Having a bad morning

[Willow Rosette]

I need to cry and have a pitty party. I have a wonderful friend of my family who I love so much. She is so special I named my daughter after her. On Friday she went in and had a histerectomy (sp?) so remove cancer. I decided to wait until today to go see her that way she would be feeling a little bit better and more like her self. I called the hospital to make sure it was ok to bring my daughter, who is 3. They told me they discourage bringing kids under 12 but they would not throw us out of we show up. They would send us to a visiting place outside her room where she could walk to to come and visit us. Walk??? She just had a major surgery why would they make her walk???So now Im thinking we shouldnt go. I dont have anyone to watch my daughter but I really really want to go and see her. I just dont know what to so. 8O

[MysticWitch]

I would go see her. Being in a hospital is lonely and it sucks! I'm sure she would love the visit. If your worried about her walking, maybe once you get there you can encourage her to use a wheel chair to get around the hall ways. Im sure if the doctors think its okay for her to walk, it's really ok :hugz:

[Jolixte]

You should go see her. I had surgery, and only one person came to see me, rather disheartening. If the doctor will let her walk, then she should be able to. I was made to walk after my surgery even though it wasn't amazingly pleasant (it helps the muslces get back to normal quicker though).

[Brenda]

I agree with JdM
Just go and visit her :)
:hugz:

[Willow Rosette]

Well I called and was able to talk to her. She sounds very very good. Like I was talking to her at her house or something. She said she is supposed to be release tomorrow and she would rather us come and see her there than at the hospital. And I doubt she is ever alone lmao she has a huge wonderful family. All the signs look very good for her. She lost about half the amount of blood that is expected. And they feel there is a good chance they got all of the cancer when they removed it all. I am so scared for her though. She is such a wonderful woman. I love her and respect her so much. I am just as close to her as I am my own Mom. I think maybe this is just a huge "I am afraid of loosing her" thread. I think I just want to see her to reasure my self she is ok. I think Victoria and I are going to go out and do something. Instead of sitting home dwelling. Thank you everyone for letting me cry.

[Jolixte]

*hugs*

[Brenda]

:hugz: :hugz: :hugz:

[Willow Rosette]

Thanks every one I decided to make her a blanket instead of flowers to take to her tomorrow. That gives me a focus to feel like I am doing something to help and well another way to procrastinate doing chores around the house lmao I think once I have made it and smudged it I will feel better more like I am doing something to help the situation vs. sitting around waiting for something to happen.

[Kalika]

Go see her. I'm sure seeing you and your daughter would brighten her day. There is also a pretty good chance that she is sick and tired of being confined to a bed, and would welcome the chance to get up.

:hugz:

And I see you solved that already... :lol:

I hope that you both enjoy your visit.

[SilverClaw]

VM :hugz: to you. :)

[Amythyst]

They get you up to walk right after surgery anyway, whether you have company or not. She would probably enjoy talking to you as much as you would enjoy seeing her.

I can really sympathize with your dilemma, though. I never had a baby sitter for my kids either and there were times when I could've used one.