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Akhkharu Asgard
March 18th, 2006, 06:24 PM
I really never thought that I would post in this forum...ever. I always considered myself a strong man, (not literally physically but moreso emotionally and mentally) and while I have been in here a couple times and maybe replied once or twice to a post I never thought, never would have imagine that I would *ever* be someone who actually would post a thread. But now I find myself in that situation.

I had started a thread today in "Just Talk" and very cryptically mentioned my state of nervousness and fear (and it's also been mentioned in that "what's on your mind thread" a few times). Well, things have no changed and have become more clear. I really cannot and do not want to talk about the specifics. But I certainly never thought actually *knowing* would be worse than not knowing something. I have always walked through my life needing to know the facts. And knowing that what my mind tells me about things that I do not know, while at the time is very scary and fearful, is not something I should be afriad of because it's never *ever* been the case where it *has* been that "worst case scenario" in my mind. Until now.

Like I said, I am not going into the specifics, I...just can't bring myself to actually type it. But what I am feeling...I don't know. I know there's anger, but there's love too. There's lots of it. And while I was scared and fearful not knowing and having it possibly magnified with my *not* knowing, it's only become worse. I feel that I am more scared and fearful actually knowing. And while I know things that really should not be magnifying these elements, but should be magnifying the elements of anger, they do not. I don't know why, but they do not.

I know absolutely none of this is going to make sense to anyone (if anyone even bothers to read it). But I have no one where I am right now. Absolutely no one that I can talk to about this. And while I am not saying much here, this is the best I can do. Believe it or not, under these circumstances, this place is *actually* the only place I can turn to. A place filled with people I do not know in real life, strangers. Please, no one take that offensivley. I did not mean it as such. I suppose it is just sad that out here, where I am, I really have no friends that I can turn to. I can't even call up my mother about this. And so I'm posing here. Right now I'm sitting here, weeping. Crying. And scared. I'm not angry (maybe a bit, but it certainly is overshadowed by other feelings). I'm sad, very sad. And scared. I don't know what to do. I don't know what I *can* do. And I certainly do not know why I am even posting it here. As I know there is little anyone on this board can actually do. I've been in terrible situations before. But not like this. Even situations I could once compare to this, I now cannot. I know how different it is.

I just don't know what I can do. Accept sit here, and hope for the best. Unfortunatly, as of right now, the ball appears to be out of my court. So, as a guy who may have made sure the future would be good instead of just hoping for a "happy ending" so to speak. Now I am left hoping for one.

I just don't know what to do..

Jolixte
March 18th, 2006, 06:32 PM
I figured something was going wrong when you started posting in "what's on your mind." I'm truly sorry you feel this way, and hope that something happens to alleviate your worry. *hugs and energy from a stranger that does care*

~Elise~
March 18th, 2006, 06:36 PM
here's some calming energy sent your way. Happy to talk if you need to.

Elise

Cassie
March 18th, 2006, 06:39 PM
:hugz::hugz::hugz:
Sending you some calming energy, hope it helps.

Nova
March 18th, 2006, 06:43 PM
I read the whole thing - first word to last. It wasn't a bother. It's just something we do around here - let people talk, then reply so they know someone listened.

Since you aren't ready to talk about what's happening I hope you are ready for a lot of hugs! :hugz:

Sorry you are out of control. It's definately an uncomfortable feeling for those of us who thrive on will power. So have a good cry - it washes the eyes and lets us see clearer.

The Lady
March 18th, 2006, 06:45 PM
Nothing wrong with reaching out! We have all been here to this forum and most of us believed we would never have a need too but 'never' is impossible!

Believe it or not what you wrote made perfect sense to me in more ways than one. Also, I'm thinking I know what you're referring too but I will not mention it here. I have always struggled with 'knowing' vs 'not knowing'; which is the best? I don't know because they both have things about them that can hurt deeply.

It will take time to get your head around it all. Take a deep breath and let it run its course. The clarity will come along with the healing.

I will say a prayer for you, and send you healing, positive, clearing and loving energy. :hugz: This too shall pass.

Akhkharu Asgard
March 18th, 2006, 07:24 PM
Thank you all for the kind replies, it really does mean a lot to me. More than you probably realize. Since I do not have this damn room to myself, I had to be alone for a bit. So I went out into the freezing cold (with a light spring time jacket, not a winter coat) and started to just walk. But then I started running. I did a circle around the whole campus, which is, I really don't know how long, but *very* long.And I just got back. I don't know, I feel a little better. But I know what I have been feeling is now going to come back to me. And I sure as hell don't know how I am going to get to sleep these next few days. Plus, I'm out of tylenol pm too, so no help there.

But thank you to those who have replied. You guys really are great.

Philosophia
March 18th, 2006, 07:50 PM
:hugz: I don't think theres much I can say but to just tell you that we are all here for you. _pounce_
As I wrote in the other thread, simply getting it out and allowing our mind to fully comprehend what is happening is a good way to release it all.
:hugz: Sending you comforting and positive energy!

Penthesilea
March 18th, 2006, 07:55 PM
:hugz: There has been a time or two when I had to face rough times with no one to talk too so I know how it is. It may not seem like it now but you will get through whatever this is and you will be stronger for it. That old chestnut about "what doesn't kill you.." is true. I know that, not only from my own experience, but from my mother's as well. So keep hanging on and we, the MW community, will hang on with you.

Findarto
March 18th, 2006, 07:57 PM
At least you can talk about it to us :hugz: !

Is there a counselor on your Campus who can help you ?

Akhkharu Asgard
March 18th, 2006, 08:53 PM
I just wrote a letter, about how I am feeling. It made me feel a bit better to do that.

KaidaMidnight
March 18th, 2006, 09:07 PM
:hugz: I'm sorry your feeling this way... I don't know why you're feeling this, but when reading your first post, it sounded the way I've felt about some things. It's not such a crazy idea letting things out to people you don't know in person. It can actually make you feel really good, cause you can say things and don't have to worry how they look at you, because they don't know you, (if that makes sense). Sending energy and calming to you. I know we don't know each other (except for maybe a couple of posts from other topics), but if you just need to vent, yell, express yourself, I'm only a PM away. :)

Findarto
March 18th, 2006, 11:00 PM
Did you burn the letter afterwards ?

Little Billy
March 18th, 2006, 11:02 PM
I just wrote a letter, about how I am feeling. It made me feel a bit better to do that.


Off topic, I just want to say again that the look on your face in your avatar is PRICELESS.

Looks like your boss just told you to do something particularly stupid.

treefae
March 18th, 2006, 11:23 PM
I just think your over tired this semester.Watch some Dawson's Creek (lol) and relaaax.You need to get your butt in bed and sleep.

Akhkharu Asgard
March 18th, 2006, 11:25 PM
I just think your over tired this semester.Watch some Dawson's Creek (lol) and relaaax.You need to get your butt in bed and sleep.

What I really need to do is watch Full House (tm) where everything was solved with a loving hug! Those were the days...that never existed.


In other news, I'm actually feeling a bit better.

Lunacie
March 18th, 2006, 11:26 PM
Sending energy for the serenity to accept the things you cannot change, the courage to change the things you can, and the wisdom to know the difference. :hugz:

treefae
March 18th, 2006, 11:37 PM
lol hot chocolate for you sir maybe some tasty liquer in it too.push a big breath out and take a big breath in.repeat

treefae
March 18th, 2006, 11:46 PM
ok i just read you don't do booze.i don't mean it in a bad way just a tasty little bit way.if you are having repeat thoughts it might be OCD i get that when i'm physically worn down.it's scary but you just need to cut down stress any way possible.it's just a reaction to stress.

MalPixie
March 18th, 2006, 11:47 PM
well my pm box is always open for listining!!

but I know how ya feel I was in the same thoughts not too long ago and it is hard!! :hugz:

Akhkharu Asgard
March 19th, 2006, 12:04 AM
ok i just read you don't do booze.i don't mean it in a bad way just a tasty little bit way.if you are having repeat thoughts it might be OCD i get that when i'm physically worn down.it's scary but you just need to cut down stress any way possible.it's just a reaction to stress.

Dont' worry no offense!


In other news *wide eyes* Things are getting good.

Weird, today has been a rollercoaster in the truest for of the word.

Brenda
March 19th, 2006, 06:16 AM
Glad you're feeling a little better :hugz: :hugz:
but if you ever need to talk, just pm :)

Faeawyn
March 19th, 2006, 10:18 AM
Well, it seems I didn't show up until the "things are getting good" part...but I still wanted to give you a hug anyway :hugz:
I can remember many years ago, being huddled in a corner of a dark room sobbing so hard and feeling like I was losing my mind....like they were going to have to hospitalize me because I was completely losing it. But now, many years later I'm amazed at how strong that made me and how I grew from that experience. It sucks!!...but it sounds like you're coming thru the tunnel now and back into the light :hugz:

Evendusk
March 19th, 2006, 07:55 PM
:hugz:

I'm glad you're feeling better. Just take each day as it comes.

Akhkharu Asgard
March 20th, 2006, 02:11 AM
Just to let everybody know, I am doing really great right now. This situation has been faced and resolved positively. And things are actually really great and wonderful with me. However, I dont think I can sleep still. However, instead of worry and fear keeping me awake. It's actually happiness. So thanks everyone, for your concerns!

Earthy
March 20th, 2006, 02:18 AM
I'm glad you're feeling better hon :hugz:

fireopalmuse
March 20th, 2006, 02:23 AM
hello, just wanted to say I read it , and I hope your feeling a little better now. I will also send some calming energy your way.cool, cool.:fpeace: :tarotwitc :abanana: :fpipesmok :T

Lunacie
March 20th, 2006, 10:15 AM
WOO HOO ! Thanks for the update. You're young, you don't need as much sleep. :lol:

Kalika
March 20th, 2006, 11:53 AM
:hugz:

Strangers or not... MW is family, and will always be here when you need it most.

I don't know what's going on... but like others have said... I think I have an idea.

The first part is always the worst hon, and the most difficult to get through. The anger will come, most likely, how long it takes depends on your temperment as well as the severity of the situation in which you are involved.

If you ever need to talk more and don't want to post it here, feel free to PM me. :hugz:

:lol: And.... I see that you're doing better, so that's good. :)