Brother nearly murdered, and no one tells me

[trippingdaisy]

I just found out today that some asshole tried to kill my little brother. He slit his throat with a knife. Another inch, and he would be dead, yet no-one tells me until I show up at the house because no-one is returning my calls.

I know I'm looking at things all the wrong way, and I should be focusing on the fact that he's ok, and my family want to protect me, but this is the second time he's nearly died, and when anyone's really sick I'm not there immediately for them, because I dont know. I'm always the one who calls, who visits, and if I dont I can go for months without hearing from them- I only live 5 miles away from them, too. Its not that they dont care, I know that. They've all got problems, but it makes me feel so helpless.

[Brenda]

oh, I'm so sorry :hugz:
Sending energy to your brother

[MysticWitch]

Holy smokes!
He is a lucky fellow.
Put your hate aside and wait until your brother is in better health to talk to your parents about the lack of communication your family has. I think now is not the time.

[trippingdaisy]

Thank you. He's doing okay now, but I can only imagine what the scar is going to be like. Still, that doesnt matter at all. He's here.

[trippingdaisy]

Holy smokes!
He is a lucky fellow.
Put your hate aside and wait until your brother is in better health to talk to your parents about the lack of communication your family has. I think now is not the time.

Its not hate I feel. Its total love, and sadness. But you are right, and I really dont think now is the time to talk about it to them. My mum just got the fright of her life, and there's other things going on with her too right now. When I do eventually approach the subject, it'll be with utter gentleness, not confrontation.

[Beth]

:hugz:

[kal]

:hugz: i pray your brother has a full recovery :hugz:

[Cassie]

((healing energy for your brother))
Maybe, when this crisis is over, you could think of a diplomatic way to let your family know how bad you feel about being left out of the loop?:hugz:

[MysticWitch]

Its not hate I feel. Its total love, and sadness. But you are right, and I really dont think now is the time to talk about it to them. My mum just got the fright of her life, and there's other things going on with her too right now. When I do eventually approach the subject, it'll be with utter gentleness, not confrontation.


Times like these often remind us how important family is. I hope your brother recovers quickly and I will send energies to him to help him through this time.

[AineDanu]

I send energy to all of you for physical and emotional healing. I understand about family not calling when important things happen and it can be frustrating at times. All you can do is try very hard to come up with a way to explain how it makes you feel when you are not notified about these things, that will not sound accusatory or angry. I know with my family I was told that part of the problem was mom thinks my sister will call and my sister thinks my mom will call and so neither does. Is it possible that some of the time it is simply a break down in communication similar to that? :) Just a thought. Take care and hope your brother continues to do well.

[trippingdaisy]

I know with my family I was told that part of the problem was mom thinks my sister will call and my sister thinks my mom will call and so neither does. Is it possible that some of the time it is simply a break down in communication similar to that? :)

No, the problem is I'm epileptic, and my mum is terrified that the shock will trigger a really awful seizure. Its not that she's excluding me. She has the best intentions and she worries (like most mums!), but I've dealt with disaster and tragedy before, and I'm still here :).

[AineDanu]

Hugss. It is understandable of her to worry about you. I was thought to be epileptic until I was 15 when I was re-diagnosed. So I understand something of the parental fears about that. :) I hope you can find a gentle way to re-wire their thinking so they will include you immediately. If it works let me know what you said lol I still can't get mine to tell me anything. :D

[trippingdaisy]

:lol: No problem.

[Salanthos]

you might tell them you worry/panic more when left out of the loop. nobody in my family would dream of leaving anyone else out, because if its not told right, massive panic ensues. I can imagine if a similar situation happened to us, my parents would call and say my brother got hurt, he's alive, this is what happened, because if someone else found out and told me first they would probably just say he got his throat cut and nothing else! I'd be panicking at the second, but at the first, just worrying. Try explaining it like that, it might help.

[damnyana]

healing energy for your brother
hope he's ok
he's a lucky guy
i hope that you find a way to speak to your parents about it, but i agree that now is not the best time to raise the subject

[Astara Seague]

hope your brother is doing better, put your energy towards him then see if you can talk to your family, and Im sure it doesnt help much but your not alone, I almost lost my sister last summer and noone told me until she was nearly gone, it irrates me to no end! she is in a mental facility {has been for years} my parents say I am part of the reason she is there which also pisses me off, they wont even put me on the guest list just cause I have stopped her from killing herself so many times I guess I know she has issues but I also know she loves me and I love her,well at least I hope she knows, I mail her notes all the time, and that is all I can do! at least you get to see your brother!

[Contra Mundum]

Oh that´s terrible ,i´m so sorry.
Do you know who did this?
Must be so hard for you all.
I hope he makes a fast and full recovery

[trippingdaisy]

hope your brother is doing better, put your energy towards him then see if you can talk to your family, and Im sure it doesnt help much but your not alone, I almost lost my sister last summer and noone told me until she was nearly gone, it irrates me to no end! she is in a mental facility {has been for years} my parents say I am part of the reason she is there which also pisses me off, they wont even put me on the guest list just cause I have stopped her from killing herself so many times I guess I know she has issues but I also know she loves me and I love her,well at least I hope she knows, I mail her notes all the time, and that is all I can do! at least you get to see your brother!

Thats awful. Energy and hugs to you and your sister- I hope you get to see each other soon. I havent seen my brother yet, as he's working away, but I just managed to speak to him, and he's ok. He's still a little shaken, but says he's healing brilliantly (thanks you guys!!!!!:hugz: ). I nearly fainted when he told me about how much blood he lost. He is so damn lucky, and he knows it. They have got the guy who did it, so we'll see what happens there.

[BlueMoon13]

Thats awful. Energy and hugs to you and your sister- I hope you get to see each other soon.
Ditto!
I havent seen my brother yet, as he's working away, but I just managed to speak to him, and he's ok. He's still a little shaken, but says he's healing brilliantly (thanks you guys!!!!!:hugz: ). I nearly fainted when he told me about how much blood he lost. He is so damn lucky, and he knows it. They have got the guy who did it, so we'll see what happens there.
WOW! I'm glad they got the guy, and that your brother's on the mend :cheers: