorant man!!

[MGD]

Yeah dude, go have a talk with him and bring your sword.

[Xentor]

Want me to go and have a talk with him? maybe my sword will bring some sense to this ignorant man!!

Mystic Wicks does not condone the advocation of violance. I suggest you follow that example.

[Amber Wynd]

Good for you for taking the steps to keep yourself and your baby safe and healthy. Being in a safe house can feel a bit strange at first, but it's often a very empowering and postive experience, especially if you take advantage of any counseling, support groups, etc., that they have to offer. They can also teach you about community resources and programs designed to help you make a fresh start.

[MGD]

This should go without saying but don't reveal the location of the safehouse to anyone.

[Pesha]

Dearling, love and blessings to you. As a former battered wife, I send you healing for mind and soul and heart. Hang in there and do whatever it takes to free yourself from the abuser. Remember you kids and you need a lifetime of love and support not frat and abuse. Hang in there hun.

BB
DS.

[heathenwolf]

i wasnt serious, just thought it would make you feel better. :flamer: It just burns me up when a man abuses those people that he is suppose to love.

[zede]

congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you should be so proud of yourself ! welcome to a new and happier life. it take so much courage to leave good for you! NEVER NEVER go back ! you have just set an invailuble example for your child . it all gets better from here. stay strong.

[wintermagick]

I'm so glad to hear from you and will PM you later!

Hugs to you and 'bean.

[Siqoni]

Well, at least you guys made it out of the relationship, I know a few ladies who never made it out, T.T I hope you two keep safe.

[Kalika]

:hugz:

Congrats on leaving, and protecting you and your child.

Take it one day at a time, and LIVE.

[TaysatWesir]

Congrats on your bravery protection and comfort energy sent! :hugz:

[MysticWitch]

Thank goodness you were able to get out! PM me if you need any advice or help :hugz:

[Old Witch]

Thank Goddess that you are smart enough to get yourself and your child out of there... Protective energy and good Luck sent....

[smckim]

Energy for strength, and prayers for safety sent to you and your baby.
Watch your back and be careful please.

[AineDanu]

I continue to send energy as well but wondered if all is still okay? I hope so.

[enchancea]

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[aislin_ryann]

Sending strength and protective energies your way. Keep strong and safe.

[mandalamama]

thank you all, so much {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

it's so hard, i want to go back home every moment. to where things are comfortable, and quiet (at least when he's at work), and familiar to my beloved cats. mostly i miss the quiet ... they're renovating the house i'm in, so it's noisy and chaotic and we haven't got much sleep. the babe has got a really bad cold with a nasty cough, poor girl :( but we're safe :)

i went to the local DV center and was able to go to a support group the same night! i also filed for temporary custody, went before the judge, and he awarded it to me :boing: so the positive energy is definitely being felt!!

sometimes i get stressed out and forget to pray or meditate, i just feel desparate. it helps to talk about it a bit. thank you all for listening. {{{{big warm hugs to all}}}}

[Lunacie]

Thanks for the update. It's so good to hear that the judge agreed that your little one would be safer with you. I'm glad you've found a place to use the internet and check in with us from time to time. My thoughts and energies are still with you and your daughter as you make this scary but awesome change in your life.

[Little Billy]

i was finally able to get out of an abusive marriage, it's taken me over a year just to get away. my husband was starting to escalate things and i just packed as much as i could and was able to get a ride to somewhere far away. i'm in a safe house right now. i'm not sure what i'm going to do with the future, i can only think one day at a time right now, about my baby. any prayers and energy is truly appreciated!! also any advice and wisdom. thank you.

One foot in front of the other. Walk it off.

You're gonna be fine.

[MalPixie]

Good for you !!!!!!
I have a friend who won't she still doesn't see
I fear for her!

[Lorrie]

I've been there. The best advice ever given to me was to read a book called " Women Who Love Too Much", I can't think of the authors name, I still have my copy somewhere in one of my storage boxes. I have given copies to many women, and loaned mine out many times. When my ex threatened to kill me, everyone told me that it never happens, men say it because they are mad. Mine meant it. I am alive, as well as my children, as much as I hate to admit it, I learned alot about patience from the experience, I am a natural red-head and had the temper, he beat it out of me. I learned many things from it, but it took me a few years after the fact to understand just how much I learned. take it one day at a time, think out your options carefully, give yourself time to get your head together. I can tell you that leaving that type of relationship is a process, you have made it further already than alot of women do, so you are on your way. I am new to this site, if you would like to know more about the process, or just want to talk, or help in thinking things out, please don't hesitate to contact me. I am now a much stronger person than I was then, and you will be too!!!!!!!! I am 42 now, this happened when I was early 20's! I have been able to do alot of looking back and understanding more. You are stronger than you think!

[mandalamama]

i'm so sorry, i have to update to say that i went back :( my safehouse was undergoing renovation and we had to leave suddenly, and no shelter had room for us. things were ok for a few days, then he attacked the babe instead of me :( :( *tears* i started a new thread. i'm waiting on a callback from my safehouse people, worried i haven't heard from them all day, hoping they'll call tomorrow and can come get us. he took the car, all the money, trashed one of my computers, left us with very little food. so i will be leaving again, this time FOR GOOD, just not sure when.

when he hurt me, for some reason i would take it, but when he hurt the babe, OH HELL NO, the wrath of Mama Bear is out with fangs and claws!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Lunacie]

Well $hit! Did you call the cops? Please tell us you called the cops. They can tell him to stay away from the house until you can find a place to go. They may know some places that can help you. They can tell you how to file a restraining order. Just stay safe, okay?

[NiftyWings]

D@mn!! If he attacked the baby, then he can be arrested for child abuse. He probably will anyway, since folks who work in human services are mandated reporters for child abuse. And it's true that the judge can specify in the RO that you get to stay in the house.

Please stay strong...you've got a lot of support, and you will get through this!

As another post said, Women Who Love Too Much is a great book. One of my personal favorites is A Woman's Worth, by Marianne Williamson. I've ended up buying several copies of it, because I keep giving mine away.

I also left an abusive relationship....pm or email me if you need to talk.

[Lorrie]

My ex-husband would go after my kids to get revenge on me when I would do something he didn't like, like not argue when he wanted to argue, he knew I didn't care anymore what he did to me, but if he attacked my kids, I would jump on him with everything I had. It's another form of control. Stay strong, you are stronger than you think, we all are and at times like this is when you learn just how much!!!!!!!!! Just keep your thinking straight, save the tears for when you are in a safe place and can let your guard down safely for a few minutes and cry it all out!!!!!!!!!

[Pesha]

My first husband was abusive to me and my kids. I got out and I can tell you hun, you will feel better soon and all will be well for you. Allow me to wrap you and your child in a protective aura. Healing for your heart and soul sent.

BB
DS.