Fed up with doctors

[DreamSpell333]

I really wish I could find a doctor that really cares, I go to a local clinic, and the doctors know that My fiance and I are trying to conceive. So I went for a physical, and My doctor came out and handed me b/c pills! I was so angry, she knows I want to have a baby and when she did that, it made me feel so unrespected. I know I'd be a good parent. My fiance didn't understand,why it upset me so much, but I didn't ask for them, and I don't want them, I just wish doctors would listen to want their patients really need and want!

[Danustouch]

Yes..some doctors can be very insensitive. My question would be this. Perhaps your doctor feels that only "married" stable partners would provide a stable environment for a child. So I would ASK your doctor, why he suggested the pills. If this is the case, sounds to me like you need to inform him on a thing or two :)

Then..the other question would be this. Do you have any other kind of health problem, that your doctor may have prescribed birth control pills for? Such as Ovarian Cysts. Birth Control pills are a common treatment for cysts. And you should discuss with your doctor, what, if any other options are available to you, if this is the case. So far, the main prescribed therapies for Cysts, are surgery to remove the cyst, and sometimes the ovary, or the pill. So you may be stuck, if this is the case.

Also, often times, Doctors will prescribe birth control pills for people who are having irregular periods, as a "first" choice. If this is the case, I would maybe seek the advice of a naturapath, herbalist, about herbs and other healthy means to maintain a more frequent menstrual cycle. In other words, if you are skipping periods, it makes it difficult to predict when your ovulation will be, even if you DO decide to try to conceive. So, could that have been it? If so, as I said, there are many ways to balance a menstrual cycle besides the use of birth control pills. Check into them.

Just some suggestions.

Overall..I think you need to sit down with your doctor, and have a long and serious discussion with him/her. If you feel that he or she is not listening to you, or discussing things with you, then you need to tell him/her that, and give him a chance to correct it...or find another doctor who will.

Good luck!

[DreamSpell333]

I had a pre cervical cancer almost a year ago, maybe she's concerned about that, but I've been fine, so unless I have a problem, then I don't see why she had to be so rude. Like you said, maybe she knows i'm not yet married, and doesn't think I could be a good parent, but I know other wise. After going through biospy's, and surgery, I don't want to have to go trough that again. I want to be able to have a child, before it's too late, incase it does come back. She's not a obgyn, I will have to get an appointment with her, and discuss my options and maybe she can help me with medication to help us achieve conception.

[Laiste]

I can relate somewhat to what you are saying. I had carcinoma insitu' (pre-cervical cancer)of the cervix back in 1997. I went through the biopsies and surgeries as well. I certainly do not agree with the way the doctor handled the situation because it is not her call whether or not you use birth control. But the other side of it is the fact that your body needs time to heal before you try to concieve. You have to have normal paps for a year before begining to try not to mention your cervix needs time to heal. You are almost there so hang on. I would not recommend the pill to anyone who has had cervical cancer of any type (pre-cancerous or not). This opinion is based on my research from when I was diagnosed.

Best wishes to you.

[DreamSpell333]

Thanks Laiste :) I say an obgyn for my biospy's and surgery, and we had asked her, when we would be able to try and concieve and she said 6-8 months after my surgery. This is not the doctor I saw for the physical. They said I only had a 5% chance of it coming back, if I hadn't had the surgery,then it would have been a 60-70% chance. My sister was diagnosed with the same thing I had, and she didn't believe them, so she went to a specialist, and they said she did not have cervical cancer.
I go for a pap test at the end of this month, as long as I'm not pregnant.?! *I might be , im in day 32 of my cycle with no @ *

But I was nice when she gave them to me, i said i'd think about it,next time, i'll tell her it really upset me,and throw them at her!