How do you deal with hate and anger issues?

[Wizard Ogre]

It's a bit of an open question for anyone who can relate as I am trying to find a way out myself.

I'm very exhausted right now so i am not as expressive as I would like to be. I just know I have to get a great deal off my chest... I've tried several methods... counselling, positive thinking, drugs... and it's the same thing. I feel I am being treated poorly by people for no reason at all. I just don't know what to do... I don't want to hate people and I don't want to think suicidal thoughts anymore. ugh...

[Karissma]

*hugs* If you need to talk, im here for you hun. I know how that feels to be trapped inside and have no outlet, or anyone to listen and understand.

[Little Billy]

It's a bit of an open question for anyone who can relate as I am trying to find a way out myself.

I'm very exhausted right now so i am not as expressive as I would like to be. I just know I have to get a great deal off my chest... I've tried several methods... counselling, positive thinking, drugs... and it's the same thing. I feel I am being treated poorly by people for no reason at all. I just don't know what to do... I don't want to hate people and I don't want to think suicidal thoughts anymore. ugh...


We here at the CotSG say "Sh*t your hate, or you will DIE!"

You ever think that some people DESERVE to be hated? I mean, seriously, is it required to love people like Hitler, Stalin, or Alberto Gonzalez? And it isn't just the big names, either. It's the nasty clerk at the DMV...the jackass who cuts you off and then slows down...the "friend" who just can't WAIT to tell you how a loved one betrayed you...the jerk who keeps talking on his cell phone all the way through a movie.

And then there are people we like to call "Icons of Hate". Take, for example, Mister Just-The-Beer-Talking. You know him, he's the guy at the bar who gets a few in him, and then has to be the tough guy. You say he intentionally bumped you and made you spill your drink? That's just his way. You say he punched out some guy in the bathroom because he thought the guy looked like he might possibly be gay? Well, he's only like that while he drinks. Well, you know what? I HATE that guy. I like to throw guys like that down the back stairs of the bar. I want that guy to be hit by a gasoline truck, and roast like a Thanksgiving turkey...and if you can't handle that, then you must be on some kind of judgemental trip.

Or kill me.

Little Billy,
Knows that it's okay to hate some people.

[Dio]

Knows that it's okay to hate some people.

So true.

[Derestanne]

Don't get angry - instead take revenge!

And the greatest revenge that anyone can take is to send positive loving energy to those who desperately need it.

When you observe imperfection in another, if you will hold your thoughts to perfection and release your love and your own power of perfection into the world of the other, you will render a service you little dream possible". --- Saint Germain

Never give up, no matter what is going on, never give up. Too much energy is spent developing the mind instead of the heart. Be compassionate - not just to your friends - but to everyone, be compassionate. Work for peace, and I say again, never give up, no matter what is happening, no matter what is going on around you, never give up. ---The Dalai Lama

"Love is the Greatest Frequency that anyone can give, receive or sustain". ---Chris Griscom :hearthear

[Little Billy]

Don't get angry - instead take revenge!

And the greatest revenge that anyone can take is to send positive loving energy to those who desperately need it.


Um, actually, I think the greatest revenge is to sic the IRS on them, eat their dawg, and steal their spouse when the IRS throws them in jail.


Or make them wear a tutu in public and sing "Gonna wash that man right out of my hair".

But that's just me.

[brymble]

i've had a lot of difficulty with free-floating anger issues over the winter. i learned a little bit about buddhism in woodstock, and about detatchment, which helps a little i guess.

lately the most effective thing has been for my, um "friend", to come over and give me reiki. he's a wonderful, caring guy and it feels good to be around him.

(ok i admit i've got a total crush on him.)

i mean really, even if you don't believe in the effectiveness of energy healing, how is it possible to stay angry when a sweet, calm, and really really good-looking guy is placing his hands on you? hell, that works for me!:nyah:

[VelvetBlade]

There is SO much energy in anger. Try reading Pagan Anger Magic by Tammy Sullivan. It might help you figure out a good way to put all that energy to use.

~VB

[Gypsy flower]

sometimes I scream, sometimes I run away, most times I clean,or go for a long drive

[Benvarry]

I've felt like that, and still do sometimes... it just helps to get away from people, for me... you know, go into the woods. When you're around people... try to see the good in everyone, because even though it's not necessary to love everyone, writing off people as not worth your time will make you even more unhappy as you realize you are more like them than you thought. I suppose it comes down to the fact that we're all just humans, and flaws in ourselves and others are a part of existence.

I used to be quite antisocial, but now I find that if I work at being optimistic about people and try harder to see them from where they are coming from-- even if it is a pathetic, ignorant place-- I feel less disconnected from them and from society. Empathy is a really useful skill to develop.

I'm not saying be blindly optimistic-- just realistic. If people get the impression that you're going to judge them, they won't treat you as fairly and kindly, yanno?