Need Help With Love

[DarkHeart13]

I would like some help on how to create a love spell. Not one about making another fall in love. This person is already in love with me and I'm in love with him. I want to design a ritual to show him how much I love him. I guess I better start from the beginning so you might understand better:

The guy that I love is not dating me. We are in a relationship, but don't call it dating. We are just friends who really love each other and we're not looking for other mates either. But we are both afraid. We have this fear of losing one another. We are both afraid to take that chance, of jumping into a relationship. Part of this is because we are so young. He's 16 and I'm 15.

But we know what love is. We have both lead hard lives. I've been through rape, drug abuse, self-mutilation, in and out of mental placements. He too has been into mental placements because of drugs, stealing, self-mutilation, etc. We are both bipolar. We both have a lot of problems. It is hard for me to invest trust in anyone, and I never say I love anyone unless it comes from the heart. I truly love him, and not as a boyfriend, as a person. I could never stop caring about someone I love. I know he feels the same.

I am afraid, but not as afraid as he is. I want in this ritual for him to not feel afraid anymore. I want to make him more open with his feelings. Not to be afraid to communicate, not to be afraid of his emotions. I want in this ritual for him to know how much I truly do care and that I will never leave him.

I don't know how to go about writing the ritual with all the correspondences. I want it to be just right. I need to be very careful with this. So any help at all would be greatly appreciated.

[arianrhods_daughter]

Id say counselling would be more beneficial than a love spell for him, but thats not always for everyone to begin with Id say communication is the best key to successful relationships so just be open and honest with each other.

But to answer exactly what you are asking:

Day: Friday
Moon Phase: New Moon
Crystals: Rose Quartz
Flower/Oil: Rose
Colour: Red and maybe White for healing

My advice is to meditate on a red candle laced with some rose oil while meditating with the rose quartz and visualise your heart opening up to him (maybe have a photo of him) and state something about you wanting to see you for you and that your feelings for him are true (hey that rhymed :lol:) and see yourselves being healed and "whole" or the like and drawing good loving and healing energies into your life

That's just off the top of my head though

[Mouse]

Mate, unfortunatly it might take a bit of time, somethings need to crawl along at a snails pace,lol.

I don't think there is an age limit to love, age is over rated. I met the feller I'm with now when I was 15 and we're planning to be handfasted. All the best to both of you I say.

So lemme think. Guys are softer than we assume at first so buy him a teddy. If you like, grab a rose quartz charge it (I'm assumeing you know how this is done, if you don't i have no life and can talk you through it.). Unpick the stiching along it's back or somewhere it wont be too obvious and slip the quartz in there, then sew him back up. When you give it to him (do it when no ones around so you dont embarras the crap out of him) tell him that you want him to have it so he can hold it at night, because you can be there and you want someone to look out for him. Yes i'm serious. It sounds corny, but it works.

If your more ritually inclined, cast your circle and all that, grab something that you personally find beautiful & natural. most people suggest a rose, but I'm against picking flowers for no good reason, so I'd prolly give the whole plant.

You'll also need sugar (not the white stuff, aim for something less processed) or honey. (to sweeten and empower).

disolve the sugar if that's what you are going for and then let the water cool.
dig a little hole in the soil, or find a nice vase, and add the sugar or honey to the flowers. (sugar works best for a single flower, honey works best for a pot-plant) say something along these lines:
"Godde, I ask <his name> be blessed,
he fills my life with happiness.
Return to him three times three,
the pleasure that he's given me"

Colors are your friends. serious, you can do anything with color magick. Here's a basic guide:

Blue: religion, healing and trust
Light blue: calm, cleansing
Red: lust, passion, pain, anger, strength.
Yellow: happiness, joy, knowledge/learning
Green: Beauty, strength (passive, endurance), abundance, prosperity.
Pink: friendship, love, unconditional love.
Brown: stability, animal magick.
Grey: legal issues.
Black: binding, banishing, greed, seriousness, devotion, intellegence, secrecy.
White: purity, ignorance, peace. Subsitiute for any other colour sept black.

Another great idea would be a joint meditation, but it requires a fair bit of focus and he might think you're a bit weird if he isn't pagan. Basically this is opening your minds up and letting each other in. It's very moving, but it takes a great deal of trust to do it. If you are interested give me a tingle.

Best wishes.
~mouse

p.s i'm having a crap spelling day, please forgive me. :D

[DarkHeart13]

Id say counselling would be more beneficial than a love spell for him, but thats not always for everyone to begin with Id say communication is the best key to successful relationships so just be open and honest with each other.

But to answer exactly what you are asking:

Day: Friday
Moon Phase: New Moon
Crystals: Rose Quartz
Flower/Oil: Rose
Colour: Red and maybe White for healing

My advice is to meditate on a red candle laced with some rose oil while meditating with the rose quartz and visualise your heart opening up to him (maybe have a photo of him) and state something about you wanting to see you for you and that your feelings for him are true (hey that rhymed :lol:) and see yourselves being healed and "whole" or the like and drawing good loving and healing energies into your life

That's just off the top of my head though

Hey, thank you. Well, we are both actually really honest and open with each other. He knows how I feel. We have no problem communicating. He has voiced that he is scared to be in another relationship and I just thought this might be a way to help him feel a secure sense of love from me. And I don't want him to know about the spell, which is why I wasn't asking for one of those "make him love me" type of deals. He's not really into the same beliefs as I am so I thought I'd keep it private. Counseling I don't think will work. lol. We don't have the money for that. But thank you for the correspondences.

[DarkHeart13]

Mate, unfortunatly it might take a bit of time, somethings need to crawl along at a snails pace,lol.

I don't think there is an age limit to love, age is over rated. I met the feller I'm with now when I was 15 and we're planning to be handfasted. All the best to both of you I say.

So lemme think. Guys are softer than we assume at first so buy him a teddy. If you like, grab a rose quartz charge it (I'm assumeing you know how this is done, if you don't i have no life and can talk you through it.). Unpick the stiching along it's back or somewhere it wont be too obvious and slip the quartz in there, then sew him back up. When you give it to him (do it when no ones around so you dont embarras the crap out of him) tell him that you want him to have it so he can hold it at night, because you can be there and you want someone to look out for him. Yes i'm serious. It sounds corny, but it works.

If your more ritually inclined, cast your circle and all that, grab something that you personally find beautiful & natural. most people suggest a rose, but I'm against picking flowers for no good reason, so I'd prolly give the whole plant.

You'll also need sugar (not the white stuff, aim for something less processed) or honey. (to sweeten and empower).

disolve the sugar if that's what you are going for and then let the water cool.
dig a little hole in the soil, or find a nice vase, and add the sugar or honey to the flowers. (sugar works best for a single flower, honey works best for a pot-plant) say something along these lines:
"Godde, I ask <his name> be blessed,
he fills my life with happiness.
Return to him three times three,
the pleasure that he's given me"

Colors are your friends. serious, you can do anything with color magick. Here's a basic guide:

Blue: religion, healing and trust
Light blue: calm, cleansing
Red: lust, passion, pain, anger, strength.
Yellow: happiness, joy, knowledge/learning
Green: Beauty, strength (passive, endurance), abundance, prosperity.
Pink: friendship, love, unconditional love.
Brown: stability, animal magick.
Grey: legal issues.
Black: binding, banishing, greed, seriousness, devotion, intellegence, secrecy.
White: purity, ignorance, peace. Subsitiute for any other colour sept black.

Another great idea would be a joint meditation, but it requires a fair bit of focus and he might think you're a bit weird if he isn't pagan. Basically this is opening your minds up and letting each other in. It's very moving, but it takes a great deal of trust to do it. If you are interested give me a tingle.

Best wishes.
~mouse

p.s i'm having a crap spelling day, please forgive me. :D

Thanks so much. This is great. Thank you. lol. Dude, I don't know if I can bring myself to do the whole bear deal. lol. I will do the rose quartz...I might be able to somehow make him a bracelet out of it...he likes bracelets...or maybe I could put it in something stupid like a stuffed chicken...lol...It would be like me to say "Here, take this chicken. It can be there for you when I can't." lol.

The meditation idea sounds awesome. NO, he's not Pagan. Not at all. Christian. Some Christians like the idea of meditation. But not this one. His last girlfriend said she was Wiccan and was going to cast a spell on him to harm him. I tried telling him she couldn't have really been Wiccan if she said that and tried explaining what Wicca really was. He didn't care. She freaked him out by that, so now I just don't mention Paganism at all. lol. But I might somehow be able to get him to meditate with me. I'll have to think on that.

Thanks a lot. Oh, I do have a few things saved somewhere about charging. I haven't done work with crystals, gems, etc. so if you'd like to tell me how to charge the thing that would be cool.

[Mouse]

You'll make him a pink bracelet, but wont give him a teddy? *laughs* What ever works. Lemme know if you do the chicken thing hey? That'd be priceless!

Alrighty, I'll give it a basic run through, but be warned I'm tired, so if it doesn't make any sense ya can't say you were not warned. lol

1) Find rock. Put rock in some salt water on a window sill to clense. Forget rock for over a month. Remember, and clense rock again.

2) Meditate without falling asleep or thinking about really hot guy that you saw down the street with the great tan and nice eyes who smiled at you and made you blush before telling you that you had sause on your nose and how you wished you asked for his number.... See, wandering off like this not good for spell craft.

3) Reach out to your chosen rock mentally. "Rub" your mind against it. (It might help to pat the rock with your hand as you do this or hold it against your head. don't let people see you doing this though) Introduce yourself (I'm seriuos here) and "tell" the rock what you want it for. Ask nice, be polite. Rocks have feelings too.

4) Gather up the type of energy you want to send. I suggest coloring that energy pick because it make visualization easier. "Push" the energy down into your hands and hold it there.

5) "See" the energy seep into the rock. You'll feel whether or not you are doing it properly. It's not always easy to get a smooth flow happening, especially at first, but luckily pushing spurts of energy into the rock works as well.

6) Explane to the rock that you want it to hold the energy and affect a field around the rock, or whatever it is you want it to do. Seal the energy within the rock useing visualization.

7) Thank the rock.

8) Close your eyes, hold rock in one hand and run the other hand over the rock without touching it. The air around the rock will feel different, maybe a little warm, or thick.

And there we go. Just ignor my comments too. I'm serious, but I'm also in one of those moods. :D
take cares,
~miriam

[DarkHeart13]

You'll make him a pink bracelet, but wont give him a teddy? *laughs* What ever works. Lemme know if you do the chicken thing hey? That'd be priceless!


Dude, I most likely will do the chicken thing. lol. The boy likes pink. I think he'd like the bracelet. It's just different than a bear. Besides, a lot of guys think it's "in" to like pink these days. haha.

And thanks for the info about charging. Will do.