Arg! Help!

[slovene_gds]

MM~
Okey dokes. Here it is:
I have a friend who is a littel confused right now. She wanted to know about Paganism for all the wrong reasons(which I can't get into because people might see this), but not like, for evil or anything. She has good intentions. So, I lent her one of my books to give her some knowledge on it. She read te first two chapters which hardly contain that much information and came into school the next day saying she was Pagan..................... WTS................I was such a confused person....I still am actually, lol. I've tried talking to her about it, and saying that she wasn't really Pagan, not yet anyway. I tried to explain to her that you aren't Christian one day and Pagan the next....doesn't work like that! And when I try, she gets all offended and thinks I don't want her to be Pagan. First of all, I have no say in what religion she takespart in, so I don't even......blarg, ack.
Anyway, does ANYONE have any ideas on what to do with her.... cuz I don't!

BB~
Bast

[Myst]

Just curious, why does it matter what she calls herself?

Is she harming anyone by being confused? Maybe you should give her time and help her learn what Paganism is rather then try to tell her what she isn't.

[MistOfTheSea86]

But you don't want to her to get into something so quickly without researching it first. Who knows, tommorow she could be hindu then Muslim. Everyone does need to start somewhere true. But they also need to take the time to research. I dont think he was trying to tell her that she couldn't be pagan. But that there is so much more to it then a few chapters and before you delve into something that you may not agree with you should research.

[Myst]

Mist, the point remains.

Obviously the girl thinks he's trying to tell her she can't be Pagan, so maybe as I suggested he should stop what he's doing and start showing her what Paganism is to him.

If she can be a Muslim or Hindu tomorrow, what does it matter today? If she learns tomorrow Paganism isn't for her that's HER path to follow, and a lesson in her life. There's no harm in her taking a little more time to go the best way for her.

[Lavender]

You're right in that you have no say in what religion she takes part in. By the definition of the word pagan, she may be one. Now, it would be different if she called herself Wiccan. She can be a seeking pagan. Perhaps this is the path she's to follow. It's not up to us to say. You can always share with her your beliefs. Perhaps see if she would be interested in doing a study group with you? That way, she may not feel like she's on the defensive.

[slovene_gds]

MM~
Ok, let me clear some things up. I really need to proof read, first of all. I was rambling before so.....yah, lol.
Secondly, I should have specified that she does claim to be Wiccan. I'm know she's not hurting anyone by claiming to be Pagan, but she's annoying off some of her friends.
She's also doing this for the wrong reasons. It's not because it's what she believes. It's because, and I'm sorry Tony, she likes this guy who also happens to be Wiccan, and she never had any
interesting in the topic till she liked him.
She thinks that by being Pagan he'll like her. She also wants to feel more included in our Pagan circle of friends, so that's another one of the reasons.
What I was wondering if anyone had some suggestions on how to talk to her about it. So sorry for the confusion!

BB~
Bast

[LunarWind]

plus, slovene is a girl, not a guy
:shift:

[Lavender]

She's also doing this for the wrong reasons. It's not because it's what she believes. It's because, and I'm sorry Tony, she likes this guy who also happens to be Wiccan, and she never had any ...

:lol: Oh! One of those! :D My advice would still be the same. Treat her as if she was serious. She will change soon enough to something else if what's she's doing isn't helping her get Tony. Does Tony know what's going on?)

Offer to do a study group with her. Maybe on that book you lent her. Two things will happen...she will stop or maybe even find that wicca is what she wants. Perhaps this may be what leads her onto her future path.

[slovene_gds]

MM~
Yah, Tony knows considering he just read it, lol.

BB~
Bast

[Lavender]

Oh! Oops! :D