phoenixblayze
February 1st, 2006, 01:14 PM
hi all
forgive me, this is gonna be a rant :rant:
ok, as many of you know im the mother of a 10 month old. i also work full time during the day, and because my husband works third shift, i have no help during the nights with the baby....i try to keep the house as clean as i can, but as many of you know, working full time and chasing a baby that has just figured out how to walk around doesnt give you alot of free time. i mainly have to catch up on the housework on the weekends when my husband is home, and then i make him play with the baby while i clean the entire house.
last weekend i was able to do some heavy duty cleaning, im talking about vaccuming the furniture, rearranging bookshelves, scrubbing the bathroom floors, everything. my son was at my mothers for the afternoon and i took advanage of the time to get some things done. the whole time that im working on the house my hubby sits there at watches the football game.....nice. when im done he says that he is hungry, and i make dinner.....all while he is sitting on the couch watching the game.
well, since then i havent had the time to do the dishes again.....i get off work at 9:00 pm, and by the time i get the baby ready for bed, wayne is walking out the door, and im zonked, so i go to bed to. last night i came home, and the husband starts laying into me about how i dont need to let things go around here. i pointed out that i cleaned last weekend, and instead of thanking me, he pointed out things that i still didnt do..........wtf, talk about being unappreciated. he then proceeds to tell me that he doesnt ask me to do much, so i should try harder to clean up, and even throws things that he has had to do to save our relationship in my face, and trys to use that as reasoning why i should clean up more...as if i need to repay him for breaking off contact with an ex?
on that note he leaves for work, i get the baby taken care of....(he didnt get to sleep until 11:30) and after laying him down i stay up until 1 cleaning up the kitchen. then my son, who got a two hour head start on sleep woke up at three in the morning, and seven......so im running on no sleep again. the husband just doesnt get it......i suppose he expects me to stay up until all hours of the night to clean the house the way he thinks i should. all he has to do around here is the laundry and outside work because i have allergies, and hello....its fricking winter right now.
i dont know, i just feel like all the crap that i do, and all the sleep that i loose taking care of his son means nothing. i have thought about going to a friends house for the weekend and leaving him with the baby, just to see how he handles it. i can guarantee when i came home the house would be a disaster area.....
*sigh* im sorry this is so long, im just tired.....
forgive me, this is gonna be a rant :rant:
ok, as many of you know im the mother of a 10 month old. i also work full time during the day, and because my husband works third shift, i have no help during the nights with the baby....i try to keep the house as clean as i can, but as many of you know, working full time and chasing a baby that has just figured out how to walk around doesnt give you alot of free time. i mainly have to catch up on the housework on the weekends when my husband is home, and then i make him play with the baby while i clean the entire house.
last weekend i was able to do some heavy duty cleaning, im talking about vaccuming the furniture, rearranging bookshelves, scrubbing the bathroom floors, everything. my son was at my mothers for the afternoon and i took advanage of the time to get some things done. the whole time that im working on the house my hubby sits there at watches the football game.....nice. when im done he says that he is hungry, and i make dinner.....all while he is sitting on the couch watching the game.
well, since then i havent had the time to do the dishes again.....i get off work at 9:00 pm, and by the time i get the baby ready for bed, wayne is walking out the door, and im zonked, so i go to bed to. last night i came home, and the husband starts laying into me about how i dont need to let things go around here. i pointed out that i cleaned last weekend, and instead of thanking me, he pointed out things that i still didnt do..........wtf, talk about being unappreciated. he then proceeds to tell me that he doesnt ask me to do much, so i should try harder to clean up, and even throws things that he has had to do to save our relationship in my face, and trys to use that as reasoning why i should clean up more...as if i need to repay him for breaking off contact with an ex?
on that note he leaves for work, i get the baby taken care of....(he didnt get to sleep until 11:30) and after laying him down i stay up until 1 cleaning up the kitchen. then my son, who got a two hour head start on sleep woke up at three in the morning, and seven......so im running on no sleep again. the husband just doesnt get it......i suppose he expects me to stay up until all hours of the night to clean the house the way he thinks i should. all he has to do around here is the laundry and outside work because i have allergies, and hello....its fricking winter right now.
i dont know, i just feel like all the crap that i do, and all the sleep that i loose taking care of his son means nothing. i have thought about going to a friends house for the weekend and leaving him with the baby, just to see how he handles it. i can guarantee when i came home the house would be a disaster area.....
*sigh* im sorry this is so long, im just tired.....