It's so over...

[SimplyStrange]

Ok, here's the story with me boyfriend...well, ex I guess you could say now...

Remember my story awhile ago? Ok, well if you don't, here it is from the beginning.

On the last day of school before break, my boyfriend told me that he was running away to California. We spent all night on the phone, and the next day I went on vacation for nine days...

Well, I got back on the 30th and couldn't get ahold of him, and finally I get ahold of him on the 31st: the day he was supposed to run away. Well we talk for fifteen minutes, though we didn't mention the running away, and he asks, "Can I call you back?"....but he never did. So I spent awhile all bummed and boowoohoo because I thought he had run away, because that was his original plan...

Well, on Saturday, I found out that he didn't run away. He's still here in Tucson. So I call him on Sunday, and his mom says he's busy and that he'll call me back. Needless to say, he never did. And he's not going to my school anymore, he's going to some charter school.

Well, yesterday I found that when I was on vacation, my boyfriend went over to my friend's house...and told her that he and I were no longer dating... (funny that I knew about it first, huh?)

That's not the worst part.

He and my friend were at a party and my boyfriend wanted to make out with some chick or something like that, and my friend kept trying to tell him that he had a girlfriend...apparently, he forget he was my boyfriend and even who I was! (that's what drugs'll do to ya' :rolleyes: ) So he went off with her anyway!! My friend didn't see where they went or what they did...but we're assuming the worse...so apparently, he cheated on me too!!

So my plan was to call him and not bitch at him, but get it all from him...

*sigh* And considering the circumstances, I was in a surprisingly good mood today, even though I found all this out yesterday. I guess I figure that I'm going to have to get over it anyway...and I kind of already am...I dunno, it's not that I don't care or anything, because I really cared about him. I can't really explain it...why I am getting over it. But hey. I don't hate him. I don't hate him at all. I'm just pissed and hurt, that's all. And I know that eventually when I think of him, I'm not going to think of that jerk who hurt me...I'm going to remember that cool guy who gave me a great relationship...and who made me really happy. I just want to call him. I want to talk to him one last time. You know, get some closure...and there's some things I want to say.

I'll get over it...I know I will. I'm some day I'm going to be able to look back and say "hey, I dated that guy" :D

SS

[Lunamoth]

...you've got a good head on your shoulders about it. Obviously he didn't put enough importance on your relationship if he was going to behave in such a way. So, without trying to sound callous in any way, you're certainly better off without him. He sounds like he has some growing up to do and you have already surpassed him in that respect.

Blessings,
Lunamoth

[Laiste]

Sorry to hear all that! But it is good to see that you are handling it very well.:)

[Old Witch]

You go girl!

[MammaStar]

Um, can I just ask.......can I be just like you when I grow up!!!! Wow!!!!!! I'm totally impressed by your maturity to handle this. Lord knows, I was a HORRIBLE person to break up with. Ask my son's dad, he has the scars to prove it.

SS, I totally admire you. I hope next time I'm faced with adversity, I can handle it half as well as you have.

[TheTheologin]

Well sweetie he didn't desrve you anyway. You deserve better than that and you will find it bc you have a wonderful attitude. YOU GO GIRL

[SimplyStrange]

Thanks guys. Thanks a lot. I still haven't been able to call him, 'cause his phoneline has been busy for a couple of days :crazy:

I just need closure, I think.

But hey, there's plenty of fish in the sea. And I'm sure that I won't quite be ready for another guy for a little while...

But even so...I still don't hate him. And I don't think I ever will. And knowing him, knowing the kind of guy he is, some day down the road he'll look back and go "damn...I was a jerk".

And I won't be there, but I'll be over it. And I'll be looking back and saying "you know, it was a good time anyway."

[flar7]

You are wayyyyyyyyy to old. I am glad to see you doing so well
about it. But as a man, I find it frightening! We expect violence,
shouting, and busted stuff! Its hard to handle when they act all
mature... oh well.

Feel free to pick on me if it helps! :) since I am guy and
am responsible for most things that are bad! LOL


PS am very glad you are doing so well with it. :boing:

[Xander67]

SS that jerk doesnt deserve closure,

I know im not one to be giving advice on relationships these days, but if I may offer you my advice as a friend...

get on with your life, concentrate on your schoolwork, and your school play...

use this new freedom to get back in touch with the friends you may have been putting off for the sake of this guy...

youve got the rest of your teen years, and your whole life ahead of you, you dont need to be boggled down worrying about this....

let him see you getting on with your life, let him see that he did not devestate you to where you are beeging him to talk to you,
let him see there is life after him for you...

and if that doesnt work,, you can always come stay with flaire, and us at the fun house in just silly for a week or so... :nyah

[Lavender]

I think there's a saying somewhere that the best revenge is living well.

Hugs to you, SS! :)

[Xander67]

yeah thats what I was sorta impying, but I must add,

do it for YOU SS not to get back at him or anything

[bansidhe]

ohhhh ss!!! i hopethat if m and shaun ever broke up, id be as good about it as you. thats assuming i grow up! :p
*huggles* anyways hun!!! hang in there, tis his loss! *huggles*

[Niamh]

I say do what is best for you!
But I also always tell people not to listen to all of the advice. To just do what they feel they need and want. And it sounds like that's exactly what you're doing!

I'm going through a rough breakup, and people keep telling me what I should do and how I should feel. "You should hate him" or "you should burn something of his in order for ...." I learned early on to either smile and nod or to tell them "this is me going through this, not you!"

I'll stop babbling now! But I do admire your strength!

[JuNiPeR]

break ups are tough, but you handled it so well... Good for you :)

[gunner]

and you're gonna kiss a few on your way to your prince. from your description this one was a particularly vile shade of green (no reference to the "colour war") and rather too warty. and "drug involved"? my thought is you're lucky to get out of that with your arse and your hat still attached. square away your beret, face front and march off smartly, there's someone better waiting down the road for you when you get there.

[DreamSpell333]

u go girl!!! He doesn't deserve you anyway. But don't worry, someone better will come along. I've gone through some tough relationships too, one that ended up like your situation, I was upset and hurt, and very angry. My ex, we were getting along fine, until one day he told me he was moving to NC and he didn't think we should see each other again, because he didn't want to get upset. so he said. I moved on,forgot him, and met silentwolf, I never expected to, but were so much in love,:))) :D getting married this september! Good Luck,and keep your head up high!


MY AIM : DreamSpell333
Yahoo: Cyb31998

[Illuminatus]

This looks like a situation where the Power of Supreme Influence would come in handy.

[SimplyStrange]

Originally posted by flar7
You are wayyyyyyyyy to old. I am glad to see you doing so well
about it. But as a man, I find it frightening! We expect violence,
shouting, and busted stuff! Its hard to handle when they act all
mature... oh well.

Feel free to pick on me if it helps! :) since I am guy and
am responsible for most things that are bad! LOL


PS am very glad you are doing so well with it. :boing:

Hehehe, thanks flar, but it's ok. I won't be picking on you. It's funny to find out that it's hard to handle me not screaming and yelling. :p


And everyone....Thanks. It helps to have friends, and not a day goes by that I don't go "hey...I know some great people". I have given up on the ordeal, and I'm moving on quite quickly. And you know what? I feel great. :d

Love and Stuff

Strangey

[Flar's Freyja]

Actually, you'll probably be saying something more like "What was I thinking?"