I have no idea what else I can do.

[Cristelle]

Since I’m still a bit confused about my beliefs, I find it difficult to get help for my family. I really feel like there is no solution. My brother seems to have thrown his life away in a matter of days living a life of crime. He is only 16 years old.

If the facility he is going to be staying at doesn't do anything for him, his future will be out the window. He will continue to live his life like the way that he has.

I wish I could do something to make it all better. I wish he can see how precious a life, HIS life is. I don't want to see him waste it. I feel like there is no hope for him.

When we were little kids, he and I would always talk about how successful and happy we would be when we grew up. All this talk about him becoming a great director and having a family and home. All of these things are gone to me. Now, he is very stubborn on believing he will not go to college, and that he will be happy living in an apartment without a family, electricity, or plumbing. How naive could you be Lucas?!

Drugs, gangs, and crimes did this. His poor judgment ruined him. A boy named Jorge deceived him.

I saw him for the first time in months yesterday. Tears of happiness shedding from the sight of him in so long. He is so intelligent. So wonderful! He is in 10th and is at the level of a college student. Whenever he does his school work, he always gets A's. Whenever he acts up in school, the higher authorities look down upon him while his teachers all declare the boy is incredible. They all believe he can get into whatever college and whatever profession he wishes.

But now, he will miss out on all that if he will not get the justice he deserves. His self-esteem has been lowered in such a way that he believes all the things he is capable of, are simply not there. He has been around friends who don't have half the abilities that he does. He's lead himself to believe he cannot do any better than those who have decided to give up on their future. They've all mislead him into thinking that living like that will be fine. Living a life of crime to pay bills is OK.

His future is in the hands of many people who do not love and care for him the way that I do. Those who think he does not deserve a chance. Those who think he cannot make a brighter future than the one that is to come.

Please, whenever you have the time, send positive energy to him and my devastated family. I want him to see life the way it should be. I want to see my brother happy. The way he was when there wasn't any of this. I want him to have a life again. No more messing up. To have the faith that I do. Before it's too late.

[Philosophia]

Sending positive energy to your brother! :hugz:

[Cindlady2]

My youngest is 16! I know how it goes and I worry for him also!

Not knowing exactly what happened.... I would say cast a spell to have him see what he is still able to do. He can still get a decent education ... cast a spell for that. Encourage him to spend his time on education .... no matter where he is at, it can be done! If you need help with spells ...PM me!

[SSanf]

Won't his records be sealed when becomes 18??

He needs to finish high school and then move to another state, work for a temp agency for a year, save money as best he can and enroll in a state college. If he does, chances are very good that he can leave his past behind and no one will discover his teenage indiscretions because they hardly ever check those under age things across state lines.

When he gets his four year degree, employeers will look at his college grades and not be searching for his 16 year old misdeeds. It won't even occur to them if he doesn't tell them.

Is there an out of state relative he can land with for a while so he can get established on his own smoothly? If not, he can just do it on his own. That will be harder but he wouldn't be the first guy to land in a strange town, stay at a shelter and look for work. But, he needs to go somewhere that there is a very low unemployment rate so he can pretty much walk into some kind of a job.

Then, he needs to find cheap housing and stay pretty much to himself until he can enroll in college where he will meet a better class of young people. That way, he won't be lead astray or taken advantage of. If he MUST have socialization, volunteer work is a good way to meet nice people of all ages. And, he must be open to friendships of all ages. Some nice old ladies may take him under their wings if he is lucky. Good way to get a few home cooked meals for a young guy on his own.

If he is motivated to do it, he CAN get out of this mess but he has to really want to. It will take guts and determination to change his life around.

No one is perfect. We all screw up. Everyone needs at least one opportunity in life to just pull up stakes and leave all the trash and mess they have gotten themselves into behind and have a completely fresh start in a new place. I took mine and it has made all the difference. In fact, it was the one best and kindest thing I ever did for myself! And, it was the best thing I ever did for my son, too. Because I did, my daughter has the pleasure of seeing her mother finally happy in her old age! I say, everyone gets to do it once!

It sounds like your brother should do it as soon as he graduates high school. If he makes this his plan, now, it will help him through the next two years knowing that there is a definite time when he plans to completely change his life!

[shuvanilu]

That's so sad, hon. One thing that I want to point out is that it really seems like you're taking all of his problems onto your shoulders. I know that's easy to want to do when you love someone that much. But remember, only he can change himself. You can be there for him and love and support him, but you can't make the choice to change for him. Tell him you love him everyday. Tell him you want better things for him everyday. Tell him that you believe in him everyday. That will help him in more ways than you know. Energy is being sent to yu and your brother.----peace---shuvanilu

[Aleannah]

I send positive energy that everything works out for the best. :hugz:

is it possible to get him into a program like Job Corp? they take troubled teens, get them to finish their education and go on to learn at least an honest trade to support themselves...they have no tolerance for drugs, violence, etc., but they also help these kids that are in a place where your brother is. Just a thought.

[SSanf]

The main thing is that you must understand that no matter what outcome he chooses for his life, it is not your fault if it goes wrong. It is his responsibility what he does with his life and no one else's, not yours, not your parents, no ones but his.

Blessed Be!

[Cassie]

He seems to have a great and caring sister at least. :hugz:
I am sending you some calming energy and I will pray to the Goddess that your brother be protected and be lead in a better direction.

[Brenda]

Sending positive energy :hugz: :hugz:

[BlackMagicalCat]

This saddens me precious one.You are a blessing to him,for your love to him.

But,God is able to see into the future,and turn it around,no matter how dark and hopeless it may seem.With God,all things are possible.

Pray for him,it will mean the differnce between life and death.Every prayer you speak for him,and lift up to God for him,is both heard and recorded in heaven.And God doesnt forget.

with God,there is always hope.What was meant for a persons destruction,can be the very thing that is used to bless them.

I will pray for your brother,that his future will be in the hand of God,who loves him.And I will pray for you as well.Nothing is to hard for God.

Bless you.

[Pesha]

Positive energies flow to your brother.

[TaysatWesir]

positive energy sent :hugz: