Dum dum da dum... all dress in white!!!!

[MysticWitch]

My spouce hinted at marriage. We have been together for a long time and things are spectacular, but im so scared. When men get married they change. I dont want things to change. If anything I want our love to grow even more. I feel like the run away bride and Im not even engaged yet..
Help! Someone give me some positive marriage stories :rollingla

[Holly Ariadna]

Awwww!!!! :) I have no marriage stories but I'm so happy for you!!! Congrats!!! I hope he pops the big question soon!

[aislin_ryann]

My hubby and I have been together for 8 years, married for 4. Not really much changed after we got married except our waistlines! 8O We are pretty happy, sure we have our days, but all in all, I wouldn't change a thing.

[Ceres]

I think if he is already committed, it wont matter either way. I have been married twice and the first time I wasnt committed and neither was he. Nothing would have saved that marriage.

I feel like the marriage ceremony was a waste of time for my husband and I because we ARE committed and so even if we hadnt had it, we would still be together.

[Cindlady2]

First marriage 13 years... pretty sh!Tty. 2nd marriage 17 years .... not bad at all! My first husband I knew for 2 years before, the 2nd less than a year. OK, that's not helping... I think if you've been living together that would be a plus. If not, well, I didn't live with the first one, and he really changed!

In any case... Good Luck!

[KaidaMidnight]

My spouce hinted at marriage. We have been together for a long time and things are spectacular, but im so scared. When men get married they change. I dont want things to change. If anything I want our love to grow even more. I feel like the run away bride and Im not even engaged yet..
Help! Someone give me some positive marriage stories :rollingla

Usually they only change if they are not ready to be married. They feel that they are no longer free to do as they want and are "locked in".... If he's the one talking about it, chances are he's ready. I have only been married for going on 2 years.. we met in 1998... moved in together in 2000 and got married in 2004. To be honest.. as bad as this may sound.. but nothing really seemed to change (except my last name). We had already been living together for 3 years.. :lol: I say, if he brought it up... he won't change after marriage. :hugz: (I'm not sure that this helped... but I wish you the best, and sending positive energies to you. :D )

edited for spelling.. as usual.. LOL

[MysticWitch]

Usually they only change if they are not ready to be married. They feel that they are no longer free to do as they want and are "locked in".... If he's the one talking about it, chances are he's ready. I have only been married for going on 2 years.. we met in 1998... moved in together in 2000 and got married in 2004. To be honest.. as bad as this may sound.. but nothing really seemed to change (except my last name). We had already been living together for 3 years.. :lol: I say, if he brought it up... he won't change after marriage. :hugz: (I'm not sure that this helped... but I wish you the best, and sending positive energies to you. :D )

edited for spelling.. as usual.. LOL

:D OOOoooh goody! I dont understand when guys propose and they arent ready for it :lol: People should grow stronger as time goes on. Not become mean and break up! :awilly:
You guys made me feel alot better. Im glad he is the one
talking about it :hehehehe:

[Kalika]

Well... I don't know about the changing bit.

My hubby and I lived together for... gosh... 4 years? before we were married, so we knew each others habits, weird things we each do, etc...

Marriage wasn't that big of a change for us. Just made things "official" I guess... we already behaved as though we were married before we actually were. And... since you called him your spouse... I'm guessing that maybe the two of you do as well, but I don't know. :)

What are you worried about changing?

[Nerts]

Wow. I take offense to this (not really though). It's not always the guys that change after marriage you know. I was married for a little while a few years back and as soon as that ring was on her finger, man did she go NUTS! We had lived together for like three or four years before the ceremony so it's not like there should have been anything 'new' come up, but all of a sudden it's all "You're too messy" or "I want kids NOW!" It was insane! But it's all better now 'cause she's far, far away from me.

On a different note...

I wish you all the best in your future and hope the kids are big and bouncey!

E.

[MysticWitch]

And... since you called him your spouse... I'm guessing that maybe the two of you do as well, but I don't know. :) What are you worried about changing?


Yes. We have lived with each other for many years. We are living like a married couple, only Ive never been engaged or married. :yayah:
I'm not sure what I am worried about changing.
I just see bad marriages. I dont want that to end up me 8O

[MysticWitch]

Wow. I take offense to this (not really though). It's not always the guys that change after marriage you know. I was married for a little while a few years back and as soon as that ring was on her finger, man did she go NUTS! We had lived together for like three or four years before the ceremony so it's not like there should have been anything 'new' come up, but all of a sudden it's all "You're too messy" or "I want kids NOW!" It was insane! But it's all better now 'cause she's far, far away from me.

On a different note...

I wish you all the best in your future and hope the kids are big and bouncey!

E.

I agree Nerts. I am sorry your ex wife did that to you :hugz: Women can change too. But Im just looking at it from my end cause I am with a man and not a woman. :rollingla @ Kids are big and bouncey :lol:

[Kalika]

Yes. We have lived with each other for many years. We are living like a married couple, only Ive never been engaged or married. :yayah:
I'm not sure what I am worried about changing.
I just see bad marriages. I dont want that to end up me 8O

:)

Well, there are no guarantees. Or wait... what's that saying? There are only two guarantees in life... death and taxes. And taxes only if they can catch up with you. ha ha. :lol:

Anyways... talk to him about it. He could very well have the same fears as you do.

Once in awhile a ring does a funny thing to people, as Nerts said. :) But, hopefully, both of you are levelheaded enough to know that this is a formality for you, and a step that you both are wanting and ready to take, and don't see it as a reason or means to push or change much of anything.

:hugz:

[MysticWitch]

:)

Well, there are no guarantees. Or wait... what's that saying? There are only two guarantees in life... death and taxes. And taxes only if they can catch up with you. ha ha. :lol:

Anyways... talk to him about it. He could very well have the same fears as you do.

Once in awhile a ring does a funny thing to people, as Nerts said. :) But, hopefully, both of you are levelheaded enough to know that this is a formality for you, and a step that you both are wanting and ready to take, and don't see it as a reason or means to push or change much of anything.

:hugz:

:lol:

[Happy Shrew]

Well, apparently my parents just married for sex, and they're still doing fine twenty-seven years later. And yes, they both changed a few times - no one gets into a relationship hoping for stagnation, do they?