A Question (truth be told, I just dont know how to title this!)

[Morr]

So as you may know, semicivilizedman and I are planning to get married this fall.

We both want to raise a family and are intending to try to concieve probably within a few months after we get married, so hopefully around this time next year I will be pregnant.

Since all of this has begun being "real" -- ie. We are about to hand in the Fiance Visa applications and papers to Immigration, we are starting to make plans for the wedding, the school year is coming to an end and I'm preparing to move to the US once the visa is approved, general talk between semi and I about kids and our future -- My maternal instincts have been SKY ROCKETING!

And I'm not even pregnant yet! LOL

Have any of you ever felt that way, pre-wedding or as newlyweds? Suddenly having this totally new aspect of life (marriage and family) opening up to you and revealing itself to you (which to me personally is a dream come true, and I could not have found a better man to make this dream come true for me!)? This new exciting adventure and future? hopes and dreams, hormones and putting a little pillow or soccer ball under your shirt wondering what you're going to look like this time next year (well, I havent ACTUALLY done it, but I thought of trying it out LOL).

Or am I just a crazy lady?

[mtpathy]

na your not any weirder then anyone else, when my wife and i
met it hit me like a ton of bricks,i knew right then and there that i
was going to spend my life with her..problem was she didn't know it
at that time lol.
we've been talking quite a bit about having a child,neigther one of us
think we could deal with having more then one because of us both
enjoying our time and hobbies to much,hopefully the child will enjoy
camping and hiking and doing yoga and aikido with us :)
only thing i can say is if you havn't ever been to amercan before get
ready for a big culture shock,i had a relative that visited from Australia
once lol he was so horribly confused by everything here lol,i didnt help
much mostly i just pointed and laughed at him :)

[Morr]

LOL nah, I've lived in the US for about 7 years. I know all about the culture. I am totally into it, honestly LMFAO I have no problems with American culture, I'm used to it ;)

Thanks!

[Lorrie]

So as you may know, semicivilizedman and I are planning to get married this fall.

We both want to raise a family and are intending to try to concieve probably within a few months after we get married, so hopefully around this time next year I will be pregnant.

Since all of this has begun being "real" -- ie. We are about to hand in the Fiance Visa applications and papers to Immigration, we are starting to make plans for the wedding, the school year is coming to an end and I'm preparing to move to the US once the visa is approved, general talk between semi and I about kids and our future -- My maternal instincts have been SKY ROCKETING!

And I'm not even pregnant yet! LOL

Have any of you ever felt that way, pre-wedding or as newlyweds? Suddenly having this totally new aspect of life (marriage and family) opening up to you and revealing itself to you (which to me personally is a dream come true, and I could not have found a better man to make this dream come true for me!)? This new exciting adventure and future? hopes and dreams, hormones and putting a little pillow or soccer ball under your shirt wondering what you're going to look like this time next year (well, I havent ACTUALLY done it, but I thought of trying it out LOL).

Or am I just a crazy lady?


My daughter frequents a maternity store in the mall, they actually put these special made pillows in the dressing rooms so that you can see how something is going to look on you in a few more months! Many of the newly pregnant women go there just to put the pillow on and see how they will look! No one there thinks that they are crazy, they understand that kind of thing there!

[Chesna]

I soo can relate!!! To me its thinking about what your life is going to be and what you want from it. Its normal and most people go through it!! I say enjoy it and make plans..make plans and make plans!!!!

Chesna

[Ceres]

I felt that way from my mid teens on. I couldnt wait to be a mother! I wish now we had waited at least a year before TTC because it would have been nice to do some couple stuff before doing all the family stuff. All in all, though I think its better when you are younger so you arent old and tired when your kids are growing up and having their own babies.

[Lunacie]

:lol: I was "older and tireder" when my daughter was little than I am now helping to raise my grandchildren. Back then I had a damaged disk in my back, Fibromyalgia, undiagnosed A.D.D. causing depression, and uncontrolled Empathy. My back is better now, my Fibro is in remission, I'm taking something for the A.D.D. and learning skills for dealing with it, and I have a pretty good handle on the Empathy - most days. I generally have more patience these days, even if I don't have as much energy anymore.

[HetHert]

So as you may know, semicivilizedman and I are planning to get married this fall.

We both want to raise a family and are intending to try to concieve probably within a few months after we get married, so hopefully around this time next year I will be pregnant.

Since all of this has begun being "real" -- ie. We are about to hand in the Fiance Visa applications and papers to Immigration, we are starting to make plans for the wedding, the school year is coming to an end and I'm preparing to move to the US once the visa is approved, general talk between semi and I about kids and our future -- My maternal instincts have been SKY ROCKETING!

And I'm not even pregnant yet! LOL

Have any of you ever felt that way, pre-wedding or as newlyweds? Suddenly having this totally new aspect of life (marriage and family) opening up to you and revealing itself to you (which to me personally is a dream come true, and I could not have found a better man to make this dream come true for me!)? This new exciting adventure and future? hopes and dreams, hormones and putting a little pillow or soccer ball under your shirt wondering what you're going to look like this time next year (well, I havent ACTUALLY done it, but I thought of trying it out LOL).

Or am I just a crazy lady?


Your not alone. When my husband Chris proposed and the day for the wedding approached closer and closer I got the "nesting/maternal bug" real bad! It has died down abit but for the first 3-4 months before the actual marriage I talked about babies, I pointed out baby stuff, I craved a baby! That feeling died down a bit and I got some very sage advice from mothers about being newlyweds and I'll pass this advice on to you...

Enjoy the marriage a little before jumping into kids...you have plenty of time because kids WILL change everything about a marriage. The time that you have before kids is considered by many with kids to be most precious and valuable. I was told to enjoy it while it lasts!

Having given you now the advice I was given, I say do whatever is in your hearts to do. Chris is of the mind that he would like to cover the bases of a house, a secure job, and a savings started before we begin expanding our family and as our 1st year anniversary approaches I can say that I'm glad that we haven't jumped into the family but not couple feels the same about how the approach to having children should go so this is just my experience with it.

Good Luck to you both and Congratulations Morr!!!

[DreamSpell333]

I felt that way before i had hannah.. My husband and I had been engaged a year after we met,and I started thinking about children,and wanting to have a baby with my husband to be.. My maternal clock started ticking very fast,and being pregnant was ALL i could think about.. When we first started trying..( we figured, were getting married anyhow..lets start now and see what comes first haha) when I got my period,it was so devastating that I wasnt pregnant yet.. Took us 10 months..she came Before the wedding,and we couldnt have been more thrilled..it was truly amazing. We got married the folling june(she was born in september) ,and she got to be a part of our wedding :) but for most people they like to be married before they try..

I congratulate you on your engagement/future wedding,and to your future together.. And future pregnancy (OH!)..Before you start to try to concieve,make sure you take prenatal vitamins with Folic acid! ( I'm telling everyone now,since olivia!) :D (((HUGE HUGS)))

DS

[Amythyst]

I felt that way from my mid teens on. I couldnt wait to be a mother! I wish now we had waited at least a year before TTC because it would have been nice to do some couple stuff before doing all the family stuff. All in all, though I think its better when you are younger so you arent old and tired when your kids are growing up and having their own babies.


I agree. I have had babies when I was very young and my last two babies were born when I was in my forties. I'm about as old and tired as you can get! And I'm babied out. I will probably be the worst grandmother in the world, whenever that day comes.

I figured it out once...I've had babies in four different decades and two different centuries.

To Morr-- what you are feeling is absolutely normal. That's the way most
women are wired biologically. And I can remember feeling the same way. And no, you are not crazy, but after you have a few kids you might be.:toofless:

[HetHert]

So as you may know, semicivilizedman and I are planning to get married this fall.

We both want to raise a family and are intending to try to concieve probably within a few months after we get married, so hopefully around this time next year I will be pregnant.

Since all of this has begun being "real" -- ie. We are about to hand in the Fiance Visa applications and papers to Immigration, we are starting to make plans for the wedding, the school year is coming to an end and I'm preparing to move to the US once the visa is approved, general talk between semi and I about kids and our future -- My maternal instincts have been SKY ROCKETING!

And I'm not even pregnant yet! LOL

Have any of you ever felt that way, pre-wedding or as newlyweds? Suddenly having this totally new aspect of life (marriage and family) opening up to you and revealing itself to you (which to me personally is a dream come true, and I could not have found a better man to make this dream come true for me!)? This new exciting adventure and future? hopes and dreams, hormones and putting a little pillow or soccer ball under your shirt wondering what you're going to look like this time next year (well, I havent ACTUALLY done it, but I thought of trying it out LOL).

Or am I just a crazy lady?


Your not alone. When my husband Chris proposed and the day for the wedding approached closer and closer I got the "nesting/maternal bug" real bad! It has died down abit but for the first 3-4 months before the actual marriage I talked about babies, I pointed out baby stuff, I craved a baby! That feeling died down a bit and I got some very sage advice from mothers about being newlyweds and I'll pass this advice on to you...

Enjoy the marriage a little before jumping into kids...you have plenty of time because kids WILL change everything about a marriage. The time that you have before kids is considered by many with kids to be most precious and valuable to the relationship as a couple. I was told to enjoy it while it lasts!

Having given you now the advice I was given, I say do whatever is in your hearts to do. Chris is of the mind that he would like to cover the bases of a house, a secure job, and a savings started before we begin expanding our family and as our 1st year anniversary approaches I can say that I'm glad that we haven't jumped into the family but not every couple feels the same about how the approach to having children should go so this is just my experience with it. I have really enjoyed being selfish with our time together. And he is the same. We're still so addicted to each other that people see us as a unit rather than seperate individuals sometimes. So I'm learning to appreciate this one to one intimacy while it lasts.

Good Luck to you both and Congratulations Morr!!!

[DixieWitch]

ok for one thing, I've been gone away for so long, I had no idea you were getting married!! CONGRATS!!! And 2, no you're not weird. I think any "normal" girl who has those kind of plans in the near future goes through that too. I went through it before I got married and before my kids were born. I started going through it a couple months before we had even discussed getting pregnant this time around. You think it's bad now, jsut wait until the wedding is almost here. Or when you really get down to business about really trying to get pregnant!! Good luck!!

[Tanya]

So there I was bare foot and pregnant at the altar, planning to marry a man I barely knew and move away from a great job, mountains I loved and a family that was if not fully functioning..., warm and supportive.. I thought I was going to have to run away and vomit from fear... I stood there shaking and holding back tears.... and did it. no one who has really done marriage and kids will tell you its a breeze... but for all the horror .... it is good.

[Silvan]

Or am I just a crazy lady?Probably not crazy, but I can't put myself in your place either. I can't imagine planning pregnancy, and hoping for it, and all that stuff. People do that? Wow.

Oh well, this is not my story, it's your story. So go write it. It sounds like you two are heading down a good road to me, and I think you'll do fine, even if you are a little bit crazy. Aren't we all?

Hee hee hee hoooooooooooo!

(If you don't get that, you will. You wiiilllllll! </Yoda>)