That's Gotta Be It!!!

[lamoka]

Merry Meet..
:idea: I think I have had a lightbulb moment!!!
I have a family member that I have a SERIOUSLY hard time controlling my temper around and I am not a normally angry or aggressive person.. He can set me 0 to 60 in like 2.5 seconds and I become this screaming mimi kind of person that I can't stand.. if I am empathic like I am beginning to put 2 and 2 together on.. then maybe it's not ME that I'm feeling out of control over maybe it's HIM and HIS feelings that are so overwhelming me I don't know what to do or how to cope.. I LOVE this kid as he's my nephew, and I find myself avoiding being around him because of the lack of control over my emotions.. I don't have this problem with anyone else..
blessed be

[LadySnake]

I know exactly how you feel!!! The same happens to me when I'm around my father-in-law. I can't be around him more than 2 minutes before I want to haul-off on him!!! He is so infuriating!!! And I KNOW it's my empathing ability. The narrow-minded, childish, stupidity-laced words that are about to flow out of his mouth, that radiates off of him just sends me flying out of the room before words start to fly. I just can't handle him. So, I prepare myself with mentally-distrating things to do to try to block him out. When I'm unable to avoid him, I choose my words very carefully, make them short, and dodge him as quickly as possible.....This is the only thing that has worked so far.

Good luck and Blessed be....

[Iris]

This is interesting...I have a similar relationship with a friend of mine. I never considered myself an empathic person, but for some reason when I'm around this guy something just doesn't 'gel'. I mean, we've been friends for a while but we seem to have problems getting along...being around one another feels really 'draining', for both of us (we've discussed the weirdness between us and drawn blanks, laregly, apart from figuring out that it's something we both feel). It's like there's constant background tension, like we're both on the defensive, and we seem to bicker a lot about things that don't even matter...

Ok, now I'm just rambling. But the empathtic thing is something I never even considered.