New Grandma

[Chibi-Fallon]

Okay, I just need to vent about my almost new grandma (my grandpa's getting married in 2 days) maybe I'm just over reacting but I need to get this off my chest. First off, I really don't know, and she really doesn't seem to like me all that much. I think my parents told her I was Pagan (I know they told my Aunt and Uncle but I don't know for sure about the rest of the family). And I get this reading for my grandpa's wedding, and it's got very little to do with marriage. And more with how the Lord's people are wonderful and will be saved and how we all should live in Christ and that's how we'll all be happy and all that kinda stuff. Now my Grandpa I know has no idea what the heck I'm even doing in this wedding. He doesn't get involved with stuff like this (he had 5 kids and he really has no idea how to act around children or what to do besides hand them off to their Mother). I don't know if they got told if I'm Pagan or not or if they heard it from somewhere else but this reading seems highly suggestive that she does not approve of my being Pagan (I already know she doesn't approve of me in general).
I think part of it may be I just don't want my old Grandma replaced. She died when I was 5 but the few memories I do have of her all seem nicer (that doesn't seem like the right word) then the vibes I'm getting from this lady. And I've always felt close to her, even tho I only knew her for such a short time. I mean it's not like this woman is some 20 year old or something she's as old as my Grandpa. But once she moved in all the picture of my Grandma have been removed and all her stuff is gone. I feel like she's trying to pretend like she never existed almost. There's only me and one other cousin (whom we never see, I don't think she's even met him) who were old enough to remember her. I just feel so alone with this because no one else in the family can really relate to any of it. No one else really has to worry about forgetting who she was. They either grew up with her or never met her.

[Terra]

Hi. It must be really hard for you. You shouldn't have to do the reading if you don't want to. Have you thought about confronting her? I don't mean getting mad but ask her why she thinks the reading is relevant.
Is your grandpa happy? I guess if he is then that's the main thing. I can understand you feeling like your Grandma has been pushed out but I'm sure that isn't how it is - not by your grandpa anyway. She's been gone for quite a long time and maybe it's good that your Grandpa moved on. At least you remember her and I'm sure other people are thinking of her too. :)
Sorry if I'm way off the mark with any of this but I hope it helps a little.
Take care, Terra.

[Illuminatus]

How old are you?

If you are 12 or 13, you can still run up to people, kick them in the shins, and then run away, and it's still socially acceptable (marginally). It's fine for 5 or 6 year olds, but you can get away with it up to your preteen years. This is what I would do.

[Chibi-Fallon]

I'm 14, but in my family I doubt I could have gotten away with it when I was 4. My brother on the other hand... I was always the "good" child. It was kinda one of those bad behavior is normal from him but not from me. So when he was good he got stuff and I was expected to be good. And my parents wonder why I don't like them.
Anyway, I'm off for Chicago (where they live) today and the wedding is tomorrow. But I guess I can be happy that I really don't see her to much. It's a 7 hour drive so it's not like they'll be coming up for the weekends or anything. And I get to go to the House of Blues on Sunday. They let us up on the VIP floor last time we were there. Because no one famous was up there. ^^ I'll just try to avoid her as much as I can and see what happens from there.

[Twilight Garden]

I totally understand your frustration. When I was 18 I had to play my flute for my father's marriage to the woman who broke up my family. That was bad. I started crying while playing Ave Maria. People thought I was just being emotional. They had no idea that I was crying because I felt like my father was destroying my life. After years had passed, and they were still together, I started to realize how selfish I was being. Now we both make heart-felt efforts to show acceptance of each other. And it makes me feel good to do it. I feel like a stronger person.

:loveduv: My heart goes out to you. Good luck!

[bansidhe]

hang in there chibi...same thing happened in my family, cept everyone in my family (granda included) are wishing he never met her. shes different from youre new grandma tho (i really really REALLY hope!) because not only does she hate my religious status, shes also mental, a druggie and tends to have suicide attempts which she knows wont work to get more attnetion from the rest of hte family, even tho my grandda panders to her every whim, i.e, instead of coming over to australia to see his latest granddaughter, she made him go to america to see her equally screwed up son.

basically, if you want someone to vent to, pm me, cos ive been there, and i know the feeling!!! :)

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maybe even a few more...

[bluebear]

Good morning Chibi. I would suggest that you just go with the flow for now and let you and your new grandma get to know each other.Nothing is cast in stone. People change. You may find that you and grandma will become best of friends. And dont feel guilty that family or friends dont accept your spiritual beliefs. That's their problem not your's.And remember that your real grandma, although physically gone, will be with you forever mentally and spiritually.
Blessings
Bluebear