Divination Weekly Topic ~ Maybe I met my Soul Mate?

[Hope]

Ok so the weekly topics are a great place for everyone to share their thoughts or questions on a certain topic about divination. Hopefully we can learn or share something new for ourselves or others.


This week:

MANY people come saying I met this person and he/she is just perfect I think, and I just need to know is this my soul mate?

So do your own beliefs and instant opinions on the topic cloud it at all for you; as in do you need extra space clearing or grounding or something?

And or is there anything you do different for such queries?


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[Hope]

I KNOW you get asked about soul mates...........



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[mtpathy]

i personally dont believe in soul mates,partly because i dont accept the
idea of a soul,although i do believe in monogomy and marriage.
ive only had one or two people come up to me wanting to ask me to
meditate on there situation to see if its best for them,or bad for them to
persue it,more times then not when it comes to something like "soul mates"
i try to talk with them to find out there idea of what makes up a soul mate
then during meditation i play out the scenerio to see if its good for them to
go through with it,in this way i tend to keep myself as objective as possible.

[Phoenix Element]

Personally, I use the term "soul mate" in a broader sense and apply it to certain family and friends with whom I share special bonds and experiences.

But as for finding out if the person is "the right one," I'd prefer to let time and experience teach me more before I'd try divination or past life regression or anything more extreme. Especially if it's a new relationship, chemicals/hormones in the body will often convince one that their partner is "perfect." Sometimes time changes this...sometimes the partners are really compatible. To me, using divination to answer this question is just showing impatience, a downside of curiosity.

Sure, people don't like being disappointed or hurt and would rather avoid that than go through a "doomed" relationship. But even if this person isn't The One, they can still teach important life lessons that shouldn't be missed.

[RunningRiot]

I think it is part of human nature to seek sexual pleasure, as well as companionship, in each other. Some of us are a little less picky when it comes to who we let get close to our bodies and hearts, while others are strict and distant. I've met both types of people who've both believed in soul mates, so it it a pretty common belief in most religions- as far as I've experienced, that is.

Granted the type A people (the people who have sexual flings, marry someone when they don't know much about them, cheat on their partners, etc, etc) will be more likely to claim outloud at the first sign of something "big" - I FOUND MY SOULMATE!! I've also met people who've found *numerous* soul mates; only to have cheated on them, been cheated on, or otherwise abuse that person's love.

Type B people (the ones who're picky about who they bed and relate to) are less likely to believe in soul mates, though when they fall in love they fall extremely hard and might toy with the idea of a soul mate; though I've never met one who welcomed the idea or admited it.

Do I believe in soul mates? Yes. I believe every soul has mated with another on the spiritual and physical planes. Once you find your soul mate you will never be abused, cheated on, etc, and you will never cheat or abuse them. A soulmate is a perfect match for you, no matter what form or lesson your body/soul is learning at the time.

I also believe in soul bonds; these are extremely close friends or relatives that've stayed with us over time and we understand them (and are understood by them) very deeply; no words are needed to feel comfortable alone with the other and you remain close throughout your entire life. These get mistaken for soul mates nearly constantly; and it is sometimes an easy mistake to make.

[Brighid's Seeker]

I hope this topic is open to anyone?

I always held a romantisized view of "soul mates" or "split aparts" (as my mama called it). I liked the idea, but didn't hold out that it was true. I always believed that there was someone out there that I was supposed to "help out". I did not much believe in past lives or things that happen in the dream world either at the time.

Finally I was out of my comfort zone, embarking on a new life. The promise that I made to myself in this new life was that I was going to be open minded and open hearted. That I was going to trust my instincts above all else.

I did this, and a person came into my life that I immediately knew was my other half. I knew that we had tried to make it work before. I knew that in order for us to have peace in other lifetimes that we had to get this right in this one. He felt it too. I totally went with my insincts. We talked about everything. We even shared our dream journals. In 1995 we had two versions of the exact same dream. Mine was more an ancient historical version, his was a bit more modern. But it was the same two people, the same circumstances, the same ending. The two were always seperated. Always longing for the other. Incidently, my daughter was conceived during that period of time and she looks exactly like him. My son slept solidly during this week of dreaming. It was he ONLY week until his four that he slept through the night.

However, things did not workout. This person paniced. I paniced and really, I was recovering from a horrible situation. I had no business focussing on a relationship at the time. I needed to focus on myself and my children. This is what I understand NOW, at the time it was devistating. I trusted myself and got slapped down. I asked if there was any hope and he said "As long as there is breath there is hope." i held my breath hoping things would change for a while and they didn't. Breath=Hope! Yeah, Right!

I focussed on my counseling, my classes, my career and most of all myself and my children and our healing.

Six months later circumstances brought us back together and we began building a friendship. He began working at my children's babysitters to get to know them himself. We were soon best of friends talking about everything (we were both dating other people and when both relationships fell through we analyzed what went wrong together.) I made the observation that it is hard when someone makes you responsible for their happiness and forgets to do anything for themselves. AHA! I realized thats what I did to him in the beginning. I got so hung up on our soulmate status that I forgot all about everything else.

A year later we went to a friends birthday party. By then he had gotten to know my kids, had seen me fighting my own battles we stood out on the balcony and I commented that I couldn't believe we were standing there together. He asked what I was doing. I had just taken a deep breath of the jasmine scented night. I looked at him with one eyebrow raised. "I'm breathing". DOH!!!

We were soon married. The hands you see in my banner are ours on our wedding day. Nobody even realizes that my children are not his biologically. We are currently working on adoption. I hope the goddess blesses us in that endeavor. My daughter is not his biologically, but spiritually....she is definitely his. They are so much alike its scary.

As for other people. I usually know when two people have something to learn from each other. Not sure that its quite the same thing as being able to detect a soulmate status, but so far I have always been on the money with my teaching predictions.

Sorry for rambling and making such a huge post.

Seeker

[Hope]

I hope this topic is open to anyone?



yes, the weekly topics are open to everyone, and always not just the week they are posted

we want people to come in and learn, and share and ask and answer

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[~Elise~]

I don't know that Rick and I are 'soulmates'. We have been together in the past incarnations and those lives always had a touch of sadness to them.

I do know that he is my mate in this lifetime... but even though we met much earlier, there is no way that we would have ever gotten along. We both needed the seasoning of our past relationships to appreciate each other this time.

There are times he drives me crazy and I do the same to him. I know that we will always try and talk it through, though. we are the ones that complete the other. We are not alike in a lot of way... in fact we are different in lots of ways and I think that is part of the attraction.

Elise

[Hope]

I htink that is a really great point Elise, and a good reminder for those that are looking, to remember to work on themselves, so they are ready when it comes

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[Kaliel]

I check the link between them. Very rarely is there a golden link or a rainbow link that leads into a past life thread, but sometimes with some people there is one.

The trouble with that though is that soulmates are often on two different destiny paths and while they make good friends and siblings, they don't make good life partners.

[Merewyn]

Is it ok if I share my own *soul mate* experience here??? Well I'll go ahead and self indulge anyway...

I wasn't particularly looking or wanting anything or anyone at the time, I was happy go-lucky as I was. I used to draw myself a lot as various characters (as sort of an outlet during those awkward jr.high & high school years), and whenever I drew my male counterpart, without thinking, he just always came out the same - slightly taller, slender, an angular face, and very dark, nearly black hair set in the same style always.

When I was in my freshman year of high school, I remember having a series of 3 dreams - with this one guy in it. He was taller than I, dark, nearly black hair, and I could tell nearly everything about him - except his face was never clear. In the first of three dreams, we were in a house, and I knew our parents were there visiting a family friend. We walked hand in hand through the kitchen and in through the living room. I was so compelled by this dream for some reason that I felt a great need to draw the house, the rooms, the layout. I wrote a brief summary about the dream, dated it, and tucked it away in my closet to forget about it.

Late into my sophomore year, I met Josh. We had gone to different schools and had never before crossed each other's path. When a friend initially asked if I would consider dating Josh after I had started getting to know him, I said 'absolutely not' and ticked the reasons off my fingers as to why. But we befriended each other, and eventually, I fell for him.

A year later, my junior year, we were officially a couple. A couple months into the relationship, I brought him down into my "art room," a section my mom had blocked off just for me to be creative in. I had my best and most favorite drawings and sketches posted up to inspire and encourage me. And one afternoon, as I sat in his lap, I looked around and for the first time realized that his face was plastered all over my walls.

It wasn't until we had been together for a full year that we went and visited a friend of his family... the instant I stepped inside the house, I knew where I was - it was the exact home from my dream all those years ago. EXACTLY. Chills went up my spine, and I gave Josh a very strange look that he laughed at when he took my hand and led me through the kitchen... Later that day I got up the nerve to show him the journal entry and drawings I had done 3-4 years previous. He laughed at me and rolled his eyes as I stood on a chair and rummaged through boxes and odd things until I came to the little book. When I showed him, his laughter stopped, his mind stopped, and he didn't know what to say.

We have been together for over 7 years. :)

[Hope]

((hugs)) of course it's ok

thanks for sharing it
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[HeavensHope]

hm...I believe in soulmates for my own reasons, doesnt have much to do with my beliefs.

I dont know it's really hard to explain with me...um...I havent found mine yet. Well, I mean I've found soulmates..yes, like my best friends and people who were meant to be in my life. But I'm talking like my 'other half', havent found that person yet.

Anyway, the only real reason why I believe in soulmates so deeply and without a doubt is because I just have this "knowing" feeling, like he's out there. I've tried to be logical and get pass it, tried to forget it but I can't, I can't shake the feeling that he's out there somewhere.
I've never been in love but strangely enough I know exactly what it would be like (long story, if you wanna know more just PM me) and I just couldnt imagine being with someone for the rest of my life and not feel exactly that. I know it wont be perfect and filled with eternal sunshine but I'm not asking for that or even seeking that. I just want 'that' feeling in real life. So far, I've yet to feel anything remotely close.

[BrigidMoon]

I do believe in soul mates. Definitely!

[Romani Vixen]

I didn't believe in soul mates. But then I met someone who really seems to be mine. Now.. if we could only be together...

[Hope]

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[HeavensHope]

I believe in soulmates...all different types of soulmates.
Not sure if you mean just the people that are meant to come into your life like friends and family or the other kind. Your other half...

As for the other half thing, I believe in it.
I've loved but never been in love. I've been in many good relationships, some great..with great guys but inside I always feel like there's something missing, this little aching in the corner of my heart. The aching I've tried to ignore and push away but always stays.

I told myself I'd never marry anyone unless I find someone that will complete me emotionally...someone I can click with on a much deeper level.

In case anyone is wondering...no that aching is a feeling of unhappiness or missing anything in my life like career...I've always had my school and career life in tact. I know exactly what I want and how to attain it. For the most part, I feel that I have a pretty good life, other then my current money issues (due to lack of work), I'm a fairly happy person.