Wedding question...taboo?

[Tzhebee]

OK, I just know you guys are going to be sick to death of hearing from me and all my planning crap. Heck, I'm sick of it already! :lol:

Anyway, in planning (and I use that term very loosely) I am making a feeble attempt at making a budget. Of course, I have NO idea how much anything is, so I'm just throwing random numbers into a chart and patting myself on the back while crossing "make a budget" off my list. :hahugh:

The one thing I have actually looked into with detail is the cost of the site. We are planning to have the ceremony and reception at the same place (thinking it's better to pay 1 fee for 1 building, decorate 1 time and clean 1 place than to do it all twice...right?) Anyway, every place we have looked at is well over $1,000 for 5 hours. Plus, we have to use their caterours, their bar, their decorations, etc.

Then we found the perfect place. It is a grange hall. Split into two large rooms, so one could be the ceremony room and the other the reception room. The larger room has an attached, closed off kitchen area so we could do our own cooking, it has plenty of parking and very easily accessable for my wheelchair bound relatives. AND the cost is only $450 for the entire day!!!!

So now is where you shake your head and yell out "so what is the problem?!?!?!" Just one minor little detail...it is the same place that my SO was married at for his first wedding. :doh2: Granted, they had a late summer wedding, so it was outside...but still.

I mean....is it OK to be married in the same place? or is it tabboo? or just plain skin-crawly type freaky to even consider it???

Oh...and one more little tid-bit for you to chew on and then spit out. If you look at the core 4 people in the wedding party: bride, groom, maid of honor and best man....we will have 3 of the 4 same key persons in this wedding as we had in his first wedding. :foh:

[Lunacie]

Oh geez! Just elope already. :T

[KaidaMidnight]

Really, I don't see where there would be a problem. So he got married there before. *shrugs* that's the past. This is YOUR future. If the price is right, and the building is right, go for it. Decorate it to match YOUR tastes and what YOU want it to be. Forget what happened there before. You say it was outside, not in the building... so there ya go. :) (Oh, and the whole same people in the party... you can't pick your friend's friends can ya? lol.. As long as your not wearing the dress she married him in... :lol: )

[Lunacie]

Yeah, or the same wedding ring either.

Ya know, I never thought about marrying someone who had been married before, of course he will invite the same people to the ceremony, family and friends. And in a small town unless it's a church wedding the odds are that you'll be using the same community center for the reception. I guess I would just do as much in my own inimitable fashion as possible and hope it was different from the guy's first wedding ceremony. Different dress, different minister, different music, different flowers, different time of day and different time of year.

It wasn't a problem for me, first marriage for both of us, and we basically eloped. We went to the "parsonage" (the minister's house) and he and his wife were our two witnesses. Meanwhile my sister and a friend were out front decorating my car with blown up colored condoms. :lol:

[KaidaMidnight]

Yeah, or the same wedding ring either.

Ya know, I never thought about marrying someone who had been married before, of course he will invite the same people to the ceremony, family and friends. And in a small town unless it's a church wedding the odds are that you'll be using the same community center for the reception. I guess I would just do as much in my own inimitable fashion as possible and hope it was different from the guy's first wedding ceremony. Different dress, different minister, different music, different flowers, different time of day and different time of year.

It wasn't a problem for me, first marriage for both of us, and we basically eloped. We went to the "parsonage" (the minister's house) and he and his wife were our two witnesses. Meanwhile my sister and a friend were out front decorating my car with blown up colored condoms. :lol:
:yayah: That's hilarious !

[Astara Seague]

Yeah, or the same wedding ring either.

Ya know, I never thought about marrying someone who had been married before, of course he will invite the same people to the ceremony, family and friends. And in a small town unless it's a church wedding the odds are that you'll be using the same community center for the reception. I guess I would just do as much in my own inimitable fashion as possible and hope it was different from the guy's first wedding ceremony. Different dress, different minister, different music, different flowers, different time of day and different time of year.

It wasn't a problem for me, first marriage for both of us, and we basically eloped. We went to the "parsonage" (the minister's house) and he and his wife were our two witnesses. Meanwhile my sister and a friend were out front decorating my car with blown up colored condoms. :lol:

my first wedding was the big hallabaloo morman wedding, my second we eloped, my last one {4 years ago almost} was a kind of big deal but we just did it in our yard of our new home, I dont know if the place matters to much but I would try to be different as possible, I didnt have to worry about where he was married before it was in a bar in Vegas!!! I would not do that!:awilly:

[BlueMoon13]

I mean....is it OK to be married in the same place? or is it tabboo? or just plain skin-crawly type freaky to even consider it???


Well, there's no taboo that I know of, and it does sound ideal. I only wonder though, the fact that you've even brought it up *could* indicate that it's making YOUR skin-crawly already.

Maybe can you put a deposit on the place and look for another place with a similar deal. PROVIDED you can get your deposit back of course:awilly:

[StarEyes]

Grange halls are great for using as a site for "small" events where you don't want to spend too much money. If you are getting wierd feelings about having the wedding there, then my suggestion is to do a cleansing and blessing prior to the events starting. That way you are removing an negative feelings/influences that could cause any problems with the ceremony and would certainly guarantee that Diety was present at some point in that building during the day.

[WokeUpDead]

Oh geez! Just elope already. :T
I like that idea.

[Broken Babydoll]

If the two of you don't have a problem with it, go for it! I, on the other hand, couldn't do it. I would not want *my* day associated with the ex.

[atropa]

Grange halls are great for using as a site for "small" events where you don't want to spend too much money. If you are getting wierd feelings about having the wedding there, then my suggestion is to do a cleansing and blessing prior to the events starting. That way you are removing an negative feelings/influences that could cause any problems with the ceremony and would certainly guarantee that Diety was present at some point in that building during the day.

That's exactly what I was thinking.