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Willow Rosette
March 11th, 2006, 11:29 PM
I think I just need to cry and pout and get it all out.

I went to weight watchers today. I lost 1.8 pounds this week for a total of 18.2 I should be excited. I was in a good mood and then met up with a friend. She is a very needy friend and although I love her to pieces when she is depressed I end up sucking it all in. She was in a not wanna do anything crabby mood when I got there and by the time we parted I was crabby and she was in a good mood. On top of that I really wanted to hit the 20 pound mark today. I knew logically it was a bit out of reach but it was still in my head. I havent noticed a change at all in my body. And this morning Victoria insisted on calling her father. I think I need a bubble bath and good pitty party cry. What I wouldnt give for a carton of ice cream right now. 8O

Mouse
March 12th, 2006, 12:18 AM
*big hugs* Don't give into the ice cream, it'll only make you feel worse, instead be proud of what you have acheaved, as many could not do the same! We are here for you, if you need to let it all out.
I for one am proud of you for getting this far, and for the obvious strengh i see every time i read one of your posts.
take cares.
~miriam

Willow Rosette
March 12th, 2006, 12:37 AM
Thank you so much. I cant give in to the ice cream since there is none in the house and Victoria is already asleep, thank the Goddess. I just did a guided weight loss meditation in the bath tub and for some reason it made me ball like a baby. But I do feel a bit refreshed and I just realised Im having a bit of that time of the month. Ha that is probably the problem. My hormones are all out of wack and Im bawling at the drop of a hat. On top of that the full moon is almost here. No wonder Im a wreck. I remember reading once that Native American women used to be stuck in a hut during the whole time of their flow and I remember thinking that is like so rude but now Im thinking stick me under a rock and hide me away for a few days . The idea isnt as bad now that I am older lmao

Mouse thank you so much for the loving words. I feel the same way when you post. I know when ever I see your name it will be a positive and worthwhile posting to read. :hugz: thank you thank you

GalenaFaolan
March 12th, 2006, 01:14 AM
:hugz: You are doing great!!!! If I could do a cheer for you, ya know I would! :D These darn legs of mine say no way, so will ya settle for........oh, say some nice jewelry??!! LOL

It's ok to have a pity party once in awhile. I give myself one every month. It sure helps!! Hang in there sweety! Pamper yourself a bit, you sure deserve it!
:hugz:

Philosophia
March 12th, 2006, 05:43 AM
:hugz: You are a strong woman, full of confidence and wisdom! Don't let things like this get you down, you're worth much more. _pounce_

Willow Rosette
March 12th, 2006, 12:52 PM
Thank you so much for all the love. I had some really weird and scarry dreams last night and then Victoria climbed into bed with me but I do feel better this morning. I think between pmsing and taking on my friends energy it was just a little overwhelming. I think Im going to take a few weekends off from my friend. As much as I love her sometimes her negativity gets to me. Thank you all so much. I think we are going to go to the bead store and grocery shopping and then be home in time to yell at the tv over the nascar race.

Lorrie
March 12th, 2006, 12:59 PM
It sounds like you just needed to have a good cry and release the negative energy, it does always seem to help a bit! If you do give in to the ice cream, at least look for the sugar free stuff! I know it sounds gross, but it really isn't bad at all. My favorite is the Breyers vanilla double-churned sugar free. My grandson can eat a bit of it and be OK, but my granddaughter got the runs from the sugar free! When I am craving really bad and give in and buy it, after I have a little, I give it away to someone so I won't eat the whole thing. I satisfy my craving and make someone happy!

HetHert
March 12th, 2006, 01:22 PM
Way to go on that weight loss!! I'm working the South Beach diet so I know about those cravings and comfort foods. Its sounds like you just needed that good cry and cleansing in the bath. Once you get past that monthly time I BET you notice the weight loss a bit more. I tend to be hypercritical of myself when I'm hormonal..and especially when I'm bloating. Also if you retaining any water that could be part of what kept you away from the 20 mark you were searching for.

Your friend is lucky to have and empathic friend like you to help relieve her of her angst. :hugz: you beautiful person!

Brenda
March 12th, 2006, 02:23 PM
:rubhead: You're strong, you're wonderful, you're fabulous.
Smile :)
And if you need to talk, I'm just a pm away :hugz: :hugz:

The Lady
March 12th, 2006, 02:29 PM
Here you go, Oh wait [brushes lint off] okay all ready.

Would you like a hug to go with that shoulder? Yes? [squeezes gently]

A glass of water too? Tissues? [hands over both]

How about a joke now? [watches head nod] Well there was this cow and it went moo . . .

Is there anything else I can do for you?:hahugh:

RunningBear
March 12th, 2006, 02:38 PM
:hugz:

You lost 1.8 lbs this week and a total of 18.2 WOW! Fantastic!

DaNcInG_WiNd
March 12th, 2006, 03:18 PM
I think I just need to cry and pout and get it all out.

I went to weight watchers today. I lost 1.8 pounds this week for a total of 18.2 I should be excited. I was in a good mood and then met up with a friend. She is a very needy friend and although I love her to pieces when she is depressed I end up sucking it all in. She was in a not wanna do anything crabby mood when I got there and by the time we parted I was crabby and she was in a good mood. On top of that I really wanted to hit the 20 pound mark today. I knew logically it was a bit out of reach but it was still in my head. I havent noticed a change at all in my body. And this morning Victoria insisted on calling her father. I think I need a bubble bath and good pitty party cry. What I wouldnt give for a carton of ice cream right now. 8O
Trust me I know what it's like trying to lose the weight and having expectations for the weight loss...and it sounds like your friend is an energy drainer...be careful of people who can do this to you...better yet you need to shield yourself. Sending ya energy hon...

Willow Rosette
March 12th, 2006, 05:19 PM
Im feeling better this afternoon although seriously frustrated. When she came down yesterday I wanted to go to a near by bead store so I could get some stones for a friends bracelet. We had it all planned out to do when we met. And well she didnt want to. I figured I could do it this morning and be home in time to watch the race. Well I spent all morning finding a bead place even open had to drive way accross town to get there and missed the first hour of nascar. I think to get rid of this risidual emotion Im going to email her telling her upset I am that we did not do what we had planned yesterday. She knows how important it is to me to make this since it is for a friend who ahs cancer. I love her very much but I am her only friend and she tends to get very possesive of me and I think that is what started it yesterday.1) I made our meeting a little later so I could help a friend move and 2) wanted to do something to make something for another friend which means Im nto totally focusing on her. She is a wonderfull woman and I really am gratefull to have her friendship but Im going to have to put down boundaries and not see her every weekend. I have to put myself first and the things I need to get done in my life.

But I went grocery shopping, picked up a carton of brownie ben and jerries put it in my buggy and then took it out and put it back. Woo Hoo Thank you all so much for you love and support. I just needed to get it all off my chest. :huddle: :huddle: :huddle: :huddle:

AineDanu
March 12th, 2006, 05:42 PM
Aww vishasMommy - you are wonderful. I am so happy you have lost that much weight and I think you are doing great. Some friends need to have boundaries put down. I have had to do that a couple of times because the friend gets way to possessive or I am lefting feeling horrible after seeing them. Shielding did help alot and so did the distancing. I hope your friend understands when you talk with her - and do not let her make you feel guilty. You need time for yourself and for your other friends as well.:) hugggs and love to you!!

You are a wonderful warm giving person and I am so happy to have met you!

The Lady
March 12th, 2006, 08:19 PM
Im feeling better this afternoon although seriously frustrated. When she came down yesterday I wanted to go to a near by bead store so I could get some stones for a friends bracelet. We had it all planned out to do when we met. And well she didnt want to. I figured I could do it this morning and be home in time to watch the race. Well I spent all morning finding a bead place even open had to drive way accross town to get there and missed the first hour of nascar. I think to get rid of this risidual emotion Im going to email her telling her upset I am that we did not do what we had planned yesterday. She knows how important it is to me to make this since it is for a friend who ahs cancer. I love her very much but I am her only friend and she tends to get very possesive of me and I think that is what started it yesterday.1) I made our meeting a little later so I could help a friend move and 2) wanted to do something to make something for another friend which means Im nto totally focusing on her. She is a wonderfull woman and I really am gratefull to have her friendship but Im going to have to put down boundaries and not see her every weekend. I have to put myself first and the things I need to get done in my life.

But I went grocery shopping, picked up a carton of brownie ben and jerries put it in my buggy and then took it out and put it back. Woo Hoo Thank you all so much for you love and support. I just needed to get it all off my chest. :huddle: :huddle: :huddle: :huddle:

So very true!! You go girl!! Set the boundaries and you will be a happier person for it!! She may be a friend but she is not acting like a good friend at the moment. I hope she sees that she hasnt and makes amends to you.

CONGRATULATIONS!! I'm so happy that you didnt sabotage your diet because someone is being selfish at the moment. YOU are important too!! Good for you!:boing:

TaysatWesir
March 12th, 2006, 08:19 PM
positive energy sent

AineDanu
March 13th, 2006, 11:06 PM
I just wanted to say that I hope today is going even better for you!!!

Much love and many hugs sent your way!:)

zede
March 13th, 2006, 11:10 PM
:hugz: