Casting out bad energy?

[Green Fairy]

i notice that when things aren't going so well, (like at the moment my SO and i are on day 3 of not speaking to each other due to a fight)

i tend to have real negative thoughts go through my head, some of the feelings i'm having towards him, and some thoughts are of what i fear he is doing since we are not communicating.

am i in some way getting ready to happen due to the negative thoughts i'm having?

[Phoenix Element]

I'm not quite sure what you're asking. But watch out. Lingering negativity practically breeds further negativity. Especially during a fight, negative/unloving thoughts and actions bounce off each other, gaining speed and size...until someone or something breaks that cycle.

I'd suggest taking the first step toward making up, if you want to resolve the fight. Often, the first person to step forward and try to fix things has to work on the more difficult person's terms. If he needs space (you said he's not communicating) see if he'll talk about something else, or maybe go out with The Girls for a bit to dilute your negative thoughts. Because these negative thoughts will only manifest in negative actions, which can lead to something of a self-fulfilling prophecy if this "bad luck" continues.

[Faelon_Moon_Hawk]

i feel for ya, i've been there. what helps for me sometimes is when i take a shower i envision the water washing away all negativity from me. The last time me and my bf had a pretty big fight i ended up doing my imbolc ritual, as part of it i asked the gods to help me do whats right for my relationship as well as to purify me and wipe away negativity clinging to me from the past...since my matron is bast i asked her to burn away the negativity. After (and durring) the ritual i felt so much better than i had in a long time...after it i made the first steps to mend things.

[RunningRiot]

I think bad thoughts all the time, even about the people I love the most. Weird, huh?

Point is: I don't act on them. I don't mentally/emotionally/spiritually or physically send anything harmful their way. They're just thoughts. Nothing more - unless you want them to be.

Alot of people I know take it out on themselves or each other, but taking it out on a journal or a video game works better for me.

[Green Fairy]

maybe it is just me taking it all out so that i don't take it out on him


i'm just tired of being the only one who intiates conversation, i guess its just stupid me thinking that if i mattered at all, he would want to make things right
i don't know...............

[Gen]

It's so easy for fights to get out of hand, even when you love each other. Especially when you love each other.

My husband and I used to fight all the time. With anger like that, it's like conjuring demons. You really don't understand the power of the (at the same time) utterly fleeting energy of anger. No one does. It's like stepping into madness and bringing someone with you.

I found a book called "Anger" by Thich Nhat Hanh. I cannot recommend it highly enough. The author is a Buddhist monk, but he is teaching a practice, a view of anger and a way of dealing with it, that can be used by anyone. And if you're already used to magic, it's especially easy. It's all about the energy of anger -- not casting it out, but making use of it.

Reading this book and understanding more about what anger actually is helped me and my husband more than I can explain in an Internet posting. You may want to have a look at this book, because it will probably help you and your boyfriend too.