How do you not sweat the small stuff?

[MysticWitch]

I bought a book at a yard sale called "Don't sweat the small stuff" Some of it is very helpful but I found that it talked about just being a puddle of emotionless ooze and ignore everything. How does someone expect someone to just ignore their feelings all the time! _wedgie_
How do you not sweat the small stuff? :foh:

[Lorrie]

One way might be to learn that change is good, no matter how bad it seems at the time? Life has gone much smoother since I accepted this and began to look forward to things happening instead of getting upset over it. It might or might not help you, but ya never know! I used to get upset when I felt like I have no control over things happening. Now I just wait to see how it is all going to play out. It has made a huge difference on my nerves, moods, and digestive system!:fpraise:

[MysticWitch]

I find too when I let things go, and pretend not to care, it helps so much but I also start to feel guilty because I feel like by ignoring and not putting effort into being mad I just end up thinking Im a walking door mat, and that I am obligated to always being let down. 8O

[Penthesilea]

I ask myself: will this matter in a year? Two years? Fifty years? A century? If the answer is "no", I don't worry about it and deal with whatever it is without obsessing.

[Lorrie]

I ask myself: will this matter in a year? Two years? Fifty years? A century? If the answer is "no", I don't worry about it and deal with whatever it is without obsessing.



I have done that one, also! Especially with my kids when they were growing up. VERY helpful!!

[mtpathy]

I bought a book at a yard sale called "Don't sweat the small stuff" Some of it is very helpful but I found that it talked about just being a puddle of emotionless ooze and ignore everything. How does someone expect someone to just ignore their feelings all the time! _wedgie_
How do you not sweat the small stuff? :foh:
You learn to not "sweat the small stuff",by seeing that small stuff as
being part of your journey.
The whole reason those things bother you is because you have a idea
that anger and pain shouldnt be a part of your life.
you let those emotions be with you,and you ask yourself "what is this"?
then you see that there a product of your surroundings,and the product
of your expectations, Then you won't let others affect you through there
actions.

[arctic splash]

Awesome question. Very refreshing for this forum. More posts like this, please. :)

To me it means put it in perspective. Others who have responded put it so well.

When things get bad for me, they always work out, and after a while I completely forget anything is wrong. I realise that a lot of the time when I'm "sweating" something it's all in my head. At least my fear is always greater than the reality of what happens. I have no control over some things and it's okay that way... I appreciate the chaos... I realise that worrying more than I have to isn't going to make the least bit of difference.

I think there's something to what mtpathy says, too: it often is about what we think life *should* be like, and when we get over those preconceived notions, we realise it can be really enjoyable even though the things we thought were necessary aren't there.

[Tanemon]

For me, it's been much easier not to sweat the small stuff once I effectively resolved underlying tensions within me that caused me to react too frequently with anger and worry. Until you deal with the old, deep psycho-physical patterns you'll be overly reactive, and probably not realize you're being that way.

Meditation, practiced regularly, and Reiki (the "attunements" and self healing) dissolved away a whole lot of these old subtle tensions and underlying patterns. I became naturally much more buoyant and adaptive, able to act appropriately in situations, rather than react.

And, I agree, a person has to establish personal boundaries that are appropriate, so that you aren't "a doormat" - but that's very much easier to do when you're not reactive. Then it doesn't feel like sweating things much, it just feels like living sensibly.

:sunny: Tanemon

[MysticWitch]

Awesome question. Very refreshing for this forum. More posts like this, please. :)

To me it means put it in perspective. Others who have responded put it so well.

Thank's! :D I think emotions are a big part of healing and mine need healing :lol:


It often is about what we think life *should* be like.


I have never thought about it that way. I think it's a big part of why I let my emotions get the best of me in certain situations. :idea:

[KEishin]

It's not about being 'a puddle of emotionless ooze', in fact it's the opposite. The trick is to let go of your fixation on the outcome of a situation. Once you do so, you can accept whatever happens with grace and then figure out what to do. The small things bother you because you let them.
<<<hard won words of experience here. :)

Example: you go to the movies on a date hoping to catch the newest flick. When you get there tickets are sold out, but there are tickets to another popular movie you've not seen yet. What do you do? Do you get upset that you can't see the movie you hoped to see, or do you look at this as an opportunity to watch a movie you'd not have seen until later? Either way you can still see a movie and you can try again another day to see the first movie.

[Amythyst]

Have six kids and believe me, you won't sweat the small stuff!!:broomride

[Astara Seague]

I think you have to control your emotions and dont let them control you, I do the will it matter in 5 years if not forget it:yayah:

[MysticWitch]

Example: you go to the movies on a date hoping to catch the newest flick. When you get there tickets are sold out, but there are tickets to another popular movie you've not seen yet. What do you do? Do you get upset that you can't see the movie you hoped to see, or do you look at this as an opportunity to watch a movie you'd not have seen until later? Either way you can still see a movie and you can try again another day to see the first movie.

But what if that other movie gives at a different time slot. Dun dun dun!!!!
:yikess:

[ShamanFeather]

I've tried to ask whether or not it matters later, and some things do and some don't, but even if it doesn't and theres nothing I can do I find it hard not to worry. :/

a person who is a russian martial arts person once told me not to live by the head or the heart, but just to live and let it flow and then your real you will come through. this is something i'm not sure I agree with, but haven't really mastered this, or totally sure how to master it in the first place.

[KEishin]

But what if that other movie gives at a different time slot. Dun dun dun!!!!
:yikess:
Picky, picky. :lol:

[catphrodite]

the way I get by is to be like water and flow with whatever comes my way.
bad things just wash right over and clear the way for more good things.
also, I laugh a lot. :D

[woodlandfairy]

For me it has come with age. I can just blow things off now! I just remind myself that some things are just beyond my control. Stress will age you!

[Astara Seague]

For me it has come with age. I can just blow things off now! I just remind myself that some things are just beyond my control. Stress will age you!
well I dont know about the age thing but I do know stress will age you it also is a contributing factor to many chronic diseases and illness's

[Semele]

Well, you just sit down in the middle of the flood that once was your life...er kitchen and you splash and have fun while you plan what to do next.

LOL!

It alwasy gets better if you look up and make a reason to laugh with someone you love.

[MysticWitch]

Picky, picky. :lol:

:hehehehe:

[MysticWitch]

well I dont know about the age thing but I do know stress will age you it also is a contributing factor to many chronic diseases and illness's


wasnt there statistics that said stress keeps people living longer? I think it had to do with the death rate in seniors after retiring from employement. Damn those Maury povich shows. Giving seniors heart attacks :lol: What else is there to do when you dont have a job and your slower than a snail? :idea: