Child Support

[TheTheologin]

I was just wondering if any of the single parent here get Child support.

Right now I'm in a real bad mood because it's the 2nd and I still haven't gotten my SSI check and that $h!thead sperm donor hasn't paid any support in like 2 months. Not to meantion that for a month before that he wasn't paying the full amount. For two years he didn't pay a cent for support even though we had an court Support order.

SO I have decided to not only write the Rhode Island Enforcement office ( who refuses to respond to the enforcement order) but also to the Mayor of Rhode Island. D@mn!t some one will hear me.

[MammaStar]

Well, I get mine. In fact, his father never really "sees" the money, cause it comes right out of his check. I guess I'm one of the lucky few who don't have a problem. The only problems I actually have is with Support Services themselves. They'll have me on a schedule, getting my check everyweek, then for some reason, they go to every 2 weeks. It screws with my budgeting. Drives me NUTS!

[seawitch]

i'm one of the lucky ones i get $550 every month, and if i need a little more he just gives it to me. no questions asked. and he is active in the raising of our girl.goddess bless him. :smooch:
it breaks my heart to see children suffer for the lack of support and for the lack of an loving and active dad:dis:

[Drisel]

I hope to be receiving my first support cheque in over 8 months. I did have him garnished after much crying pleading and begging with the local maintenance enforcement office only to have him claim financial hardship and have my support suspended for 4 and a half months while he got his finances in order. Unfortunately the office handling everything screwed up and terminated the existing order instead of suspending it and had to re issue a new one this fall. They submitted the paper work to the wrong office and put everything way behind.

I am however proud to say that through everything I did not deny visitation. I don't believe that children should be used as pawns.

My former spouse is a member of the RCMP here in Canada. Because of his lack of ability to uphold the law and those in his office who saw fit to aid him in this I have lost a lot of respect for this agency.


I really wish that parents, be they the mother or father, who are ordered to pay support would realize that they are only harming their children when they do not pay. Support is not a punishment but a way to make the child's life a little better.

[Margie]

My boyfriend gets the support automatically deducted from his check and when he was in between jobs, Child Support office was UP HIS ASS about it (understandably-so was I ;)) I just don't understand how SO many fathers (speaking generally since it's mostly fathers that pay the support) can avoid paying it. Not that we would try and get out of it, but I know we couldn't if we tried. *shrug* It's nice of the mothers who don't hold the children from the fathers regardless but my boyfriend has only seen his son twice in 4 1/2 years. The mother keeps moving and moving and he can't file for visitation unless he knows where she is...of course she doesn't just TELL us-and we can't find her. I dunno. I feel bad for any party in it that get screwed.

[Yvonne Belisle]

My children have 2 different dads the oldest three one and the younger another. I make sure my exes can't find us because of threats to take the kids and abuse issues with one of them. I am suppossed to get $700 between the two of them per month. The father of the three older ones out of 10 years he is suppossed to have paid has paid about 10 months total the other has paid 2 months out of 2 years. We don't get welfare and our money can only strech far enough to cover food and shelter there are no luxuries in our lives because these men don't care enough to pay thier support orders and won't hold a job long enough for garnishment of wages. Even $200 a month would make an increadable difference for us but the kids fathers just don't care and they have both expressed an interest in getting one child each mind you one of them sired 3 and one only one so that they can recieve welfare! It has nothing to do with wanting the kid at all they just want a free ride. When you consider that they didn't take care of the kids when they lived with them it makes me figure that my child would be living in filth with dinners out of a can if the ex bought them anything to begin with! They aren't coming near my kids I'd sooner kill them myself (the exes not the kids) then let them have these kids.

[TheTheologin]

I know how you feel Yvonne. I don't get welfare Either. I get 576$ from Disability a month and bc I have a court order stating that I recieve CS ( or should I say I'm SUPPOSED TO ) they added that into my income and my rent is more. I've offered to let him sign over his rights so that he didn't have to pay support anymore and they would've lowered my rent but he refuses to terminate his rights ( i dont know why he never see's or calls her)He's payed (out of 3 yrs) for a little over 6 months. It really screws my bills up because the housing authority WILL NOT take the child support of my income record even though he isn't paying and yet they want their rent in full.

[Twilight Garden]

My husband gets child support from his ex. The mom is always late. She pays through the 'clerk of courts' now because she used to skip months (or only pay half when she did pay) and try to come up with excuses all the time. She's still been late every month, but at least she's paying now.

[Drisel]

I know how you guys feel. Even though in Canada child support is not considered taxable income the government run housing authority includes it in your income when calculating your rent. On the bright side when I wasn't getting my support ( the cheque just came the other day finally!) If I submitted my pay stubs to housing they would recalculate my rent for the next month based soley on my income. While this is a nice jesture on their part it is a real pain to have to make an appoitment every month and bring in the stubs.

[TheTheologin]

We only bring the stubs in once a yr for "income review". What I don't unerstand is how they can add in an unreliable source of income like CS. It's rediculous.