Energy for a little girl

[Brighid's Seeker]

I need wisdom in making decisions concerning my daughter's education.

I am very frustrated and angry right now.

[Lunacie]

Calming, wisdom-finding energy sent. :hugz:

[Kylie]

Clarity and Energy sent.

Good luck.

[Brighid's Seeker]

Thank you both. I am very tired of this child being abused by the school system. And frankly I want to rip heads off.

[Lunacie]

Thank you both. I am very tired of this child being abused by the school system. And frankly I want to rip heads off.

Do you want to share what problems are happening?

[Brighid's Seeker]

Her IQ tests out at genius level. She is board with school.

She has a mild form of reactive attachment disorder. It is very mild.

School is THE ONLY place that there has been an issue.

Kindergarten she started school after a major disruptive change in her life (we fled three thousand miles to escape our abuser) Kindergarten was awful because two weeks into the school year her teacher disappeared. Then it was a sub a day for four months. She was in a constant state of turmoil. She was also in counseling for her abuse.

Her brother had similar behaviors but somehow his were always forgiven at school.

Overtime our homelife settled down, her behavior everywhere but school is normal. The school has been resisitent to any advise given by her counselor or us. It has been that way for five years.

She has definitely been labeled. I had a teacher who quit the school tell me this. I was picking her up from school a few weeks ago, and she was coming to the office to meet me, I could see her coming down the hall. Her teacher from last year called her name, she is terrified of this woman, and she could see me so she came in the office door. The teacher stopped her at the door and got right in her face and yelled (not said YELLED), "When I tell you to stop you stop." I asked the teacher if she had something she wanted my daughter to do and she just glared at me.

(This is the same teacher who forced my daughter to say the pledge everyday)

I sent my daughter to the van and looked at the teacher, who in turn asked me if I had a problem.

Her brother tells me that he sees her at school and that he doesn't understand why she is always in trouble.

I am tired of this fight.

I am thinking of homeschooling my daughter for the rest of the school year. Not only do I think I can instill a love of academics in her as well as keep her interest, I also think this would resolve the rest of the the bonding issues.

OK sorry to write a novel.

[Willow Rosette]

Oh honey :hugz: I dont know you sweetheart but as a mother my heart breaks for you. It sounds like you already know what would be in her best intrest. If you still want mine Id say if you have the ability then home school her. If you ever need to just mommy talk or rant or what ever love feel free to pm me. You and your family will be in my prayers. :hugz:

[Philosophia]

Sending you calming, positive energies to help deal with this situation! :hugz:

[Brenda]

Sending calming energy :hugz:

[Lunacie]

I can't believe how many people still think "boys will be boys" and accept bad behavior from them that girls gets in trouble for. I'm so glad you found the courage to get away from your abuser but I'm sorry that it's still creating problems for you and for your children.

It sounds like you have talked to the principal and the teachers and the counselors about all this and they have been less than helpful. It might be worth it to write a letter to the school board and then go and talk to them at their next meeting. But it might just be easier to home school your daughter for a year or so, she may need that time with you in a safe environment to get back on track. Good luck and good energies sent to you and your children. :hugz:

[TaysatWesir]

wisdom energy sent

[Brighid's Seeker]

Thank you all. Some of the sheer anger has worn off. Now I just need the wisdom to know what to do.

We have talked with the school board but it hasn't done much good. The only suggestion is putting her in a special ed classroom. This would be devistating for her. The principal takes me a bit more seriously now that I am a married woman. grrrr.

[Sennefer]

:hugz:

[AineDanu]

I think your idea of homeschooling was a good one. It would help her heal so very much and also let her learn at an advanced rate in the areas that truly grab her interest while still putting more effort into the other classes than she did at school. Just make sure she understands that this is important and mandatory and you are not just "playing" school.

ok enough talking:) - i do send much love and energy your guys way.

[Brighid's Seeker]

I "think" my mother in law is going to support us. She suggested going to the districts homeschool office and meeting with the co-ordinator. She has really gone to bat against this teacher. He has twice now refused our choices on projects.

(Once was a report on Eleanor of Aquitane whom he claimed was not real. This was a report that we began working on to try to get Pooh excited about school, so we were ahead of the curve and she was excited researching and making a costume. Then based on the word of another child he decided that Eleanor was a fictional character. We lost ground again but in the end he allowed her to use Eleanor, but would not give her more than a B- on the paper....recently he decided that for a how does it work project that she would have to purchase a pair of binoculars to take apart rather than do it on any of the things we suggested. I am on disability so money is a HUGE issue right now).

We have had problems with Make-up work from my daughter's extended illness. (he expected it to all be completed and turned in upon her return, and when it wasn't he made her stay in at recess and work on it, instead of allowing her to complete it at home).

Long and short of it:

Spring break is in fifteen school days.

Tuesday we are going to meet with the districts homeschool coordinator. This way she still has access to testing, and we are sure she is meeting standards, and if we decide to return her to public school for middle school she is completely up on the districts grade requirements, and possibly ahead.

If things work the way we think they will, then she will simply not return to school after spring break.

*please continue to help us have wisdom in knowing how to do what is right.
*help my mother in law be aware and supportive of what is best in this situation (we live with her and she could make this miserable if we dont' have her support)
*help us find the right way to make learning fun for our daughter, and provide the healing she needs.

[Lunacie]

Good grief, I can see saying that King Arthur or Robin Hood may have been fictional characters based on historical composites, but there's plenty of data that Eleanor of Aquataine was a very real queen. I continue the energy for the best possible outcome for your daughter and you, with strength and courage for you and your mum-in-law to deal with the school system.

[BlackMagicalCat]

Ill pray for your situation too.

Im not much on advice about family matters though,but I will lift you both up in prayer.

[Pesha]

Energies for positive outcome and for you and yuor daughter to prevaile in what ever choices you make.

Elenore of Aquatain was indeed a real life historical woman.

[Brighid's Seeker]

I have to decide basically over night if we are going to homeschool!!!

[Lunacie]

Breathe.

Just breathe.

Close your eyes and hold out your hands, palms up.
Imagine that the right hand reprensents home schooling.
Imagine that the left hand represents public schooling.
Ask the universe to guide you and see if one hand feels pressure.

Or go with your gut.

Calming strength to you as you make this decision. :hugz:

[Brighid's Seeker]

OK so, yes... there has been drama w/ the mil, BUT homeschooling is awesome!!! Here is a pic from our vacation with Cassandra Syndrome (formerly Revel Moom MW members Irene and Revel Rain).

http://i19.photobucket.com/albums/b192/RowanRavyn/HelpfulLeeloo.jpg

[LostSheep]

ahhh cute kitty!

[Brighid's Seeker]

Leeloo is the awesome!!

[Moonshine]

:hugz: Calming and protective energy sent for you and your daughter.. I can relate to this :hugz: Hope everything turns out okay.Her IQ tests out at genius level. She is board with school.

She has a mild form of reactive attachment disorder. It is very mild.

School is THE ONLY place that there has been an issue.

Kindergarten she started school after a major disruptive change in her life (we fled three thousand miles to escape our abuser) Kindergarten was awful because two weeks into the school year her teacher disappeared. Then it was a sub a day for four months. She was in a constant state of turmoil. She was also in counseling for her abuse.

Her brother had similar behaviors but somehow his were always forgiven at school.

Overtime our homelife settled down, her behavior everywhere but school is normal. The school has been resisitent to any advise given by her counselor or us. It has been that way for five years.

She has definitely been labeled. I had a teacher who quit the school tell me this. I was picking her up from school a few weeks ago, and she was coming to the office to meet me, I could see her coming down the hall. Her teacher from last year called her name, she is terrified of this woman, and she could see me so she came in the office door. The teacher stopped her at the door and got right in her face and yelled (not said YELLED), "When I tell you to stop you stop." I asked the teacher if she had something she wanted my daughter to do and she just glared at me.

(This is the same teacher who forced my daughter to say the pledge everyday)

I sent my daughter to the van and looked at the teacher, who in turn asked me if I had a problem.

Her brother tells me that he sees her at school and that he doesn't understand why she is always in trouble.

I am tired of this fight.

I am thinking of homeschooling my daughter for the rest of the school year. Not only do I think I can instill a love of academics in her as well as keep her interest, I also think this would resolve the rest of the the bonding issues.

OK sorry to write a novel.

[Ancient Wisdom]

Sending You Positive Energy!

[Brighid's Seeker]

Thank you very much!! My daughter is such an awesome kid. I learn so much from her. I could not have chosen a better kid to be mine!