How often do you argue with your SO?

[Fairy Disturbed]

from small stuff , to big stuff......or do you argue all the time about nothing, or are ya'll like roses in a field and never argue. and since i haven't mastered the whole poll thing.

is it everyday
once a week
once a month
very rarely
never

[illusi0ns4u2luv]

I honestly don't think I could put one of those labels on it since it feels like we go through phases. Sometimes it feels like we do nothing but argue, other times it feels like we hardly ever argue at all.

At this moment I would be apt to say we argue constantly though since we just argued about how much we argue!! LOL, ohhhh the wonders of love! Ask me in another week and it could be a completely different story. We are honestly working towards arguing less and less, however again, it only happens in phases so sometimes it's like we don't even feel the need to work on it. Quite confusing to me sometimes!

[Deranged Hermit]

We have no reason to argue, because I'm always right. :hahugh: Seriously though, we rarely argue anymore. In the early years, we argued at least once a week, and I mean a big blow-out. Then for a few years I would let things build up until I blew up over just one too many tiny little things. (the last straw, so to speak). Now either we're more mature, or just out of energy. :cheers:

[Shanti]

Argueing isnt soemthing that we part take in. We talk sure. We get irritated for short spurts but nothing ever turns into an arguement. We have 3 things going for us.
1 We see most things simular and we agree most of the time.
2 we are both pacifist and loath arguing.
3 Neither of us minds compromising! :)

And one almost forgotten we can honestly agree to disagree even though its rare we have that differant of an opinion!

[Qumran]

We rarely argue. Maybe a couple times a month. We disagree about little piddley stuff, like everyone else does, but we hardly ever let it escalate into anything like an argument.

So many arguments can be avoided if you really pay attention to what your SO is saying and try to UNDERSTAND where they are coming from before you draw up the battle lines!!

[Gypsy flower]

we havent really argued yet.. I hope we never do, right now we talk about everything and anything

[Chibi-Fallon]

I sort of pick fights sometimes. 8O But she's really easy going and for the most part we're mad at each other for an hour to 6 hours and then make up.

[LadyKaty]

Lately, we've been arguing a lot.

Of course, that's because DH has been engaging in untrustworthy behavior. Not because either one of us has been in a "mood", but because when one person betrays your trust (no, he didn't have an affair, he lied to me, and betrayal is betrayal), there's something very deeply wrong.

So, we've been arguing at least once a week for the last month. I'm more than a little tired of it, but then, I'm more than a little tired of the crap I'm getting from him.

[Mistress_MinPin]

When Don't We Argue????

[Ziana]

sometimes we argue at lot, as in big major, me crying, him frustrated fights. (I think we have actually had two of those in the 1yr 8mths we have been together) But then other times we have minor disagreements. Usually because he refuses to compromise, and I get tired of feeling like a doormat and explode all over him. Then he realizes the value of compromise and gives in. :idea: Sometimes it's just a matter of who is PMSing more, me or him. Those are the days I long for the phone to ring and call him to work. He's currently off work for a couple weeks, so we shall see how long it takes before I run in here screaming lol.....

[wintermagick]

Not often at all.

[AlleyCat]

All the time, its usually me screaming and him trying to come up with a bs excuse as to why the washing up wasnt done before the mold mutated the plates into new and wonderful creatures that walked out the backdoor and I refuse to cook which makes him cranky because hes hungry but we agreed when we moved in together I cook, he washes up, only fair as I am expected to clean the rest of the bloody house as well..

All in all our fights dont last very long, and we love each other even when we are yelling at each other, he just needs more training lol

[Faelon_Moon_Hawk]

we argue alot >_< and neither one of us knows really how to fix it. for the first year or so we didn't really argue, but after that we kinda vary from arguing montly to weekly. Generally its over little stupid stuff...with disproportionately large arguments about it wich generally end rather ambiguously -_-;; of course it doesn't help that we are both tremendously stubborn ^^;; Oh, and we've been together for over 3 years now. Lately tho, we've been pretty good...hopefully it will continue, cause we just got out of a pretty tough cycle of arguments. I think we are just mostly working out how to live together and get our lives to merge (which is hard considering we generally work opposite shifts and rarely have the same days off).

[Mother Goose]

We rarely fight. We used to fight a lot....with me usually being the one who picked the fight, but I've grown up since then. :D

[thornblossom]

We are both very stubborn and I hold grudges....so we don't fight often, but when we do.... it's pretty bad.

For example, the last fight we actually got into started in 1996 and went on for over 18 months.

It's hard putting that much energy into being angry, so we don't fight much. We ask ourselves, "Is the issue so important I am willing to put one or two years of my life into fighting over it?" If not, we don't start.

The last fight I was willing to start was over his smoking, but after I stated my case he agreed with me and quit (he has heart issues and was in the ICU for a week and I never want to go through that again.)

It's not for everyone, but it works for us. We are pretty content with our relationship.

[Anubis]

Oh every day.. I get out the leather and whips.. he gets the handcuffs... uhm... oopps... sorry.. wrong thread

[aislin_ryann]

I pick fights over stupid stuff, like answering the phone.... So that stuff is daily, but it doesn't mean anything. We normally hold everything in and then once every 4 months or so, we blow up and yell and get mad. But then it is ok for the next 4 months. lol

[Akhkharu Asgard]

Well we haven't really been together physically to argue, like whoa. But she will see how I won't take part in it. And how I diffuse it with my lunacy.

[pawnman]

Probably once a week or so.

[SilverClaw]

It really depends on circumstances in my opinion as to how much arguing big or small gets done.

[Thunder]

In twenty-five years. We always seems to know when the other is near the edge. The calm one pulls the other in.

[Nighthawk]

I will discuss and things will be dealt with quickly. I will make the final decision. I always hope I make the right one when it happens.

[pawnman]

I will discuss and things will be dealt with quickly. I will make the final decision. I always hope I make the right one when it happens.

Yeah, that's what I thought. It's amazing how flexible that "final decision" can become when Mrs. Pawnman gets angry.

[Kalika]

..hmm... Probably at least once a week. Sometimes more.

We're both tired, and stressed though... so we yell, get it out of our systems, and go on our merry little ways.

He's anal, I'm laid-back... so that clashes pretty consistently. :p

[Athena-Nadine]

My husband and I don't argue. If we have an issue with something, we have a conversation and find ways to address it. We don't believe in yelling, screaming, and saying hurtful things to each other just because we're angry. I grew up in a house like that and it was horrible.

[Faeawyn]

Once a month, like clockwork. Then we look at the calendar and say "Ooohhhh....its THAT time"...and we stop :lol:

[phoenixblayze]

im going to say also that it seems to go in spurts for me....we will go months without arguing, and then we will every other day......im in the every other day catagory right now *sigh*

[Fairy Disturbed]

i know stress has a lot to do with it. we've been together for 3 1/2 years, even split a couple of times but always seemed to come back to each other. we argue about once a month. right now we are not speaking to each other except for little things, like can a bum a cig or something, and it going on day number three.

i guess i'm just tired of giving in all the time, its that damn romaticism thought

we are both needy, but he is so pessimistic about everything

[serenarian]

We don't seriously argue, at least not very often. I think we've had one major blowout in the 2 years we've been together. We bicker all the time, but we're the kind of people who talk about our problems and issues long before we get angry about them, so we seem to be quite lucky in that aspect.

[Happy Shrew]

Well, when we're playing strategy games, all bets are off. I really get into game mode, so I'm prone to swearing and saying unkind things, though it always stops once the game is over. It's a good way to blow off frustration.

We're not conflict-averse, but in day-to-day dealings we usually aren't directly opposed so compromise is easy.

[Wintersteel]

I would have to say very rarely.. :boing: but its usuall about trivial stuff.. or outside stresses...

[Selene Starshadow]

Well, me and mine never argue...but the other day he told me i'd better quite smoking and...that made me angry because i've been chain smoking for three years..

another argument i'm waiting for though, is me and my witchcraft, when he is so christ driven. wow...what to do about that...

[Jenne]

Too often. Little and big stuff. But not as often as we used to.

I guess we're growing up, lol.

[CoolJ]

it doesn't talk