How well do you know your kids/your parents?

[Findarto]

Well ?

[Antoninus]

My parents know NOTHING about me.

Thier information is much out-dated, it comes from when I actually trusted them and would talk to them about my life.

I basically lost trust in my parents because they demonstrated quite admirably that the things I consider important are...well...not. Harping on thier screw ups while ignoring thier sucsesses is a good way to alienate your kids

[Tigerlily]

My parents don't know anything about me. I do not have an open relationship with my mother whatsoever and I do not talk to my dad about things either. My mom thinks she knows, but she has no idea.

[Ceres]

They say no one knows you like your children. They have the time and the energy and the inclination to make a thorough study of you to know how you will react in any situation. My kids seem to be able to predict when I am gonna freak out pretty good :lol: so maybe its true.

As for knowing my kids, Its hard to say. My daughter is so much like me, its easier for me to understand her motivations. My middle child is much more difficult for me but my husband seems to have him covered. When his behavior baffles me, I ask his dad for directions :lol: My youngest is more of an engima to both of us right now. He is a lot like my daughter, but just when I think I have him figured out, he does something outrageously different. Perhaps he is just trying to make me crazy?

I think understanding what motivates your kids is the only way to effectively discipline them. Unless you know why they act the way they do, its hard to react in ways to teach them best.

[LacyRoze]

My mother and brother don't have a clue about me. They couldn't tell you my fav color, fav food or anything else. They both still look at me as a child who needs protecting. Now my father was a different story. He knew me inside and out because he took the time to get to know me. We talked about everything under the sun and didn't pull any punches with each other. Man, I miss him...

I know my kids fairly well I believe. I can take one look at each of them and know when something is wrong or when something is bothering them. They each have very distinct personalities so I have to deal with each differently. I make sure I spend one on one time with each of them and listen to what they have to say. I think I'm doing a good job with them, time will tell...

[Astara Seague]

I know my kids very well, being a single Mom for over 15 years made that happen it was always us against the world
but no my parents have no inkiling of my depth

[Broken Babydoll]

My parents know me very well. My mom is one of my very best friends. (It wasn't always that way. Growing up our relationship was strained with the struggle for independence, but even then it was very open and honest.)

I know my step-daughter far too well. I understand her better than she would give me credit for, I'm sure. She is quite a bit like I was at that age, only a little more outgoing.

[Broken Babydoll]

I think understanding what motivates your kids is the only way to effectively discipline them. Unless you know why they act the way they do, its hard to react in ways to teach them best.
SO TRUE!!!

[MammaStar]

I know my son pretty well. But we've been buds for a while. being a single mom does have that advantage. My folks know me, but they don't know me. I think out of both of them my Dad understands me best. I know them both pretty well, at least I know how to handle situations that come up between us.

[Kalika]

Considering my son is still a toddler, and my daughter has not yet been born... I'd say I know both fairly well. :D

I also know that that is very likely to change as they grow up, and especially during the teen years.

However, I hope to know them better than my parents know me. Because of the way my family is, there are soooo many things that they don't know. And that's rather sad, IMO. I think they'd realize how much less fragile I am than they think if they knew some of the things I have dealt with and been through. But, then again... they would probably never have let me out of their sight if they did know... and now probably wouldn't know what to say if I told them. Sooo.... other, would be the answer of the day for me.

[Jolixte]

I don't know what I don't know about my parents so who's to say how well I know them, and they certainly don't know much about me. We just tend to exist around each other, not live with each other. Not that we live with each now anyways.

[KaidaMidnight]

I know my kids VERY well, they are a couple of goofballs. :lol: :hahugh: .... now my parents.. my father knows me well.. he's always been there for me. I was Daddy's girl growing up, and still talk on the phone with him at least once a week. My mother, she has NEVER known ANYTHING about me, since the age of 8. I am glad and hope it stays that way.

[WokeUpDead]

Umm...well. I'm not very good at keeping anyone informed about anything and sharing details makes me really uncomfortable so it would make sense if my parents didn't know me that well...
But I don't actually do a whole lot so there's not much to hide.

[Athena-Nadine]

Well, my mother knew me very well when I was a child, then when I became a teenager she didn't know me nearly as well anymore. When I first moved out, she didn't know me very well at all. By the same token, I didn't know my mother all that well either. I knew her as a child, but I didn't know her. It wasn't until I became an adult that I began to understand her enough to truly know her. Now, after a few years of actually communicating, we both know each other very well again. We're extremely close now. :)

[Kylie]

My parents know me pretty well, but there are some things they don't. They basically know about my religion, and agree with some of it. (My dad plants our garden according to the moon :D) I don't lie to my parents, because I don't do anything bad enough to lie about (everything "bad" that I do, I've learned from them.) but there are some things that I don't tell them.

ANYWAY.
I think we know each other pretty well.

[Catiana]

My dad doesn't know me at all. No one in my family does, except my kid. I know my kids well, the one who still lives at home better than the one that doesn't though.