Help with an important reading...

[Tenders]

sorry this is long, but I wanted to give all the info

Anyone who has the time or inclination to help me with this, your thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

I often choose not to do readings for people whom I'm *extremely* close to--I send them to others. When the reading involves a question that's detrimental to their lives, I worry that I may color my reading with what I want to see for them rather than what is being shown to me.

Against my better judgment, I did a reading last night for a woman I'm very close to. I'm supposed to contact her with the results soon, but I'm stalling a bit to get some input from others.

She's a married woman who believes that she's really meant to be with a man other than her husband. Though she has never physically cheated on her husband, she does feel love for the other man (but she still loves her husband as well), and is considering ending her marriage to pursue him. I do not judge her, as I know that love and paths change throughout our lives, but I just feel too close to the situation. She wanted to know what sort of romantic path she would have with the other man if she chose to be with him.

I did a five card spread that I've used with much success to forecast romantic relationships. Here are the meanings for the spread:
Card 1 The overall nature of the relationship (theme)
Card 2 The match (are they well suited?)
Card 3 The nature of their shared love (passion, faithfulness, etc.)
Card 4 The long-term cycle of the union (on & off again?, marriage?, etc.)
Card 5 The righteousness of the union (is it good or in the best interest for either of them?)

Now here are the cards that were drawn:
1 Nine of Cups Reversed
2 The Star Reversed
3 Knight of Pentacles
4 The Moon Reversed
5 Page of Rods/Wands

I'm using the Aquarian Tarot, and for those not familiar with it, it uses similar imagery as Rider-Waite but the style is different. It's worth pointing out that the men in cards 1 & 3 are depicted with beards (as is the man she is interested in.) I only mention that because I feel everything about a card is relevent.

So before I share my interpretation with her, I'd love to see what some of you might think. Please share if you have the time. Thanks in advance! :) And if you have any questions, please ask away!

~Tenders~

[Dagda Moon~Lily]

My rambling thoughts on the reading...

Well, I'll give you the highlights of what I see. After I looked at the first card.....it pretty much set the theme of the reading in my eyes. Usually the nine of cups is the wish card, but it's reversed. Even if she gets her wish, it won't be as fullfilling as she may be believing it could be. The Match, are they suited....R Star....I see little hope in that. Knights are an action card for me, I see it as acting on impluses, ....though pentacles are pretty stable and down to earth.....so I don't see an Intense firey passion. Long term cycle: R Moon....I feel that this isn't following the path you were meant to walk, you aren't listening to your intuition at all. Pages to me are the children of the Court cards....I see them as immature, emotional, "flighty" (for lack of a better word) individuals that need lots and lots of attention.

My opinion.....and this is only MY opinion: This path is not that which she seeks. The grass is always greener on the other side....and you never know if you will get 100% grade A grass....or if you'll end up with crabgrass and weeds.

The decision is soley hers. I wish your friend the best.

[Myst]

Beyond tarot readings, if she's even considering this she needs to either move on from the relationship with her husband or decide they can fix their relationship in some way and go about it.

Obviously there is a problem here that needs to be dealt with, even if she doesn't end up with the new guy.

</2 cents>

[Tenders]

Dagda Moon~Lily,

Thank you for your input. Your thoughts on this were similar to my own, especially concerning the first card--it really did sum it up. I appreciate your taking time on this for me -- I needed some reinforcement to make sure I wasn't just telling her what I wanted to tell her.

Myst,

You're right. Prior to this attraction, she's been trying to work on her marriage, but her husband isn't interested in growing or working on things -- he's scared of any change. He's suffers greatly from mental illness and she's been his caregiver for a long time. She sees herself as his mother more than his mate, complete with a mothers love rather than a mate's. This is probably why she can't help but see greener pastures romantically. I believe she feels stuck and obligated. There is a fierce cycle of codependence between them and I pray for them both.