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Raynewitch
January 4th, 2002, 08:31 AM
I wasnt going to post this but I have been really down tonight. My cousin hung herself two days ago and it appears Im only processing this now. Its taking a while to sink in and any advice on how to handle not breaking down completely would be appreciated.

hell my post isnt even making sense.

Faery-Wings
January 4th, 2002, 08:36 AM
I have no advice right now, but I do have ((((((((((((((huge hugs))))))))))))). I don't think there is anything I can say that will make you feel better, but please know that I am praying for you and your cousin and that you both and your families may find peace. I imagine it will take time to process and accept what has happened. Is there a counselor you can talk to? There are the MW counselors here.

Here is another (((hug)))

Chris

Old Witch
January 4th, 2002, 10:08 AM
Oh no, what a tragedy! Would you like us to light candles, send energies? What can we do to help?
Love and hugs, Old Witch.

Raynewitch
January 4th, 2002, 10:24 AM
Lighting candles would be lovely, thankyou so much.

Rayne

TheTheologin
January 4th, 2002, 10:46 AM
My advice is..............cry . Let it all out now or it will be worse later on.

Ball-Bhreac Ròn
January 4th, 2002, 02:04 PM
oh, Rayne, that's awful, I went all cold and shivery when I read it. I hope you get through this tough time in the best way possible for you, and if you ever need to talk, feel free to pm me. In the meantime, I'll send energy. Goddess bless.

Laiste
January 4th, 2002, 09:19 PM
I'm so sorry to hear that! {{{{{BIG HUGS}}}}}

Kahlan
January 4th, 2002, 09:30 PM
Cry, Yell, Just feel how you feel and dont turn away the love of others.. I will light a candel for you and here..(((((((HUGS)))))))
Goddess Bless You and Your family!

Kahlan

stormyray
January 4th, 2002, 09:48 PM
Sending loving energy your way. and great big((((( HUGS )))))))

Raynewitch
January 5th, 2002, 12:59 AM
Thanks everyone, I really appreciate this.

flar7
January 5th, 2002, 01:01 AM
you will be in my prayers and thoughts. How close were you to
your cousin? If you talk about them it helps sometimes.
Especially good times and laughter. Dont dwell on the negative
it is gone and over, only the positive remains. Please post
to let us know if you need more help or anything. Death is a
stranger who scares us all at some time in our life. And how
we handle it is important to ourselves and family.
Please be well, (((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))

MammaStar
January 5th, 2002, 01:09 AM
(((((((((((((((((((BIG WARM HUGMONGUS HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

SimplyStrange
January 5th, 2002, 03:41 AM
Oh, Rayne, I'm so sorry. The only advice I have to offer you has already been offered, but that's not going to stop me. Cry, let it out, light a candle, pray. I'll light a candle, I'll pray for you, and I'll hug you... it can't be a real hug, but the feeling's there.

SO HUUUUUUGGGGGSSSs

{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}

{{{{{{{{{{{{candle lighting}}}}}}}}}}}}}

{{{{{{{{{{{{prayers}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Feel better soon Rayne. I'm sure you will...and I'm sure your cousin is alright, and in a better place, one that won't drive her to that point again.

Flaire-FireStar
January 5th, 2002, 03:51 AM
OMG... *big hugz* I'm sorry.. :(
Yeah, pretty much what everyone else has said....Yell, cry... Do anything to help you vent - don't bottle up your feelings inside (they always come back to haunt you later)

*hugz some more*

mato
January 5th, 2002, 03:57 AM
feel and be there for those who need you to... even if it is only yourself, dont hide from it, that only makes guilt and pain. I'll light a candle... Be well.

Raynewitch
January 6th, 2002, 11:58 AM
Thanks again everyone, this really means a lot....

Today was the first day I got through without crying my eyes out, and my general feeling is it can only get better from here. The funeral is on Thursday morning so no doubt I will post again....

Im hoping she will come to me and explain things (I have spoken to my deceased Grandfather a few times since he passed...) but Im trying not to make it feel like she HAS to do it if you know what I mean...I dont want her bound to me.....

More ramble...