Long-distance relationship support group

[Rosana]

... anyone?

[Morr]

semicivilizedman and I are doing the long distance.

Hopefully not for long... We're hoping that by late summer/early fall I'll be moving in with him over in the US.

We're seeing each other again next month though!

[semi]

As far as I'm concerned, there's no hope involved. It'll happen. As the god of my world, I will make it so.

[Morr]

*smoochies*

[Earthy]

:woot: for Semi and Morr :cheers:

[BrigidMoon]

Although I am EXTREMELY estatic and happy for semi and Morr,

I think a long distance relationship support group is an EXCELLENT idea.

If you want to start a thread here, please feel free!!!

[Morr]

HeeHee!

Thanks BrigidMoon and Earthy ;)

[BrigidMoon]

HeeHee!

Thanks BrigidMoon and Earthy ;)

:hugz:

You're welcome, hon!

[Poledra]

I am also in a ldr and would be happy to talk about with people. Things are currently going well for me, but I have been in dysfunctional ldr's in the past - and, well, it sucks. It's so hard to get perspective since you never know whether it's the relationship that isn't working or whether it's just the distance getting to you. People are liable to either bail too soon, or hang on way past the expiration date (I'm of the second type).

It's a tough tough situation,

Poledra

[Morr]

*hugs* poledra

I know what you mean, trust me :)

I guess you just gotta have faith in the other person as well as in yourself.

I think ldr demand extra super honesty than "regular" relationships.

[Poledra]

You do have to have faith, it's true. And honestly is definetly a prerequisite.

However, in some ways, you can see them as a benefit. I think that long-distance relationships force couples to learn to communicate. You have nothing but communication, so you learn to do it very well.

Also, I think that another key to a good long distance relationship, is a little distance. Maybe a little strange to say, but I think that there's the tendency to become so obssessed with the other person's life that you forget to live your own. What I mean, is that you stay home Fri night until the other gets home to talk. You expect them to come home to talk to you, just as they expect the same. I think this eventually breeds resentment and then causes friction. Better to have a looser relationship with more implicit trust. You can't know where someone is every second of the day even if you're living together, how can you expect to know when you're on different sides of the country?

Anyway, that's my two cents for the day!

Poledra

[Brighid's Seeker]

I've been there done that.

It requires a lot from both people, but it CAN work and end up in nice places!!

[BrigidMoon]

The best thing I can advise is to always remain best friends. No matter what.
There are times when I had a bf and there were times when he had a gf because we were so many miles apart, but in the end, we married. We were long distance on and off relationship for 4 years. A very long time and many conversations on the phone and online. However, our love and friendship have prevailed and overcome all obstacles. Keep the faith.

[Rosana]

I've been away for a while, sorry... thinking about Thamiros's visit on Friday :boing:

Well, I'd love to create a group of LDRers, to support each other and share joys of meetings and sorrows of departings. Apart from "normal" struggles, we must also deal with the distance and time, and learn to see a glass half-full than half-empty (I've been seeing an empty one for last two weeks...). I'd be more than happy to find here some people sharing with each other ups and downs of LDRs!

Waiting for Friday, listening to "The Arrival and the Reunion" by Dead Can Dance... ;)

[thewhitetigress]

As far as I'm concerned, there's no hope involved. It'll happen. As the god of my world, I will make it so.



*sniff sniff


That is sooooooooooooooooooooo romantic!!!!! ((bawls uncontrollably))

so nice to see that in this world:wave:

[Morr]

*sniff sniff


That is sooooooooooooooooooooo romantic!!!!! ((bawls uncontrollably))

so nice to see that in this world:wave:

Yes. I am very lucky.