Calling all Empaths..

[lamoka]

Merry Meet and Greet All..
I need your input..
I have lost many in my life people and pets alike.. but the other night I had an experience that I need to explain so here goes..
4 am.. sleeping on the couch as I have been ill with sinus infection for about a week.. two days prior something happened to our cat (stroke or something) not quite sure but balance was way off and he was acting real odd.. so we kept an eye on him and he seemed to be improving.. good appetite, drinking, wetting etc. and balance getting better.. okay so 4 am.. couch.. and then a big thump.. I look over to find him on the floor.. figured he fell off the chair and went to help.. lights off couldn't get a good hold on him as he's a pretty big guy.. so I turned on a light and put my hand on him.. I couldn't help him..
I ran upstairs and got my husband to help but had to stop at the top and sit down as I was suddenly nauseous and weak and unable to function.. I found myself sitting with my head between my legs and using a cold cloth.. I was literally sheet white and prickles all over my body.. drank some orange juice, had a little peanut butter and inhaled some lavender.. like I said, I've lost alot in my life and NEVER experienced anything like this.. I don't know if it was because I've been sick or because I was feeling what he was at the time.. my husband had to take him outback and put him down as we had at least three hours before any vets were available and he was suffering so..
I have always been able to "feel".. moods, feelings, etc I think I even felt a tree once as odd as that may sound.. when my childern are sick I can't focus on anything else..
did I feel him?
or was it sickness, weakness and waking in the middle of the night..
or a little bit of it all??
blessed be

[December Fairy]

(((((lamoka)))))

Because you can feel what other feel, and you love your cat. I think you were feeling what he was feeling.

Sorry to hear of the loss of you kitty.

[December Fairy]

Sorry, I got a double post.

[Lorrie]

My guess is a little bit of everything, that sounds like it could easily overwhelm anyone! Sinus infections are the worst, I have battled those for years, I know what they can do to a person especially if you are startled and get up fast! Ooooo, the thought of it. Then an empath episode on top of it, yes, it could have very well been just that, and the episodes are often most common with ones we are the closest to. Now that I am learning that I have some control over being an empath, I have let down the shields that I had always had up without knowing it, now I can feel what my pets feel for the first time. They seem to know this because ever since I put away the shields, all the pets are fighting over my lap.:( ! You have been through quite an experience, I might like to suggest some meditation to help you get it back together, take some quiet time to reflect on it all, and know that you did all that you were capable of at the time. People tend to feel bad that maybe they could have done more, but if you don't know what will happen in the future how can you do more than you did? I think our pets know this and know that we do what we feel is right that will help them. I really don't think that a pet thinks that their person doesn't care about them because they aren't doing enough. Our pets have an instinct to take care of themselves, they don't really expect us to intervene because it isn't in their instincts to count on someone as it is in humans when they need help. Just take some time to put yourself back together, forgive yourself because you did not fail your furry friend by having all this happen! Just know that whatever was wrong with it, it is feeling much better now and won't suffer anymore from what ever ailment it was.:huddle: I just kind of feel that you need to know that you didn't fail your friend.

[fireopalmuse]

I agree, your poor cat had something terrible for sure. I think that you just may have been feeling what he was feeling. I find your story very interesting because I don`t think I have ever felt anything like that from an animal !! So sorry for the loss of your cat by the way :( Hope you feel better soon._pounce_ :fpeace: :boquet: :abanana: 8O 8O

[2steps]

I agree, I think you were feeling for you cat. So sorry for your loss :( :hugz:

I understand what you said about the tree too. I feel that too sometimes and from other things too. I remember as a child feeling sadness from the moon because she has to look down always, on all the bad thats going on in the world

[Lunacie]

Hi Lamoka, I've missed you.

I agree that you were feeling whatever the cat was feeling and that it hit you so hard because you were sick with the sinus infection. I'm sorry about your furry buddy (((hugs and sympathies))) and will send some Reiki healing energy for your infection.

[lamoka]

Thanks so much to everyone!!!
Your posts brought me to tears which is something I haven't really been able to do since this happened.. there I was sitting on my ass, unable to cope for whatever reason while my husband (who is really the cat person although we have dogs, rabbits, a bird and we had two cats up till now) had to deal with this alone.. I have literally walked in and found my best friend dead a few years back and didn't have this physical reaction.. the only thing I can put it down to is a weakened system and he was literally in the throws of dying when I laid my hand on him.. I have lost many but never been there when it was actually happening, so all that I felt was residual, never what the one was feeling at the time.. if this is what I experienced then I seriously need to find a way to shield myself for future reference.. can't handle it..
thank you for the warmth, and understanding.. I haven't really talked to anyone about this in such detail as I have here.. you are all a God and Goddess send to me..
blessed be
p.s. hi luna.. you'll be hearing from me shortly... I've been staying on the fringes.. :)

[bbnflpn]

i agree that you felt your cat, and possible because you were sick you felt it more phiscaly.

i too have felt the death of one of my pets, he was very ill and i stayed up all night with him, finnaly at 4am i needed to sleep, and i told him i would be up at 6am, i woke up with a shot before my alarm went off yelling his name, and when i got to him he was already dieing. i sat there and held him as he went, and i could feel his pain. it was awful.

i have problems putting up sheilds i need to learn how to do it better, my mind wont let me concentrate long enough to let them become automatic. and i am pretty sensitive empath, and the time i did get a shield up i felt so blind it was sickening.

[Lunacie]

Yeah, an all-encompassing shield is like being psychically "blind". I was so sick of all the bright flashing lights that being blind for a time was a relief for me, but after awhile I realized I was missing out on a lot so I began practicing with filters on my shield.

I have since decided that instead of protecting myself from outside emotions I really just needed to learn to discern which ones were coming from other people and release those feelings, becoming more conscious of what I was feeling myself.

For years I drove my family and friends crazy because they would ask me things like "Where do you want to go for dinner?" or "Which movie do you want to see?" and I wasn't in touch enough with my own feelings to be able to answer. I had always been so overloaded with what everyone else wanted for dinner or a movie or how they felt about going out at all, that my own feelings were buried beneath that mountain of outside feelings that just kept on piling up on top of me.

Why do we feel we have to accept those outside feelings and try to do something about them? Shouldn't it be more like listening to someone vent about their problems, knowing that they have little or nothing to do with us... and simply acknowledging that emotion without feeling as though it belongs to us? Don't most people just want someone to just listen?

[bbnflpn]

because we know how badly they feel, so we want to make them feel better. and part of the reason is because, since they feel so bad, we feel bad so making them feel better would mean making our selfs feel better as well.

i want to try filters too but since my mind is so off right now, i cant even remotly concentrate on such a thing. after a while i just gave up so i could feel people around me. unfortunatly this happend when i started working in another office. i couldnt even tell when some one was in the room with me.

[Lunacie]

Yeah, I've always been over-sensitive (part of being ADD) and during the time that I was so strongly shielded I couldn't tell when my husband would come home and come into the house. It scared the crap out of me nearly every time. Which drove him crazy, he thought he was making plenty of noise. ;)

[Laura Stamps]

I was born an Empath, and I think it was probably a combination of both...the meds/infection and feeling what your cat was feeling. I have been in feral cat rescue for 30+ years so the death of a cat is something I have had to experience much more than I would want to. I am fortunate in that I live in constant contact with faeries every day, and they adore cats. One of my ferals passed over to the other side from cancer last month right before he turned two, a gorgeous, very sweet Maine Coon. I cared for him several times a day during his 9 day passing, and the faeries were with him the entire time. In fact he was surrounded by them. In the end they lead him to a faerie mound in the forest behind my house. I never even found his body, and that was a first for me. It was the most magickal passing I have ever experienced for one of my cats. I truly believe he passed over body and all.

Because I also see and talk with spirits the spirits of all my cats (except his, oddly) come back to me a few hours or days after passing. They yowl in the house or come into my dreams. All tell me how happy they are in the next realm. So I want you to know your cat is very happy there too now, I'm sure.

Recently, I have gotten so I can hear what my cats are saying. I have one housecat in particular that is such a misfit. She was not an easily adoptable cat, tons of behavior problems, no one would take her but me. And she has come a long way, but is still more trouble than 10 regular cats. Lately, she has been looking at me so intensely, as if she were trying to tell me something. On the day my Maine Coon died I began to hear what she was saying to me. She said she loved me a lot and was trying very hard to be a good kitty. Still I have been trying to figure out what that intense sorrowful look is all about. Then the other day I got it. She told me she had been a dog in her last life, and she doesn't know how to be a cat. She doesn't want to be a cat...she wants to be a dog. So from now on when she gets in trouble I tell her, like it or not, she is a cat in this lifetime and she has to learn to accept that. It certainly explains what is going on with her. This is a cat that can't jump, crashes into everything, she doesn't even walk like a cat, doesn't play with other cats like a cat, inhales her food like a dog, and has always acted more like a dog than a cat. Well, now I know...she is a dog! Bless her heart! :idea: