Potty training help!!

[Faery-Wings]

Cait has been day trained for almost a year, but not night trained. For the last month she has been waking up dry with the exception of one day the first week of January. This week I said to Cait that if she woke up dry every morning, than Friday night, she wouldn't get a diaper. Wouldn't you know, every morning dry until today. Last night she was so excited and was saying how it would be her last diaper and what a big girl she was. This morning, she was devastated that she was wet. I mean, It really broke my heart, she was sobbing for pure sadness. Not temper that I am used to.

What do I do? I tried to suggest that we try for one more week, but that only made her cry harder. Should I just let her have no diaper and hope for the best?

Ugh- I am really not used to her crying because she is sad- never thought she would make me so sad with her tears..

So do I let her not have a diaper and just keep my fingers crossed and stock up on detergent?

Chris

[Lavender]

Awww! Poor little thing! Let her go without a diaper. When I was training my son, I would "help" by waking him up once or twice a night. You can also buy a pad that goes under the sheets. It's an absorbant washable pad that protects the mattress.

[Faery-Wings]

Thanks, I think that is what I'll do. Not that she will give me much choice!

Scott was so much easier- right before he turned three- he trained in one week. Honestly, I don't think she was really ready to train when she did. She wan't even 2 1/2. She just put her mind to it and trained during the day very quickly. But she is a heavy sleeper so she had no control over her bladder at night!

OK, Way too much info....

:p

Chris

[Margie]

maybe try a cut off time for drinks in the evening? Erica (3) has wet the bed about 2-3 times since she's been wearing panties to bed. I'll cut her off 1 1/2 to 2 hours before she goes to sleep telling her "no more juice/water tonight" if she does whine I tell her "you don't want to pee in your bed do you?" and I guess that makes sense to her cause she doesn 't mind anymore. I take her potty just before I lay her down, no matter what. Then I'll let her take a little sip of water. I dunno, it works for me, I hope you find what works for you!

[TheTheologin]

Here's what I did with my daughter (for night time training)


I made her go potty an hour before bed time and she got NOTHING to drink after potty. NOTHING. Within the first two nights there were no more night time accidents. Now she goes right before bed and is fine throughout the night.

[Faery-Wings]

Well, we tried your suggestions, no drinks after dinner, pottied twice beofre bed.. and she *asked* for a diaper!

:rolleyes: :confused:

So I gave her a diaper and she woke up dry!LOL

Maybe we'll try tonight...or next week...

Chris

[Flar's Freyja]

:wave:

My youngest just left the nest. I had three boys, a year apart each, and the potty training experiences were all completely different. Two of them wet the bed on and off until they were five. I had read somewhere that the best tip-off as to readiness was when they could wake up dry. That usually worked. A friend taught me something that was a life-saver and a mattress saver. Those big 40 gallon trashbags fit very nicely on a twin size bed. You lay it across the area where the pee ends up, and you can tuck the ends under the mattress. When they get nasty, you just replace them.

Making a big deal out of accidents is not healthy for you or your child. It makes things worse. Just ask your little doll to make sure she tells you if she wets the bed so that you can change the sheets. And let it go. Period. My youngest was so cute. Every morning when he came downstairs I'd ask him if he peed the bed and if he did, he'd say, "Yep, little bit in there." Some kids just don't have enough control to be dry every night for a while. It's best to just accept it. She will outgrow it in her own time.

I'm not saying that this applies to you - but I was a child welfare worker for five years, and potty training is one of the number one issues that has led to child abuse. So let the diaper go, protect the mattress as long as you can and you might want to start a little fund to buy a new one if necessary! Good luck.

[Lavender]

My son used to wake us up & say that he had a leak. :) We just pull the sheets off, throw on a clean one & get him back into bed in 10 mins. Those absorbant pads were a life saver. Freyja's right...kids will stay dry when they're ready & making a big fuss will make it worst. I've seen people that really get upset at their kids to the point where the kids will regress. :rolleyes:

I like what you're doing, Chris. It's good the choice is left to your daughter. She sounds so cute! :p

[TheTheologin]

Another suggestion; So that the mattress doesn't get ruined by any accidents during the night we still have a plastic cover on the mattress itself and then the fitted sheet goes over it. Morgaine's mattress is still in perfect condition.