Pre-Wedding Stress Support Thread

[Morr]

OK!

I couldnt resist....

I know that at least three of us are getting married within the next year (RubyRose, Tzhebee and myself). There must be a more of you out there too...

Since there have been several threads in this forum in regards to wedding issues, questions, stress, tips, etc etc!

I'm making the official Pre-Wedding Stress Support thread!

Here, all us brides (and grooms!) to be can ask Qs, seek advice, post thoughts and ideas, and of course RANTS! And all you wise married members can come in, give us a word of advice, ideas of your own, stories from your experience, etc!

*throws confetti!*

[RubyRose]

Count me in ....

The stress levels aint getting any lower either ... see my most recent thread...

[Morr]

Yes! I saw!

I can relate! Though we arent going for a $103 per head LOL

I think we're inviting about 100 people, more or less. But I doubt more than 50 will show up. Most are out of town guests, ya know? Some are overseas guests! LOL

We decided to get a nice sort of Victorian Manor as a reception place, but instead of having a fancy dinner, we're ordering take out and delivery (Philly Cheese Steaks, Pizza, and other good stuff), gonna get some sodas and beer, a big wedding cake and possibly a candy buffet as party favors for the guests to take home (it WILL be Halloween after all, we can get candy from wholesale, and Halloween bags!). So it should come out *fairly* cheap as for food and such.

[RubyRose]

Yeah ... well as my parents and soon to be in-laws are handling the cost of it all ... well money is an issue, but not so much.

Although, my dad was shocked when a wedding dress I was looking at was $1700. So I settled for a similar one which was $1000 instead.

Meanwhile, my dad could have got out of it as cheap as $450 but neither he nor my mum liked my original dress idea.

[Moonlite Faery]

If you guys have any questions I can help! I got married last Feb., outside, and although it didnt rain we did have some pretty funny stories and events leading up to it. So if you have any questions, dont be afraid to ask :)

[Morr]

Thanks Moonlight!

So I bought the March/April issue of "Brides" magazine... HeeHee..

There are so many amazing Bridal gowns out there... Unfortunately they are all SUPER expensive! I saw this BRILLIANT gown... $5,200!!! What the heck!

Anyways, I originally wanted to get married in a black dress, and/or an Early Bustle Victorian dress. But the black thing, as much as I want it, turned out to be fruitless since:

1) The black bridal gowns, if I manage to get a hold of a designer that makes them, have to be ordered and custum made. Which makes the prices sky rocket.
2) We will have a 2nd wedding out here in Israel, sometime in 2007, so I cant get married in black because my family will kill me. And I dont know if I want to buy ANOTHER bridal gown. It would be a waste of money.


So I settled for white. It just causes less headaches for me, but its all good. I'm liking the white dresses I've seen. I found this one brilliant Alfred Angelo dress I like! Next month when I'm in the US I'm going with my bridesmaids to Bridal stores, and I'll try that perticular dress on. But I've been looking at a couple of other Bridal gowns, just in case I dont like that dress when its on me, or something.

There are so many! I WANT THEM ALL!

But I cant... LOL

Ohhhhh... Wedding dresses madness... How I love thee...

[Moonlite Faery]

HAHA that was a fun time, picking out the dress. I ended up trying on a $7,200 dress for the heck of it, it was made by like Vera Wang or something. I ended up buying a gorgeous dress for $800, I dont know why it was at such an awesome price because it was one of that seasons dresses but what they hey. One thing I will suggest to all of you brides to be is make the dress comfortable. Its not worth it to have it fit you like a glove and then only be able to eat a little dinner and some cake. I did that and I could actually feel my tummy expanding and my dress getting tighter!!

[Lorrie]

My DIL found a really beautiful dress, on a pagan shopping site, it was perfect! She had ordered it, then found out she was pregnant, had to make a few changes to the order. It didn't have a huge price tag on it either! With a Halloween wedding, you might try something different like that? ( or even for those of you that aren't having a Halloween date, there are some pretty ones, and it may hold down the sticker shock).

[Kaltenia]

I just got engaged, we're not sure when to get handfasted, though, but the pressure is already on from both sides of the family, LOL! The questions and stress just about came overnight, oh joy.

Congrats to all of you who are engaged, btw!! :boing:

[Tzhebee]

:lol: at Morr. I just bought that same issue of Brides! Me and my girls (ages 9) flipped through it looking at all the dresses and making fun of most of them! It was a ball...until...they came to the dress I really want to wear. They started making fun of it! So I "jokingly" asked them what they would do if that were my dress....their answers:

Khrissy: Mom, it would make me sick.
Devin: It's OK mom, you could wear it. I'll just go through the whole wedding with my eyes closed.

:foh: :wah2: So much for that dress, huh? :lol:

Oh, it's one of the Maggie Sottero "capri" style gowns in case you were wondering.

[Kaltenia]

Here's a site that I went to and am looking into getting the 'Gypsy' dress for 900. :D The dresses here are breathtaking...

http://designsbytara.net/

[RubyRose]

Morr, you know, when I was out bridesmaid dress shopping, I saw some really cool black dresses. Alternatively I have seen white wedding dresses that have embroidery done in black...

And don't worry on the white dress thing ... this was my original dress choice.

http://www.intocamelot.com.au/img/agincourt/a15.jpg

I'm still not keen on having a veil. If I wear it, I'm not wearing it over my face.

[Moonlite Faery]

I had a veil, and it was not over my face. I have enough trouble walking in high heels without something in front of my face. In fact I tripped on the steps leading up to the main part of Balboa Park after the ceremony!!

[RubyRose]

Glad to know I'm not the only one.

[Morr]

Yes, I dont want a veil over my face. But I do want a rather long veil. Something simple to run down my back.

It needs to be bride-y, yet gothy.

See, we are taking pics of semi and I, before the wedding, at a cemetery (we are crazy, I know, but we LOVE it!). So it cant be all pretty fluffy bunny YAY type pink bride stuff. It has to be kept under a Gothy impression of sort.

So I want to keep it simple.

Virginal with a twist LMAO


I do like that dress, Ruby! I found a really nice Demetrius dress that I like a lot! Though my gut is telling me it is super expensive! But I marked a few of my faves and I will try them on and get prices on each when I am visiting the US next month :)

I'm so excited!! I also ordered some catalogues LOL they are all going to semi's place! LOL he is going to have a bunch of bridal catalogues arriving at his mailbox!! LOL

[RubyRose]

The link for the site which I got the dress from is: http://www.intocamelot.com.au/

They can ship orders to just about anywhere.

And dresses start at $250AU

I can't remember if you've found your dress or not.

[RubyRose]

Morr - by the way, the Save the Date link in your sig doesn't work.

[Morr]

Ok fixed it! Thanks Ruby. The link should work now :D


And thanks for the dresses links! I'm going to check it out :D

[Morr]

Ooo Ooo...

I think I want to incorporate this into our ceremony:

http://www.handfasting.info/blesshand.html

Except maybe let our officiant use her words, rather than just memorize this text. Ya know? Let her creativity and experience flow into it as well.

[Tzhebee]

Ooo Ooo...

I think I want to incorporate this into our ceremony:

http://www.handfasting.info/blesshand.html

Except maybe let our officiant use her words, rather than just memorize this text. Ya know? Let her creativity and experience flow into it as well.
My SIL used this at her wedding...and her groom wrote on his hands in big black ink "Calm down!" and "I love you". She busted up in the middle of the ceremony and we couldn't tell if she was laughing or crying, it was great!

[Moonlite Faery]

I didnt know too much about handfasting at the time of our wedding, although I dont know how we would have incorportated it. We decided to not light a unity candle but instead we blended two colors of sand into a tall hurricane type vase. It was really pretty but we had to pour it slowly because it was a little windy and sand in my face wasnt an option :)

[RubyRose]

Morr, you're welcome. Rhyce and I frequent that shop each time we're in Fremantle.

[Windsmith]

Oh! Me! Me! Meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

T-25 days and counting, and I am sooooo stressed. My fiancee and I consider it a banner night if neither of us bursts into tears over something wedding-related. One of my friends told me, "This month is your test," and I'm not sure we're gonna pass.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGH.

Thank you. I feel better now.

[Morr]

LOL

*hugs* Windsmith! You will get through it!!

[Moonlite Faery]

You'll be ok Windsmith! My maid of honor cried during the ceremony and I had to try and wink at her and stuff to make sure she wouldnt distract me more than she already was :)

[Tzhebee]

Here's my newest stress related issue....what the hell kind of cords do I use for my handfasting???? :lol: I know that may seem like a dumb question, but it's killing me right now. I need three (I'm doing a modified 3-cord ceremony) and have no effing clue what to use. I just don't want something....fluffy, or jingly, or whispy.... :lol:

If I don't :lol: I'll :wah2: so just work with all the :lol: OK? :D

[Moonlite Faery]

thats a neat idea to do it with cords, i'm not sure if thats normal because i'm not too familiar with handfasting, but my friend who incorporated it into her ceremony used lots of very pretty velvet and silk ribbons/ thick pieces of fabric

[catphrodite]

my wedding is set for September 2007. :toofless:

[RubyRose]

Tzhebee, what about white (purity) red (love) ... and I'm kinda stuck on a third. Maybe a colour that means something to the two of you.

[RubyRose]

congrats, catphodite.

[Morr]

YAY Cat!

Welcome! :D *hugs*

I like Ruby's idea for the colored cords. Try searching ebay for those, ya never know...


Semi and I are going to have to figure out a nice little ceremony that will incorporate both our paths. Its going to be interesting! He is on a Voodoo path, I'm on an Irish Recon path lol

[catphrodite]

YAY Cat!

Welcome! :D *hugs*

I like Ruby's idea for the colored cords. Try searching ebay for those, ya never know...


Semi and I are going to have to figure out a nice little ceremony that will incorporate both our paths. Its going to be interesting! He is on a Voodoo path, I'm on an Irish Recon path lol
thanks, chica!

:D

when I was married before, we had the ceremony in a cavern (far underground)
and we stood in a circle of weeping willow branches. I was barefoot and
wearing a $25 dress. admittedly, that was the only cool thing about my marriage.

[Tzhebee]

Tzhebee, what about white (purity) red (love) ... and I'm kinda stuck on a third. Maybe a colour that means something to the two of you.
Ok...but what do I use? A rope? A piece of cloth braided together? Plastic? :lol:

I was thinking of getting some different textured cloth and kinda "hodge-podging" a rope. Like one with various shades of red, one with white and sparkles...and one...I don't know...mixed like a quilt maybe? No clue really.

[RubyRose]

Personally, I'd use rope.

[Windsmith]

Ok...but what do I use? A rope? A piece of cloth braided together? Plastic? :lol:

I was thinking of getting some different textured cloth and kinda "hodge-podging" a rope. Like one with various shades of red, one with white and sparkles...and one...I don't know...mixed like a quilt maybe? No clue really.2 options come to mind: you can make strips of a lot of different fabrics that are somehow important to you and your beloved - or at least that you've had around a long time. Probably won't get the exact colors you want, but it might be pretty meaningful.

We're going with cording. We were in the ribbon section of our local JoAnn's, not having any luck, and then we wandered into the upholstery section and found 3 different colors of cord that jumped right out at us - one that "represents" me, one for my fiancee, and one that just happens to be our wedding colors. We braided it together this weekend, and it looks gorgeous.

[Rhianna813]

For our handfasting we used cording. I just bought some cord from the fabric store which usually comes in thin and thick sizes and basic colors. This would be found near the tassels and home decor section of a fabric store. We bought 9 feet (3 yards) of blue and I tied a knot in each end so it would not unravel. It's simple cording with a bit of sheen but not frilly at all. Thinner cord could be braided easily.

After we exchanged rings and held our left hands the cord was wrapped 3 times around my wrist, 3 times around our joined hands and 3 times around his wrist. We said our vows then upwrapped the cord.

[Marcasite]

count me in! My wedding's gonna be as cheap and small as can possibly be and no dress worries cause I'm just gonna reuse my prom dress. But my biggest issue is my parents who are gonna throw a fit when I tell them! Also, money's gonna be tough, even though all we need is a license, a tux rental, a wedding place/officiary and pizza and beer money, that's gonna be a little over $600 which we really don't have at this point :P

[Morr]

WOOT!


Yes, money comes out to be a lot LOL

[RubyRose]

Okay the two biggest worries at the moment ... cars and invitations.

I have to have them ready to send out by June 1st. Which isn't all that far away. I need to get shopping.

[Marcasite]

ohh my fiancee and I found a nice little place to hold it, seats 45 guests and it's only $250, what a bargain! We're going to check it out sometime next week and start arranging the details. I'm killer excited!

[Moonlite Faery]

Thats an awesome deal! good luck to you!

[Morr]

semi and I are going to check out this beautiful little place we found online. I think its about $1,000 for 4-5 hours, rental of the whole place. It is a 19th century Victorian Manor, at a public park in Philadelphia. I think it can host up to 150 guests.

We're getting take out from this awesome resturant in Philly -- Pizzas, Fries, Philly Cheese Steaks, Wings, etc. :D Its going to be loads of fun!

I think we will use this picture attached on our invitations.

I really love it, it looks amazing. :D

HeeHee!

:boing:

[Marcasite]

ohh that is a beautiful picture, your invitations are going to be beautiful! :D

[Morr]

Thanks :D

[DragonsChest]

Ok...but what do I use? A rope? A piece of cloth braided together? Plastic? :lol:

I was thinking of getting some different textured cloth and kinda "hodge-podging" a rope. Like one with various shades of red, one with white and sparkles...and one...I don't know...mixed like a quilt maybe? No clue really.

Have you thought about twisted rope curtain tie-backs? They come in all sorts of colors and diameters. With and without the fringy end thingy. They might not be too expensive....

[Marcasite]

My sister is making me write a 500 word essay on why she should be supportive of my decision to marry. My parents are going to react much worse and I'm just scared. SHould I do it in a restaurant with his parents so they can't throw a fit or should I hold it in private? My sister says it's rude to drop such a bombshell in a public setting. I'm almost willing to put it off for another 5 years because I just know they'll flip right out. But I don't want to wait. I know I want to spend the rest of my life with Andrew and him with me. It's not like this was unexpected, we've been living together for 2 years! ughhh I'm so stressed and miserable :(

[Morr]

I agree with your sister. Do it privately. They will just be more angry that you did it in a public place IN FRONT of their future inlaws and stuff.

Good luck! Keep us updated!

[Morr]

Okay! I found this brilliant idea!

A Well Wisher for the wedding.

Its instead of a Guestbook.

The guests drop little cards with wishes for the wedding into a big wish bowl. I can make it myself and decorate it (yay Crafts store!).

However, since Hymnia offered to make us a Guestbook, I was thinking of using the Guestbook to save and scrapbook into it the little cards from the Well Wisher. I can put the cards along with pics of the guests. I think it might be a neat idea!

[Moonlite Faery]

thats a great idea Morr, ad I love your pic! we did the picture frame idea. where everyone signed a big frame for one of our wedding pictures :)

[Morr]

Are any of you girls making your own food? Homemade food?

Or are you using Catering/Venue's food?


I am torn.

Seeing as we're now having a Sunday brunch type thing, I was thinking --

Why dont I, my MOH and Bridesmaid, and mom just make the food ourselves.

My mother makes AMAZING food.

I want to have nice cute little sandwiches, cheeses, salads, some soup, drinks, cake and desserts.

I also have great recipes for Halloween treats and desserts, and some great alcoholic bevrages.

I doubt we'd have MORE than 50 people at the MOST. So I think we can pull it off...

Plus, I think this will be a great money saver, and a lot of fun. We'll have Friday and Saturday to make all the food and prepare it.

Any opinions or thoughts?

I'm kinda confused at the moment LOL

[Ceres]

My sister says it's rude to drop such a bombshell in a public setting.

I think its rude not to congratulate the prospective bride and groom, myself. Or for them to ask you explain why they should support your decision, for that matter! I dont think you should allow them to ruin this for you Marcasite....
:boing:

[Marcasite]

thanks :) I wish my parents would see it the way you do. They aren't going to ruin my wedding, it's gonna be wonderful :D I know the initial reaction won't be pleasant though. I'm still trying to work up the nerve to tell them. We told his mom and she's really happy for us and told me I need to grow some balls. She's right, I do. As much as I try to pretend I don't care if I let my parents down, I do. They've been proud of me recently which is a change and well I know this isn't going to go over well at all. I feel like I need to justify why I want to get married because everyone asks me why now? Why so young? And I don't have an answer for that. All I know is over the past 2 years we've put our relationship through every test there is, financial stress, poverty, horrible jobs, horrible roomates, a major depression on my part at the beginning, and we've come out stronger than ever and more supportive and in love. And I know without a doubt this man is the one who has helped me turn my life around. I want to share the happy moments in my life with him and I want him to be the one who helps me get through the hard times. But that still doesn't answer their objections because after we get married, nothing's really gonna change. We're still gonna go to sleep on the same bed we always had and get up and bicker good-naturedly about who puts the coffee on and life will proceed as normal. Neither of us are going anywhere after all. But I need to tell them and soon. I need to remember I'm a grown woman.
As for making your own food, that's what we're probably doing, though it's just gonna be appetizers. Still 40 people is quite a few appetizers ;) My sister's accepting this grudgingly, and she'll come around. But either way she promised she'd help me make some appetizers beforehand and buy some cheap wine for the reception :P

[RubyRose]

Morr, I don't see why you couldn't pull it off. Rhyce and I, are having our wedding reception caterred for, 3 course buffet style. Along with drinks. That's why it's costing $103 per head.

[Morr]

I guess I'll have to talk to semi, my mom and the ladies to see if they think we can pull it off...

Hmp.

[Windsmith]

Why dont I, my MOH and Bridesmaid, and mom just make the food ourselves.

Plus, I think this will be a great money saver, and a lot of fun. We'll have Friday and Saturday to make all the food and prepare it.

Any opinions or thoughts?

I'm kinda confused at the moment LOL Wow. That is indeed ambitious.

Here's my humble opinion on the matter: consider that decision very carefully. L. and I decided to go the DIY wedding route. I think it's saving us money, but between all the trips for dress material, altar construction materials, beads, tea for the favors, paper for the invitations and programs (not to mention having to buy a new printer to print all of these things when ours crapped out), etc., I'm not sure how much we've really saved. And at this point I feel it's been more headache than it's worth to be able to say "We did everything ourselves!" Sure, it seems like a great idea to do everything yourself. But then you find yourself standing in the middle of the living room at 10:00 at night 3 days before your wedding, holding your sobbing fiancee because she's been all but sleep-sewing for the past 4 days and has just discovered she's done something potentially unfixable to her dress.

We're getting our food from the local Whole Foods. It's cheaper than real catering but a lot less trouble for us than doing it ourselves.

But that's just my buck fifty's worth.

[Tzhebee]

My mom, me and some friends are doing most my catering. And I plan on having around 100 people or so. We're doing a buffet style instead of sit-down dinner, and Anothony has requested that we have "real" food not just finger foods. We're gonna get a couple platters pre-made from Costco and make up the rest ourselves. Then we're going to have a local deli bring in fried chicken. Other than that, we're doing it all including the cake.

If you are going to have foods that require reheating, you can rent those big silver tubs with heaters from most catering places. My hall has a huge kitchen with 4 stoves, so I don't have to worry about keeping things too warm.

Just remember to leave yourself some down time...you'll need it the day or two before!

[Morr]

oh I am not doing EVERYTHING myself!

I was just thinking of the food.

I guess when I am there in a couple of weeks, semi and I will look through catarers AND DIY food lol We'll figure out what comes out to be the best option, I guess.

Thanks for the advice from everyone :D

[AutumnWitchie]

My best friend is getting married June 10th in San Antonio, in a garden at the Riverwalk. All 3 of her bridesmaids live out of state(myself included) so she's had to do almost everything herself. The bridesmaids dresses finally came in -2 weeks late. All three are too big(woman at the bridal shop ordered a size bigger on each one"just in case". Not enough time to reorder so us bridesmaids have some fun fittings to go thru. I expected my dress to need altering because of my chest measurements. I'd have to really pad my bra to get the dress to even be right for it. LOL My best friend was afraid that I might be offended about the size of my dress. I reassured her that it is her wedding and I'd show up in a feed sack if thats what she asked of me. :D

[Marcasite]

I told my mom. She said I was too young and pretty much begged me to wait at least a year. I figured I could live with that especially if it meant I'd get her support. She's happy about the engagement and says she has no problem with marriage, but she'd like me to finish my undergraduate degree first because my dad's likely to cut tuition contributions when he finds out. So my wedding's gonna be in June. I don't really mind, gives us more time to put things together and gather funds.
I hope all you other ladies are doing well ;)

[Morr]

Congrats!

I am glad it didnt go as bad as you thought!

A year is nothing, it will pass by so fast!

[Prinsazz]

Congratulations Marcasite! Im glad your mother wasnt completely against it and it went well. Am still trying to work out when to tell my parents- will be fine with my dad but my mum and stepdad dont like him- or at least arent very supportive.

I love your banner Morr it is a wonderful picture!

[IvyWitch]

Caterers are so freakin expensive. I got mne at $104 a head, and that was an off peak price. Granted it's the uber package, but still.

And, the place is charging us a 20% "service fee" which is apparently a staff fee that is about $2000, in addition to the $250 Maitre d' fee. And, now I got a piece of paper saying I should tip the waitstaff $30 a person and the Maitre d' another $300. What the crap am I paying a service fee for then?

I didn't see this thread so it's a little late considering my wedding is, oh, tomorrow....but I have 5 or 6 people that I paid for who aren't coming now, do you think it would be inappropriate to say that that extra $525 will suffice as gratuity for the staff? That's what my parents suggested, but I feel like it's kind of rude. At the same time though, I don't exactly have another $500 to dole out....

[Marcasite]

wow that is expensive. And congratulations on getting married tomorrow :D how exciting! I don't know a thing about etiquette but hopefully someone else will be able to answer your question.
And prinsazz, good luck to you when you do tell them :)

[Morr]

CONGRATS IvyWitch!

Come back and tell us all about it, and of course post pics!

I dont know yet what semi and I will do with the food. I guess we'll figure it out when I see him in 2 weeks. That IS super expensive though.

[MoonDragn]

All I can think of, was your wedding night...

In the midnight hour, he cried Morr!, Morr!, Morr! ;)

[Morr]

Lmfao!!!!!!

[Marcasite]

ugh I ran into my mom today and got the lecture from hell. Apparently she's not all that suportive after all, she was just relieved we weren't doing it in September. She gave me a 30 minute talk on why I shouldn't get married until I have an established career and we're financially secure which may never happen :P I'm just so frustrated, I was in tears by the end of it. She wants us to wait until we'll have her support and my father's and they can't possibly support us until we've got established careers. I wish I'd never told her, honestly.

[DragonsChest]

All I can think of, was your wedding night...

In the midnight hour, he cried Morr!, Morr!, Morr! ;)

OMG!!! That's too hilarious! I love it.

[Morr]

ugh I ran into my mom today and got the lecture from hell. Apparently she's not all that suportive after all, she was just relieved we weren't doing it in September. She gave me a 30 minute talk on why I shouldn't get married until I have an established career and we're financially secure which may never happen :P I'm just so frustrated, I was in tears by the end of it. She wants us to wait until we'll have her support and my father's and they can't possibly support us until we've got established careers. I wish I'd never told her, honestly.



*hugs*

They will come around eventually.

[Windsmith]

Yay! We are all marrieded now. At least in the eyes of our families and communities. And the government can just kiss our shiny dyke butts!

Only one major mishap - turns out the building with the bathrooms doesn't get unlocked 'til Memorial Day, so everyone had to use the Port-a-Potty at the far end of the park. Everyone was quite gracious about it, though.

L. completed the dresses at 11:30 the night before the wedding. Now that is living for the thrill of the deadline!

[Morr]

TWO WEDDINGS!

Actually, I'm thinking its going to end up being 3 Wedding ceremonies...

WOOHOO!!

Lucky 3! :D

*chuckles*

AHHHH SO MUCH TO DO! NO TIME NO TIME!!!

Semi, we need to talk!!

[DragonsChest]

Actually, I'm thinking its going to end up being 3 Wedding ceremonies...


Three? Wow, you either LOVE to par-tay, or are a glutton for punishment. :hahugh:

[Morr]

LOL!!!

by the way, DragonChest, I think your wedding Cake Topper will be for October 31st..

Well, actually for the party on the weekend afterwards, but the official wedding date will [hopefully] be October 31st, 2006.

Right now it all depends on us being approved by the US Immigration on time for October 31st...

:D

LOL yes we do love to par-tay!!

[RubyRose]

Okay ... update time ... invites will hopefully be ready to mail no later than Friday 9th June 2006.

I just have to ...
Purchase shoes
Purchase jewellery and bridesmaids jewellery
Book Hair Appointment, Nails Appointment
Figure out where where spending our wedding night.
Work out songs for reception

I think I'm forgetting something ...

[DragonsChest]

I think I'm forgetting something ...

Reminding the groom to show up? :hehehehe:

[Tzhebee]

I finally got up the nerve to call my dad and flat out say "So, dad...you coming to my wedding or not?" His response? "When it is again?...oh, well. I don't know...that's a long time off." End of discussion. :( jerk.


Now, please excuse me while I have a freak-out moment.....

:awilly: OMG!!!! Just over 9 months left and I have NOTHING accomplished!!!! :awilly:

Ok...not techinically "nothing" I do have: blank invites with blank RSVP cards, toasting flutes, reception gifts and my shoes. But...that's it! OMG.... I don't have a place, so I can't type up the invites, I don't have food or flowers or clothes! OMG, we need clothes!!!!!

And my guest list (which is still missing 70% of my family as I am waiting on info from mom, gramma and Anothony) is already near 200. :collapse:

[Marcasite]

yikes! That's really mean of your dad :(
I'm sure you'll get everything put together in time. I feel like there's way too much time before my wedding :P It's in a year and it seems to keep growing as time goes by :awilly:

[Morr]

*hugs* Tzhe

I'm sorry your dad is so mean.

Planning and freaking out over wedding stuff is part of the fun, though!! HAHAHAHA!


Well, ok its official -- September 15th, 2006 is our Israeli Wedding date. Thankfully, my mom is studying Event Planning & Management, so she took over all the technical details, made all the phone calls and arrangements. So right now we just have to go dress shopping, get the invitation done and going to the Resturant/Ballroom we booked to talk to them about the exact set up.

US wedding, October 31st, will also be quite easy. We will be going to City Hall with several of our closest friends, and we'll get a Judge to marry us. That night, we will be going to a State Park in Philly and do the Pagan Ceremony! Afterwards we'll take out the guests (which will probably be no more than 20 people) out to a fancy dinner. The weekend afterwards everyone else who is invited to the reception will be coming over and we'll take them all out to a nice dinner as well.

So it should be lots of fun!!! I am EXCITED :D

And we get to do Gothic Wedding pictures at a cemetery, in the US!! I am planning on a very Gothic/Halloweenish theme for the US wedding. The Israel wedding will be more traditional.

WOOHOO!

[AutumnWitchie]

My best friend and fellow Gemini is getting married in September and I'm a bridesmaid. The bridesmaid dress is beautiful. Hubby and I are tentively planning a vow renewal for our 11th anniversary at the end of September. I'll use the bridesmaid dress (its lilac with sheer flowing sleeves) for our vow renewel. Working on getting hubby into a kilt. He's researching the family for the tartan design. We were married at the courthouse and I don't think his mother has yet forgiven us for not having a big wedding ceremony.

[Morr]

YAY!

Congrats for the renewal!!

*hugs*

Looking forward to seeing pics ;) Kilts are hot!

[Marcasite]

that's really exciting about your two weddings Morr! and it's coming up so quickly :) I love the idea for the gothic theme.
And Autumn Witchie, that's really neat about the vow renewal. How romantic :D
As long as your wedding was good for you it doesn't matter what your MIL thinks :P

So much time before my wedding, I'm just gonna have to live vicariously through the rest of you for a while! It's too early for us to do anything yet, really.
In less happy news, I dug up my prom dress and my fiance agrees it's absolutely perfect for a wedding dress. Unfortunately, it's a size 6 and I'm a size 10 :S I can still zip it up but I can't breathe when it's done up. I think I'm gonna try and lose some weight and if that doesn't work I hope it can be altered without ruining it. Gah! I didn't realize I was so small in high school :(

[RubyRose]

Well we went suit shopping yesterday ... and the suits are all sorted.

One done, so much more to go

[Morr]

*bounces around*

I've contacted the Israeli Wedding ceremony officiant!

Its a lady. She seems very cool!

I am waiting on a response from her.

I also have to call the band that will be playing at our wedding, the manager wants to meet me to talk about the music during the ceremony and reception.

YAYYYYY!

I like doing wedding things :D

[Ziana]

Congrats everyone on their engagements and weddings! I thought it would never happen, but I'm getting married too! We are planning it for next April, which gives me a good long while to freak out and plan. Though it seems I am taking the easy way out, since my fiance and I want to get married at Scarborough Faire. http://www.scarboroughrenfest.com/weddings/packages.htm They supply everything but the clothes and wedding cake, for $3250. I did find a really cool Renaissance gown by a lady near me who sells on Ebay. Her website is http://www.fairefinery.com The one I am looking at is the Renaissance Court Gown done in champagne and lavender. And it's only about $600.

[Marcasite]

Congratulations Ziana! :) How exciting!

[RubyRose]

Too many hassles to list ... this wedding is turning into a nightmare.

Due to an invite stuff up, which seems to be [i]my[i] fault and nobody elses ...

[Tzhebee]

Oh....
my.....
goddess.....

As if just regular wedding stuff wasn't enough. *lol* I've been asked by a few family members where I'm registered at...well, I'm not yet. So I figure it'll be fun to look around and play with a registry or two. :lol: :rotfl: Boy am I silly!

So, I go to Linen's and Things online registry and figure I'll start from whatever is listed first and dilegently make my way down the list. So, I start with Bedding. Seems simple enough. Our bedroom is currently Navy Blue, Hunter Green and White. We like those colors, they work for us. So, I find some nice sheets and the picture shows them in navy. However, the drop-down for color choices show these: Begonia, Canary, Oyster, Pebble, Wasabi, Wedgewood and White. WTF, over. Um...I'm guessing Canary is yellow and wedgewood is brown...that's as far as my guessing went (besides white obviously).

So, I hit my browsers back button a couple times thinking Eh, I'll skip the sheets and start with the comforters. I find the PERFECT comforter shown in the EXACT color of navy blue I'm looking for. I click the color drop-down and this time I'm shown: Buttercup, Dresden, Ivory, Mocha, Scarlett, Shell, Stone, Thistle, Tournmaline and White. *facepalm* Oh...my...goodness. What the hell happened to Blue, Purple, Yellow, Orange and Green???

Maybe I'm just a redneck backwoods hillbilly...but gosh darn ma I ain't got the first idea about them thar color names; whadja reckon Dresden is...and howd'ja pronounce Begonia?

I never considered myself undereducated until I came across those "colors". Perhaps I should take a list of the names into a paint store and ask for samples? *lol* Because at this rate, I'll register for everything in White and add some bleach to my list. :lol:

[Marcasite]

hehe I started googling for you and tourmaline alone... well check out this testimonial:
"Tourmaline has more varied colors than any other gemstone. With more than 100 hues available." (http://www.minerals-n-more.com/Tourmaline_Info.html)
Dresden is a city in Germany (?)
Buttercup is probably yellow, I'm willing to bet ivory, stone and shell are off-white
Thistle would probably be pinky-purple and scarlett a deep red
Mocha's coffee brown

As for the sheets
Begonias come in a variety of colours (blah), Canary's probably yellow
Oyster's off-white again
Wasabi (if we're talking the Japanese horseradish type) is bright green
Pebbles are a bunch of colours too (blah)

ooh I found a thread colour site
wedgewood and tourmaline are probably what you're looking for (though I can't find anything on Dresden at all and the colours of tourmaline seem to vary :S)
(I know, I don't see what's wrong with Navy/Dark blue either :P)

[DragonsChest]

Congrats everyone on their engagements and weddings! I thought it would never happen, but I'm getting married too! We are planning it for next April, which gives me a good long while to freak out and plan. Though it seems I am taking the easy way out, since my fiance and I want to get married at Scarborough Faire. http://www.scarboroughrenfest.com/weddings/packages.htm They supply everything but the clothes and wedding cake, for $3250. I did find a really cool Renaissance gown by a lady near me who sells on Ebay. Her website is http://www.fairefinery.com The one I am looking at is the Renaissance Court Gown done in champagne and lavender. And it's only about $600.

I LOVE Scarborough Faire!!! That was our home faire when we lived in Arlington. I know you'll have a beautiful wedding. I'd like to have my 25th wedding anniversary there, and renew our vows in full Ren Garb!!! Might even happen, it's only a year and a half away.

[Faeawyn]

Oh....
my.....
goddess.....

Our bedroom is currently Navy Blue, Hunter Green and White. We like those colors, they work for us. So, I find some nice sheets and the picture shows them in navy. However, the drop-down for color choices show these: Begonia, Canary, Oyster, Pebble, Wasabi, Wedgewood and White. WTF, over. Um...I'm guessing Canary is yellow and wedgewood is brown...that's as far as my guessing went (besides white obviously).

So, I hit my browsers back button a couple times thinking Eh, I'll skip the sheets and start with the comforters. I find the PERFECT comforter shown in the EXACT color of navy blue I'm looking for. I click the color drop-down and this time I'm shown: Buttercup, Dresden, Ivory, Mocha, Scarlett, Shell, Stone, Thistle, Tournmaline and White. *facepalm* Oh...my...goodness. What the hell happened to Blue, Purple, Yellow, Orange and Green???

Maybe I'm just a redneck backwoods hillbilly...but gosh darn ma I ain't got the first idea about them thar color names; whadja reckon Dresden is...and howd'ja pronounce Begonia?

. :lol:I was laughing my butt off reading this. Wedgewood and Dresden are the blue :rotfl: You have a point tho...if you're not an Interior Designer, how are you supposed to understand those color choices.

[Crysiira]

I have barely begun the planning stage and I'm already stressing... I'm so glad I found this thread! My fiance and I are still hashing out how we will be resolving our religious differences for the ceremony... He's up for anything, but he's convinced our family will get scared, run away, and never talk to us again if we do anything too extreme... and apparently we have very different definitions of "extreme".
There was a conversation back at the beginning of this thread about veils... I've decided to go with a cape. Something see-through-y like chiffon or whatever. Lace would be nice but expensive. I don't know... haven't really begun to seriously price things yet.. I have a feeling when I do... I'll cry.
Seeing as my parents have no money to contribute, and his parents' contribution will also be minimal... I'm wondering what everyone else has spent so far? Total cost wise? What do you think I can get away with cutting corners on?

[Tzhebee]

We're paying for most of it ourselves as well. My mom has offered to do most of the food (not a caterer, she's preparing it). But here's a run down of my costs (so far):

Actual Costs:
Invites (200 blank w/300 blank RSVP) $159.09
Toner to print invites (3) $59.94
Reception gifts (mini photo frames) $94.92**
Personalized toasting flutes $45.83**
Garter Set $21.94**
Save the dates (25 do it yourself kind) $31.45
My wedding ring $1,076.59 :bigredblu
My shoes $51.95**

Things I picked out but haven't paid for yet:
Location (wedding and ceremony at same place) $500
Flowers (fake) $313**
Bridesmaids dresses (3) $288.70**
Jewelry $40.93**
My Gown $264**

Total $1,871.75 (without my ring)

Things I still need to get:
Music, Photo's, Guy's suits, decorations, cake topper...and I'm probably missing something else. OH! :doh2: HIS RING!!! :lol: Man I'm quick today.

Anyway, we're hoping to keep everything under $5,000.

(everything marked with ** was (or will be) bought off E-bay)

[Faeawyn]

Just curious...but usually the guys and the girls pay for their own tuxes and dresses...are you paying for them?

[Marcasite]

We're paying for ours and keeping it as cheap and small as possible. So far we've got about 40 people. We haven't actually bought anything yet, but here's what we've got so far
My dress is gonna be my prom dress, but it might not fit (I need to get down to a size 6 :awilly: ) so alterations to dress: $50
The chapel: $300
Appetizers: $150
My sister said she'll help with the wine :)
Invitations are gonna be done on my computer so $50 for colour ink cartridge.
We're gonna have a reception-type thing in someone's backyard so we'll save on that.
So that's $550 so far...
We need a tux rental but I'm not sure the price on that, a small bouquet of flowers and party favours still. And I'm certainly forgetting something in there. I don't want rings but my fiance says we need to do that too :S 10 karat gold anyone? :P All in all we're trying to keep it under $1000 but it's gonna be close!

ETA: looking back on this I think I'm probably underestimating prices. Oh well :P

[Tzhebee]

Just curious...but usually the guys and the girls pay for their own tuxes and dresses...are you paying for them?
My wedding party is Me and Anothony (obviously), the bridesmaids are our 2 10 year old daughters, groomsmen are our 8 and 3 year old sons.

Then, his best man is flying in from VA to be here, so we figure we can pay for his tux since he has all those other expenses. My MOH's son is still in the hospital 3 hours away due to a car accident that happened over a month ago. He's now confined to a wheelchair and will never walk again...I told her not to worry about paying for her dress with everything else she has on her plate right now. :)

[Cedar]

I'm getting married in August. Should I be panicking?

Has anyone else hyperventalated over wedding invitation prices?

[Suzette]

Hey everybody!
I haven't been around in AGES _inabox_ but can I jump in too? I'm getting married Friday, October 6th :)

I've been reading around, but haven't had time to post. In fact, I have to jump now but will be back tomorrow evening.

We're having a traditional ceremony with Pagan elements, can't wait to hear what you all think about it and we can swap ideas!

[Amethyst Rose]

Just curious...but usually the guys and the girls pay for their own tuxes and dresses...are you paying for them?

That's just weird. :)

My sister is constantly being a brides maid for one friend or another...she's paid hundreds for dresses she hated and will never wear again.

The thing is.... I find this (making your bridesmaids buy their own dress) really rude. If I were to have a more formal wedding (my wedding party just wore whatever they wanted, not coordinated or anything), I would never have hesitated in paying for the bridesmaids dresses and groomsmens tux rentals...it wouldn't have even crossed my mind not to.

*shrug*

[Marcasite]

hehe yeah if I even have bridesmaids they can wear whatever the heck they want :P

[Ziana]

both weddings I have been in during my adult life used rentals for tuxes and dresses. But with mine they are most likely gonna buy....only cuz they can be used again and again for other Ren Faires. Except of course for his BestMan...we are still in the process of talking him into dressing in garb for it...

as for expenses, the fiance and I were discussing it earlier...we are thinking we are going to need about $8000.

$3250 for wedding and reception, this includes the officiant, bridal bouqet, garlands, bride and groom toasting goblets, and food.

$600 for my dress (unless the materials are more expensive than the dress on her website)

He's planning on $1500-$2000 for my ring

Then there is invitations, my daughters dress (who will be my Maid of Honor), the honeymoon and the cake.

ok...have to stop now...the panic is starting....problem is, I don't have parents so there is no one but us to help off set the costs....
(his mom is also gone and his father well....no help there, he's on limited income)

[RubyRose]

Well my bridesmaids, are buying they're own dresses, but they are a style of dress which can easily be worn again.

And of course the guys are paying for their tuxes.

[Suzette]

My MOH's son is still in the hospital 3 hours away due to a car accident that happened over a month ago. He's now confined to a wheelchair and will never walk again...I told her not to worry about paying for her dress with everything else she has on her plate right now. :)

I think that's a tremedously sweet gesture...

Usually, everyone's responsible for paying for their own stuff. I remember being a bridesmaid in the early 80's, and my friend wanted a "rainbow" theme for her maids (yea, nice - can you say "flattering"? meh), and of course she picked out not only the least complimentary color for me (it was a pukey lavender), but the frou-frou dress was horrendous... I bucked-up and "gleefully" plunked down $120 for the monstrosity and never wore it again. There's Goodwill's and Out of the Closets everywhere with these tossers...

Even though this is the first wedding for us both, we're both a bit older so we're keeping it simple ~ maid of honor for me, best man for him. I will shop with my MOH for a beautiful, black cocktail dress for her which she'll be totally able to wear again - but she'll be paying for it nonetheless.

[Crysiira]

This might sound crazy, but is there an alternative to tuxes? I despise tuxes, it makes guys look all the same, and it's too ultra-formal for the feel I'm going for, I guess. Are all your guys in tuxes, or are you doing something different?

[Windsmith]

This might sound crazy, but is there an alternative to tuxes? I despise tuxes, it makes guys look all the same, and it's too ultra-formal for the feel I'm going for, I guess. Are all your guys in tuxes, or are you doing something different?I have but one word for you: kilts.

[Tzhebee]

This might sound crazy, but is there an alternative to tuxes? I despise tuxes, it makes guys look all the same, and it's too ultra-formal for the feel I'm going for, I guess. Are all your guys in tuxes, or are you doing something different?
I don't mind the look of some of the new tuxes out there. I just don't like the carbon-copy 3 button with standard tie look. My FH is going to wear a suit jacket, vest and ... ascot (I think that's the style of tie) with wranglers and his boots. The other men in the wedding will be wearing suit tops and jeans as well. For them, it's more about comfort than anything else. I can't blame them!

Oh, and Windsmith....what I wouldn't give to see my men in kilts!!!! :drool: but seeing as they are not the least bit Scottish, it just doesn't seem appropriate.

[Crysiira]

That's an interesting choice. I don't think it's for me, but still an interesting choice. My wedding is leaning toward Celtic-themed, and I'm not entirely sure if there's a traditional men's outfit I could find. Kilts would be sexy, yes, lol, but like you say, we're not Scottish so it wouldn't quite be appropriate. Anyone else have any clue what Celtic/Gaelic traditional men'swear would be?

[Ziana]

since having found what I want for my dress, we are now concentrating on his outfit. That is proving to be a lot more difficult. Since we are doing this as a Reniassance wedding, he wants to be period correct. Problem is, we can't find anything he really likes.

[Crysiira]

Ha, I know exactly how you feel.

[Ziana]

he was laughing the other day about the fact that I am already planning stuff. Said "she told me it would take her awhile to plan this thing, but she's already picked out her dress and we know where we are having it, at this rate she will have it all planned and ready to go by the end of summer" hopefully now he will understand why I said it would take awhile to get it together, because even if we find exactly what he wants, we either have to get the money together to buy it, or we have to make it. :awilly:

[Crysiira]

Ha! Yeah, it took me forever to convince my fiance you need to start planning a year ahead of time. He thought I pulled that number straight out of my ass until I sat him down in front of three different wedding-planning magazines and they all said, "Start planning a year ahead of time!" lol. I'm doing it even earlier because I'm doing a LOT of stuff myself and I am so not doing it all last minute like I do with everything else.

[Windsmith]

Man, this line of conversation makes me gladder than ever that my wedding had 2 brides...no men to dress!

[Amethyst Rose]

My wedding only took 2 months to plan and execute. I guess it all depends on how large and elaborate of a wedding you're planning on having. I had two brides maids (no groomsmen, though my father-in-law held my ring), my gramma did flowers, we had 30 guests in my parent's backyard, and we did bbq buffet in their house for the reception. It was really nice. :)

[Suzette]

I don't necessarily think a man has to wear a tux, in fact I think every man should have a nice, black suit in his wardrobe for special occasions - to dress up or dress down. My business takes me to many events and stuff, so my SO purchased a really nice black suit to have for such times when he can join me. For our wedding though, he'll wear a simple, yet elegant tux. Black, white shirt, champagne colored silk tie, red rose in his lapel or boutanneire (sp?) thing.

Love the kilt weddings, been to more than a few... What can I say, other than woo-damn-hoo! Good times.

Our wedding is in October, once we nailed down the location (which required a serious hunt), everything else has fallen into place. I'm using many professional contacts, and am saving $$ in the process!

[RubyRose]

Okay, I'm jewellery hunting at the moment, and have come across these two peices...

I'm thinking of this for myself ....
http://www.glitterco.com.au/comersus/store/catalog/5042.jpg

and this for the bridesmaids...
http://www.glitterco.com.au/comersus/store/catalog/4905.jpg

My main concern is that they clash too much...

what are your thoughts?

[Crysiira]

Wow, those are gorgeous! And expensive-looking!!! I don't think they clash at all; you're not going to be wearing them on top of each other, they will be on seperate people, so I think you'll be fine. :hahugh:

[RubyRose]

Surprisingly, those peices aren't as expensive as they look.

[djmixon]

Thanks Moonlight!

So I bought the March/April issue of "Brides" magazine... HeeHee..
...
So I settled for white. It just causes less headaches for me, but its all good. I'm liking the white dresses I've seen. I found this one brilliant Alfred Angelo dress I like! Next month when I'm in the US I'm going with my bridesmaids to Bridal stores, and I'll try that perticular dress on. But I've been looking at a couple of other Bridal gowns, just in case I dont like that dress when its on me, or something.

There are so many! I WANT THEM ALL!

But I cant... LOL

Ohhhhh... Wedding dresses madness... How I love thee...

If you can, check out David's Bridal. They have Alfred Angelo dresses and they also have fabulous sales for both bridal gowns and bridesmaids dresses. Although, my second wedding, I just went to JC Penney's and found a nice dressy dress for all my bridesmaids and got off with about $75 per dress. It just depends on how formal you want things to be and if you want the girls to be able to wear their dress out again.

Oh, and black is in for bridesmaid dresses...

Okay, I'm jewellery hunting at the moment, and have come across these two peices...

My main concern is that they clash too much...

what are your thoughts?

It depends on the neckline...

Well my bridesmaids, are buying they're own dresses, but they are a style of dress which can easily be worn again.

And of course the guys are paying for their tuxes.

Like I said, JC Penney's Dillards Foleys and such... great resources, expecially for tea length dresses - best for morning or afternoon weddings.

And, I agree about the men wearing a dark suit... check out Men's Warehouse... they have great sales!

---

To all brides & grooms to be...

Just remember, the more reasonable you make your plans, the fewer things can go wrong... and the more money you have to go on a fabulous honeymoon.

[djmixon]

I'm getting married in August. Should I be panicking?

Has anyone else hyperventalated over wedding invitation prices?

You know, you can do them yourselves... there are kits at Office Depot and OfficeMax to do them all by yourself... and they don't look too bad. Just write up what you want on your computer and print it out on the special paper... voila!

Oh....
my.....
goddess.....

As if just regular wedding stuff wasn't enough. *lol* I've been asked by a few family members where I'm registered at...well, I'm not yet. So I figure it'll be fun to look around and play with a registry or two. :lol: :rotfl: Boy am I silly!

...Our bedroom is currently Navy Blue, Hunter Green and White. We like those colors, they work for us. So, I find some nice sheets and the picture shows them in navy.

However, the drop-down for color choices show these: Begonia, Canary, Oyster, Pebble, Wasabi, Wedgewood and White. WTF, over.

...I find the PERFECT comforter shown in the EXACT color of navy blue I'm looking for. I click the color drop-down and this time I'm shown: Buttercup, Dresden, Ivory, Mocha, Scarlett, Shell, Stone, Thistle, Tournmaline and White.



Wedgewood and Dresden would be blue...

[Morr]

So my mom is in charge of the Israel wedding... She loves every minute of it, though I know she doesnt like to admit it *laughs*

Almost everything is ready! :D

As for the US wedding, its a tad on hold till we know what immigration has to say to us, and most importantly WHEN its going to approve us.

But I have a plan and everything will be simple, but Gothy as I like it :D Bwahahaha! *crosses fingers to make it to October 31st!!*

The Israel wedding will be more traditional... *sigh* yes I'll be wearing white, or Ivory...

[RubyRose]

We probably won't be going on a honeymoon, not when we will have an eight month old baby (in September) ... maybe a few nights away somewhere.

[djmixon]

There was a conversation back at the beginning of this thread about veils... I've decided to go with a cape. Something see-through-y like chiffon or whatever. Lace would be nice but expensive. I don't know... haven't really begun to seriously price things yet.. I have a feeling when I do... I'll cry.


Check out curtain panels... you might find the kind of lace you are looking for... and most can be dyed to match what you want. Further, they can be used as fabric to sew your cape......

My DIL found a really beautiful dress, on a pagan shopping site, it was perfect! She had ordered it, then found out she was pregnant, had to make a few changes to the order. It didn't have a huge price tag on it either! With a Halloween wedding, you might try something different like that? ( or even for those of you that aren't having a Halloween date, there are some pretty ones, and it may hold down the sticker shock).

What a great idea! Holy Clothing has some wonderful items over at eBay. Their clothes are very nice... possibly what you may be looking for!

[Suzette]

The Israel wedding will be more traditional... *sigh* yes I'll be wearing white, or Ivory...

Why not add a black silk sash to your dress, around your waist - depending on style of dress of course. I've seen this in many bridal mags, I think it looks really elegant, yet would appeal to your goth sense of style as well. Then, perhaps design your bouquet to be a bit gothy too, definitley use calla lillies (if you can get in Israel) and blood-red roses.

This way you can keep your sense of style and please the family :)

My dress is pearl, chapel length train, off the shoulders with pearl and crystal beading. My colors are white, pearl, champagne, black, various shades of green (ivy, calla lillies, hydrangeas) and blood-red roses....

We're getting married in a very historic location, we're both history, art and architecture freaks. Outdoor ceremony between hundred-year old trees, and decor by Mother Nature. The full moon will be right above, in full view (yes we planned that). We're having a traditional ceremony, but will replace "God" with the Divine Spirit and will be calling the elements into the ceremony to bless our union with each of their correspondences. I purchased four beautiful wrought iron candle stands which will be florald out to match each element color. Surely the first time anyone in either of our families have witnessed a traditional, yet Pagan ceremony!

Few steps away, the reception will be inside a beatiful clubhouse commissioned by Teddy Rosevelt in 1937, and is a fine example of California Craftsman architecture. Really stunning place...

And I'm still leaning on our first dance to be to "Witchcraft" :hahugh:

[djmixon]

I was watching Bridezillas the other day and one of the brides had a pink... soft rose dress. It was absolutely amazing. Color is IN... so don't feel you are relegated to just white or ivory or such.

[Cedar]

You know, you can do them yourselves... there are kits at Office Depot and OfficeMax to do them all by yourself... and they don't look too bad. Just write up what you want on your computer and print it out on the special paper... voila!


I thought about doing that but found a web site that had inexpensive invations that matched our wedding theme.

[Windsmith]

You know, you can do them yourselves... there are kits at Office Depot and OfficeMax to do them all by yourself... and they don't look too bad. Just write up what you want on your computer and print it out on the special paper... voila!We did our invitations ourselves, and they were gorgeous. My wife designed them. We got the paper from Paper Source (http://www.paper-source.com/) (and, really, I cannot speak highly enough of this store); she whipped up a map and some text, made a rubber stamp of the design that sort of became our wedding "symbol," and off we went. It took 4 of us an evening's worth of work to put them all together, but it was totally worth it for the finished product. We got so many compliments on how good they looked - elegant and professional-looking and yet totally orignal. I heartily recommend this option for anyone looking to personalize while still economizing.

[Marcasite]

My dress is going to be a really light pink.... that is, if I fit into it :P

[djmixon]

My dress is going to be a really light pink.... that is, if I fit into it :P

*raises a can of chilled milk chocolate Slim-Fast as a toast*

[Marcasite]

hehe well I've got a year....
4 sizes down in a year, no problem
right..? right...?
:awilly:
why did I have to be so skinny in high school? *grumble*

[Crysiira]

Check out curtain panels... you might find the kind of lace you are looking for... and most can be dyed to match what you want. Further, they can be used as fabric to sew your cape......

Thank you, that's actually a great idea. I can't wait to start looking, that's going to be my favorite part!
So tomorrow is the day my fiance and I lay out our wedding plans to our parents.... I'm nervous. I know this wedding is all about us and not them, but seriously, I think my mother's tolerance level for my change of religion has gone way down instead of up over the years... She's more paranoid about it than ever. Every time I mention something that is vaguely associated with Paganism, she changes the subject. I wonder how she is going to react to the ideas my fiance and I have....

[Marcasite]

So we went to check out the wedding chapel today. It's a funeral home. It's really nice and all, but it's a funeral home. And the outdoor patio with fountain is beautiful, but it's sandwiched between a giant fast food plaza and a cemetary.
I don't mind the thought of the cemetary so much. I think that maybe the spirits of those buried there would prefer to witness a union of two young people coming together in love rather than another funeral.
But I don't really know how tacky it is to get married at a funeral home. I reallly like the chapel inside, but then we'd have to do flowers and I can't afford flowers.
My fiance doesn't mind that it's a funeral home, but I don't know how I feel....

Another thing is that the cost for minister or officiant is $300. My grandfather is a retired minister. Do you think it would be tacky of me to ask him to officiate our wedding or do you think he'd be honoured? And can retired ministers even officiate anymore? I just have no idea.
Also, is it okay to have a wedding on a weekday, late afternoon? We really want to have it on the solstice next year and that's a Thursday.

I tried on my dress again, it fits better around the waist but my boobs aren't shrinking enough yet! I hope they do (haha I can't believe I'm hoping my boobs shrink) but they're the part I'm having most issues with with the dress



ACKKK IT"S ALL SO COMPLICATED I"M LOSING MY MIND :awilly:

[Morr]

Ooooo... Funeral home!!


semicivilizedman and I are taking our Pagan wedding photos done at a cemetery :D Its going to be very Goth oriented!

I think its very cool, but then again I'm a morbid sort of person...

For flowers -- Go to a wholesale floral, they sell flowers for cheap. Lots of them. And you and bridesmaids can arrange the flowers and bouquets yourself. That will save a lot on your money!

You should totally ask your grandfather if he could officiate your ceremony, why not? I think he will be honored.

Hang in there! Dont worry, you have plenty of time! Dont stress yourself out :D

[semi]

Ooooo... Funeral home!!


semicivilizedman and I are taking our Pagan wedding photos done at a cemetery :D Its going to be very Goth oriented!

I think its very cool, but then again I'm a morbid sort of person...

For flowers -- Go to a wholesale floral, they sell flowers for cheap. Lots of them. And you and bridesmaids can arrange the flowers and bouquets yourself. That will save a lot on your money!

You should totally ask your grandfather if he could officiate your ceremony, why not? I think he will be honored.

Hang in there! Dont worry, you have plenty of time! Dont stress yourself out :D

But we're not, in my opinion, doing it for the sake of doing it in a cemetary. The cemetary down the street from me is the oldest Victorian municipally-owned cemetary in the US. It's freakin' gorgeous. I mean amazingly beautiful, the perfect place for photos for anything, not to mention a wedding.

I'm more into the aspect of beauty than death, though there is beauty in death. However, the cemetary photos I want done are because of the beauty, not because the beauty is in a cemetary.

As for a funeral home, I would do it if the beauty was relevant regardless of it being a funeral home. If it was done simply because it was in a funeral home, I would not personally like that at all. But it's your choice, do whatever you want.

[Morr]

But we're not, in my opinion, doing it for the sake of doing it in a cemetary. The cemetary down the street from me is the oldest Victorian municipally-owned cemetary in the US. It's freakin' gorgeous. I mean amazingly beautiful, the perfect place for photos for anything, not to mention a wedding.

I'm more into the aspect of beauty than death, though there is beauty in death. However, the cemetary photos I want done are because of the beauty, not because the beauty is in a cemetary.



Yeah.

Thats what I meant.

*looks up at post..*

Where did I imply we were doing the cemetery pics just for the sake of having it be a cemetery?

[Marcasite]

Belive me, I don't want to be wed there because it's a funeral home. I like the price and the facility is nice, but I don't know if I can really reconcile myself with the idea... I mean people do get married there as well, but it's primary use is a funeral home. On the other hand, we're never gonna find anything with such a good price (likely because it's a funeral home) I just...don't know. I think my wealthy upper crust family would throw a colossal fit, not that they aren't already anyhow...
Hmm I guess I better keep looking, I don't think I should get married somewhere unless I'm 100% comfortable with it.... Maybe I'll give the unitarian fellowship a call..

[Suzette]

Hmm I guess I better keep looking, I don't think I should get married somewhere unless I'm 100% comfortable with it.... Maybe I'll give the unitarian fellowship a call..

Hon, you just answered your own question... I agree, that if it's a beautiful location, it's a beautiful location - regardless of locale. If you're uncomfortable about it? Gads, that's going to make you feel tremendous walking down the aisle, ya know?

I know what we went through with locations - trust me, keep looking and the right one will come along and everything will fall into place. Be a witch, make it happen...

[djmixon]

So we went to check out the wedding chapel today. It's a funeral home. It's really nice and all, but it's a funeral home. And the outdoor patio with fountain is beautiful, but it's sandwiched between a giant fast food plaza and a cemetary.

I don't mind the thought of the cemetary so much. I think that maybe the spirits of those buried there would prefer to witness a union of two young people coming together in love rather than another funeral.

But I don't really know how tacky it is to get married at a funeral home. I reallly like the chapel inside, but then we'd have to do flowers and I can't afford flowers.

My fiance doesn't mind that it's a funeral home, but I don't know how I feel....

Another thing is that the cost for minister or officiant is $300. My grandfather is a retired minister. Do you think it would be tacky of me to ask him to officiate our wedding or do you think he'd be honoured? And can retired ministers even officiate anymore? I just have no idea.

Also, is it okay to have a wedding on a weekday, late afternoon? We really want to have it on the solstice next year and that's a Thursday.

I tried on my dress again, it fits better around the waist but my boobs aren't shrinking enough yet! I hope they do (haha I can't believe I'm hoping my boobs shrink) but they're the part I'm having most issues with with the dress



ACKKK IT"S ALL SO COMPLICATED I"M LOSING MY MIND :awilly:


Breathe!!! be sure to get a good corset as solid foundation under your dress. You don't want to go blowing a button just because you decided to eat a quarter inch sliver of cake... right? Fredericks has some or you can look at some of the sellers on eBay. Some have very intriguiging pieces.

As for flowers, start collecting and drying flowers of your own. Find out when the landscaping crew is out clipping flowers and ask if you can have them. You never know what you might find. If you like roses, get a rose bush or two... or three... etc. They dry very nicely if tied and hung upside down flower petal down. You can find all kinds of suggestions on how to make them keep their shape... everything from salt to hairspray.

And for your grandfather to do your ceremony... I think that would be the ultimate honor.

My father performed my last wedding at the breakfast table... in his underwear and my mom in her house dress. No muss no fuss and a lot less expensive overall. I did the big wedding thing and divorced, rather messily. My theory is the more you spend on a wedding is inversely proprotaional to the length of the marriage. So spend a lot - get a short marriage. Spend reasonably - live love and laugh a long time with your best friend.

Remember, the event is just icing on the cake. As long as you, your betrothed and the minister is there... that is all that really matters.

:hugs and kisses:

And offer the dried flowers to your unseen guests as thanks... that is assuming you ask their permission to use their facility... if you know what I mean...

[Crysiira]

So last night my fiance's parents and my parents and us all sat down to dinner so we could get some ideas for our wedding, as I mentioned earlier. I was expecting it to be an explosive scene, I don't know why; I think I'm just paranoid. Anyway, it went pretty well, everyone got along and gave us some really good ideas and tips and A LOT to think about that we hadn't even dreamed of, like food, drinks, djs, etc. So my head is full of wedding crap now, as I imagine it will stay for the next year. It looks like we might be bumping up the date as well, as we scheduled it for a notoriously rainy weekend and yet we want it outdoors. I don't know, you think the weather will miraculously clear up just for us? I wish, lol. His mom keeps suggesting a place at Old World Wisconsin, but it's a place that is supposed to represent the pioneer days, and that doesn't quite fit in with the style I was thinking of. When I looked uncertain at that idea, she kept saying over and over again, well, there's always a church. Very pointed looks and all. Ugh. Oh well.
You know how you go looking for your wedding things and you see something and you just have to stop and go, oh that's it, I just know that that is IT... like for a dress or something? That's how I feel about our location that we've picked. It's a beautiful island in a little lake, and it is so beautiful, and as soon as I walk onto the island I am overwhelmed with peace and beauty and I want that for my wedding so badly....
Then came the debate over WHO is going to marry us, again brought up by his mom. My parents were pretty much focused on the dj, food, decorations, you know, the party part, and his mom was all ceremony-focused. Seems to be how the entire thing will go. Fun. So when we told her we were looking for a non-denominational priest of some sort, she suggested one of her neighbors who is a judge and actually married her the last time her and her husband got married. (third time... they are now going through their third divorce.) Anyway, that actually seems like a logical idea. I'm glad she wasn't pushing for her favorite minister on that one. She's not totally out of tune with our wants; she does know and she does respect them. It's just not quite what she wants for us and everything. But when I asked her to help me make the invitations, she was very excited, so I know I'm on her good side at least until those are done! lol. I'm probably making an issue where there is none, but I'm just nervous. The more and more we talk about this, the more nervous I am. i know it's so far away and I shouldn't get upset about it this early, but I can't seem to help it! *breathe* *meditate*

[djmixon]

So last night my fiance's parents and my parents and us all sat down to dinner so we could get some ideas for our wedding, as I mentioned earlier. I was expecting it to be an explosive scene

Okay. I am going to offer some sage advice as the MOB who was treated like crap from the MOG and his entire family - who also took over the wedding and made it a nightmare. My daughter hates the way her wedding came out because of their interference.

Remember, the smaller, more simple the wedding, the more money you have for a nice honeymoon or a down payment on a house, and the fewer headaches.

Also, remember it is YOUR day... you and your fiance... not their day. Just nod your head and say, "Hmmm, that's interesting." and then do it the way you want to instead.

So...

1) figure out who is paying for what and decide on a budget and affirm that you will live by that budget. No spur of the moment buying... wait at least 24 hours before committing to anything.

2) decide on a theme for your wedding and how big your wedding party and guest list might be. Remember, you can have a private ceremony (and dinner, if you must) and then have a public reception.

3) decide if a wedding planner/coordinator fits your budget and if it does... get one... check references! Make sure it is no one related to either of you... or friends of either of your parent groups.

4) check out sites like The Knot (www.theknot.com) for planning ideas and timelines.

5) look through bridal magazines and websites (such as www.davidsbridal.com) for a dress that would be your dream dress. Then look for non-name-brand dresses that have similar elements.

6) look at the cakes... decide what you think you would like... start talking to caterers early... decide how elaborate your reception will be.

I could go on, but all of this is listed on The Knot... it is a life-saver... or would have been if I had been allowed to be a part of the planning and execution of the wedding.

Remember that this is a special time for you and your mother. This is as much her dream as it is yours, but your style must shine through. Don't shut her out and don't let your future MIL butt in too much. Talk with your fiance and let him know what your intentions are and you two discuss how heavily involved you want your parents to be.

Make it your day... and if you are getting stressed out, then step back and SIMPLIFY!!!! It will save many feelings and peace of mind later on.

[djmixon]

Now, how did I get red karma on this post? Go figger...

Some people are just mean-spirited, I guess...

[DragonsChest]

Now, how did I get red karma on this post? Go figger...

Some people are just mean-spirited, I guess...

Huh... you mean post #138? Seemed like a very level post to me. Maybe they just hit the wrong button by mistake? I've done that once - felt terrible about it. PMed and everything...

I saw nothing wrong with your post. :hugz:

[Marcasite]

I thought it was a great post too... but I don't know about a theme. I just asked my fiance what he thought about that and he said "oh I know! Cowboys and Indians!" ....

[djmixon]

I thought it was a great post too... but I don't know about a theme. I just asked my fiance what he thought about that and he said "oh I know! Cowboys and Indians!" ....

My SIL had his groom's cake decorated like a WW2 battlefield.

Huh... you mean post #138? Seemed like a very level post to me. Maybe they just hit the wrong button by mistake? I've done that once - felt terrible about it. PMed and everything...

I saw nothing wrong with your post. :hugz:

Yep... that's the one. the person who did it isn't even posting in this thread. Can't say I have had any interaction with her. Ah well.

[Crysiira]

That's craziness. Anyway, I do appreciate your advice. It's a fine balance between keeping them involved and letting them run the show.... I know I can make it work if I try hard enough, and I will definitely check out those websites. Thanks! :hahugh:

[RubyRose]

Ack! A little over 2 months to go and we still have to organise/purchase...

Rhyce's wedding ring
Shoes for both myself and Rhyce
Organise hair appointments/nail appointments
Purchase bride and bridesmaids jewellery


I feel as though I'm missing something....

Oh and the invitations have yet to be sent. Currently being printed.

[djmixon]

Ack! A little over 2 months to go and we still have to organise/purchase...

Rhyce's wedding ring
Shoes for both myself and Rhyce
Organise hair appointments/nail appointments
Purchase bride and bridesmaids jewellery


I feel as though I'm missing something....

Oh and the invitations have yet to be sent. Currently being printed.

If that is all you have left to do... you are doing great!

[Morr]

I am going to see the venue here tomorrow :D :D :D

They are having a wedding, my mom and I will be crashing it... Well sorta... Just coming in for a bit, right before it starts, to see how the place sets up everything and to talk to the manager about how we want things done!

YAY!

[djmixon]

Ohhhh I am sooooo excited for you and semi!!!!

Remember to send me an addy when you get to the States and get settled in!

[Silver_Undine]

I've been away from MW so long that I didn't know so many people were getting married. Congrats to all! I'm getting married in three weeks and can't wait. It's been a long time coming and I am just so ready to change my last name already.

[Morr]

So we went to the place and it looks BRILLIANT!

So pretty.

Small, intimate and beautiful! YAY!

We also booked a photographer... So semi will HAVE to be photographed *evil laugh*

Hehehe.

He will look like such a stud!! I cannot wait :D

WooHoo!!!

[Autumn_Rhie]

Seconding congratulations to everyone! I'm usually very quiet around here, but this thread made me smile and I had to pop in... I have been married now for 2 weeks and I am amusing people I know because I smile so much whenever I get to say 'my husband' or use my new last name. :hahugh:


I wish all of you much much happiness!

[RubyRose]

If that is all you have left to do... you are doing great!

Really!? Wow ... it seems like I'm floundering...

Oh ... some other things ...

Gifts for bridesmaids and groomsmen ... we have no idea. I was thinking jewellery or a little jewellery box for the girls ...

[djmixon]

Really!? Wow ... it seems like I'm floundering...

Oh ... some other things ...

Gifts for bridesmaids and groomsmen ... we have no idea. I was thinking jewellery or a little jewellery box for the girls ...

If you cannot decide on gifts, think gift cards. That way they can get what they want...

for the girls, jewelry or gift boxes are great ideas... something that will hold an emotional attachment. Something you have made, craftwise, would be good. Bath and body gifts are wonderful...

for the guys, mugs, tie clasps, minor electronics or something they can hang on to without much effort are good things. Guys don't have the emotional attachment to things and events that girls have.

[Suzette]

How many of the other brides are experiencing this? The 'dreams' are kicking in and PI**ING me off. They're all pretty much the same scenario, last nights edition was this...

It's the wedding day. I'm at the location, in my dress, guests are arriving (yet don't see me running around like a chicken with its head cut-off therefore rendering me invisible) and being seated, I'm frantically running circles around the place as my photographer isn't there. The officiant isn't there. My MOH isn't there. My GROOM (LOL) isn't there. I'm there in my dress, with my hair curled and down, but not done as my HAIRDRESSER isn't there. I'm freaking out cause we must have the wedding, regardless.

There are so many freaking details involved with this, and they're starting to haunt my sleep!!! "A" laughs at me in the morning when I tell him of the latest 'bridal disaster' dream and reassures me we have all the details down, and a really good wedding planning notebook to make sure we don't forget anything... I so love him :)

But still, SHEESH! Going to have to make a before bedtime blend to keep my overacting wheels from spinning :lol: !

[Marcasite]

Ever get the feeling you've vastly underestimate wedding costs? I found the perfect place, literally. It's like a huge park/forest with lots of gorgeous trees. It was an estate donated to the city's heritage properties after the death of the owner. It's gorgeous and has sentimental value for us both since that was where we were the first time he told me he loved me, and we've had several *ahem* special forrays together there :)
Unfortunately it's not cheap. I've also decided I want a dress. I'm hoping to get one wholesale from a shop a friend knows in TO... I also want photos that turn out well which probably means a photographer. And the price of wine and appetizers add up. We also probably need flowers. We may need to rent tables and chairs too. And we still need rings.
Speaking of which I lost my engagement ring. I took it off to shower and now I can't find it anywhere! AHHHHHH! I'm sure it can't have gone too far though...

I'm hoping my parents will come around and offer some funds or there's no way we're pulling this off by next year...

[Crysiira]

I've only just started having wierd dreams; probably because I'm not too deeply entrenched in the planning process quite yet. Last night my dream was that everyone insisted I try this appetizer dish and decide if we wanted it in the dinner or not; I kept on telling them it didn't really matter if I tried it because I was dead, why bother? Wait... DEAD? Yes, in my dream, I was dead, and yet we were still going through with the marriage, as if I were the Corpse Bride. Huh.
As for costs adding up, I know how that feels.... Luckily my mom just got a new job, so maybe that will help out because I'm getting the shittiest hours ever..... so I'm certainly not able to save any money when I can barely pay my bills. Ugh.

[Marcasite]

wow, that *is* an odd dream. I would've tried the appetizer anyways unless it was squid or something :P

The place is a little over 1000 which is not as bad as I had thought and that includes tables and they don't double book so we get the inside of the manor if it rains.
The bad news is we are required to use one of 6 approved caterers for the appetizers. Blah :P
We're slowly but surely putting away money at a rate of 300-500 a month so if we keep it up it shouldn't be a problem. Unfortuantely, I'm going back to school in september and I'll have to work part time and probably minimum wage so that'll eat up some funds. I'm really hoping my fiance gets this new job we've been waiting on...
My budget's gone from $1500 to $4000. And I still don't know how realistic that is! *sigh*

[Suzette]

Keep in mind, if you have at a location that doesn't have anything, everything needs to be brought in (down to linens and staff) and it's expensive...

We're having our ceremony in a park as well, but it's attached to a golf course and clubhouse, which has a wonderful caterer.

Usually most places like that work exclusively with a few caterers as they know their reputation and what to expect. I think the only way to really save money in that avenue would be to keep it very lowbrow, with homemade food, etc.

It'll happen for you, let us know what you find :)

[RubyRose]

Two months ... and I'm panicking ... so much still left to do ... and they seem the most costly ... like Rhyce's ring ... we should have done this a year ago when we had the money ... damn him and not wanting to go ring shopping.

Badly need a credit card or personal loan or something. $2000 and we'd be fine.

[Marcasite]

:hugz: I'm sure everything will get done
HAve you tried applying for a credit card or bank loan? If you do it through your bank it's generally not too hard to get...

[Tzhebee]

About the dreams....yeah, I'm having some doozies. My most common dream is me getting pregnant now because I would be due 2 weeks after the wedding. But, I had one were my cousin (who stepped down as my MOH and no refused to even attend because of "religious differences") stole my dress, cut up all the other dresses and ended up marrying Anothony. His response (in my dream) was "But she was wearing your dress, so I thought it was planned." :lol: I literally woke up from that one and punched him while he was sleeping!

And...I'm stressed so freaking bad right now. I have just over 8 months...and only ONE of my major purchases have been done (my ring). And I keep trying to think of ways to get the money, and other stuff is jumping in my head: school supplies and clothes for 3 kids next month, then soccer starts back up which requires new uniforms and shoes, then the holidays and next thing you know BAM! my wedding day is here and I STILL don't have anything done. :(

Loans or credit cards are not an option for us....our credit really is THAT bad (read that as 2 bankrupcy's, 2 repo's and countless bills in collection within the past 5 years). My mom is doing all my food, and that's streching her to her limit. It's all on us...and I just don't think we can do it. :wah2:

[Suzette]

It's all on us...and I just don't think we can do it. :wah2:

You shouldn't stress, you have kids - so why try to spend so much on a party for others? Have something simple and romantic, involve kids, simple food and lots of love... No muss, no fuss, no stress.

And the DREAMS, good Gods. Had another last night - day before my wedding and I'm at work and still have no hairdresser/makeup person lined up, flowers not done, blablabla. Have to tell everybody I have to split cause I'm having a wedding the next day...

Writing out about 4 checks today, that should help ease things up.

OH!!!!!! Here's a tip ladies - we're having our ceremony on grass, and I know my shoes are going to work with it (non-spikey), but I was going over my MOH's attire and her shoes are beautilful. I remembered though, it's going to be hard for her to walk through the grassy part and stand for the ceremony without sinking... One of those little details you don't really think about.

We're starting a webpage, and will throw that into the details part...

[Marcasite]

aww Tzhebee, I know exactly how you feel *hug* I have a feeling that Andrew and I are gonna accrue some good debt over this. I'm banking on either my fiance getting a new a job soon or my parents getting over their differences with us, realizing that their daughter is getting married and help out (it's not terribly likely, but I can dream, eh?)

[RubyRose]

Ack! Not so easy to find strapless bra's with matching underwear. Shoes ... well I know what I want, and how much I want to spend ... just need to go shopping.

May get Rhyce's ring put away this week or next.

[Suzette]

Ack! Not so easy to find strapless bra's with matching underwear. Shoes ... well I know what I want, and how much I want to spend ... just need to go shopping.

May get Rhyce's ring put away this week or next.

Go to Victoria's Secret or Fredericks and get a corset/merry widow with removable straps... Panties to match and voila! Don't forget the garter, it's going to be my 'something blue.'

*gods another thing on my list, what to wear UNDER wedding dress...*

[Marcasite]

This is the part I am most confused about. I have no idea what to do to make the place look nice. (Flowers, that white tulle stuff etc)
We booked the place, spoke with the caterer and the rest should be expensive and perhaps time consuming, but not so very complicated.
I'm reasonably convinced I can do everything else. But the decorations? I'm so lost....

[RubyRose]

I've already got my garder, Rhyce's grandmother made it for me (in blue)

[Crysiira]

This is the part I am most confused about. I have no idea what to do to make the place look nice. (Flowers, that white tulle stuff etc)
We booked the place, spoke with the caterer and the rest should be expensive and perhaps time consuming, but not so very complicated.
I'm reasonably convinced I can do everything else. But the decorations? I'm so lost....

I know how that feels. I'm a little lost on that too. Do you have a theme or anything like that? It can help you brainstorm ideas, you know, figuring out what sort of "look" you want. My friend wanted her wedding to be a sort of winterwonderland/disneyprincess theme (a tad wierd, I know) so she had her friends help her handmake some decorations. Snowflakes made of paper and glitter, candleholders being little plastic cups painted silver and glittered at the edges, she had someone paint her a giant castle to hang in the reception area with the windows filled with princesses, so on and so forth.... I'm not sure what I'm going to do yet. So far my only idea is a lot of colored ribbons everywhere and bubbles as party favors. lol. Good luck trying to brainstorm ideas....

[Mysty Moon]

go to the library they have a lot of books that have themes and ideas also i bet if you typed in wedding themes in google or yahoo you would come out with a lot of ideas.

[Suzette]

We're doing floral centerpieces for each table, then surrounding with candles...

Checked out our bridal suite last night, very nice! Got tux, got invitations, shoes and a few other things out of the way Sunday.

Frantic dreams are subsiding... Thanks the Gods!

Question, is anybody else here registering at Home Depot? Can I tell you how UN-user friendly their registry is????? We're doing Pottery Barn, Bed Bath and Beyond and Home Depot but may reconsider the latter.

[forestrangergrrl]

blehhhhhh...... right now shaun and i are just trying to find a place to have the dang wedding, one that's in our price range! oh, that reminds me i have to look up some more places... aaaaacckkkkk!!!!!!!!!!!
agreeing on all the stuff is going to be reeeeallllly fun too, we're such opposites on so many things. grrrrr.....
thank gods my mom and my sis (also my moh!) are quite enthusiastic and helpful! i have a feeling i'll be needing them more and more.

[Suzette]

Ok girls, what about bachelorette parties?????????

Just planned mine yesterday!!! Bunch of us girls are diving into a limo and going to Spago next month. A friend of mine works there, so we can go eat awesome food and drink champagne all day for a fraction of what it would normally cost. Wolfgang always sends stuff over too, which is fun!

Then, it's off to Trashy Lingerie and The Pleasure Chest :deviltail

So what are you other girls gonna do before the big day??? Spill!!!

[Windsmith]

We skipped the bachelorette parties. It just seemed too weird. We have so many of the same friends, how we would we decide who went to whose party? Plus, we both have so many guy friends that leaving them out to have the traditional girls' night would've been no fun at all. And having one together would've defeated the whole purpose.

So, listen, I don't generally share my personal pictures with relative strangers, but y'all in this thread were a real life-line when I was going crazy in those last weeks before the wedding, and I wanted those of you who are still freaking out to see that, yes, it does all work out in the end. And so I offer you: our wedding photos (http://wedding.thesane.net)!

[Suzette]

Mine will be with 5 close girlfriends. What's going to be cool is they're from different circles, so each has heard of the other, but will be meeting for the first time (other than the few that met at our engagement party).

My fiance and I just had our bachelor/bachelorette party in Vegas last weekend, just the two of us hehe ;)

BTW, cool wedding photos! :)

[Cedar]

Ok girls, what about bachelorette parties?????????

Don't have any female friends, so I'm not having one.

[Marcasite]

oh windsmith, I loved your pictures. I loved the part where everyone tied a memento to the broom, that was really neat :) Congrats again :)
And I'm holding you to that 'It really will work out' thing :P

[RubyRose]

Kill me ... kill me now ...

There's roughly 7 weeks til my wedding ...this is the to-do list:

-purchase Rhyce's ring
-purchase Rhyce's shoes
-purchase jewellery for myself
-make appointment to get nails done
-bridesmaids to purchase their jewellery/shoes
-make Bombonaires (?)
-gifts for bridemaids and groomsmen (?)
-book hotel for wedding night
-organise photography (the girl doing the photos has been organised, just not the finer details)

and if there's anything else ... it escapes me ... and the list is not getting any shorter...

[Suzette]

Poor Ruby... Come over here and I'll fix you a champagne cockytail to ease your stress :) I'll have one too. In fact, I'll make a pitcher for all of us brides to be :hahugh:

We bought our rings yesterday and holy crap, platinum's expensive! I have an amazing jeweler, but still - yikes. And we bought three - one with diamonds for me (to match my engagement ring), solid platinum band with beading on the edges for him, and a tiny, plain platinum band for me for when we travel. I say travel loosely as it will be a bit before we honeymoon in Fiji now with all the expenses, LOL.

Also met with our florist yesterday - so that's two more items to cross off the list! Next Saturday, shopping with Mom, ordering cake, buying shoes and lingerie.

Just about two months away... I just wonder if everything you plan now will end up being the vision you have on the big day. Hmmm.... We'll see!